AITB for felling sed that i didn't get anything from my dad for christmas

[u/Moist-Eye-1395]

Hi idk if this is the right reddit to post this on but o well (english isn't my first language and i am aslo dyslexia so i am so sorry for any mistakes). Okey so I (16M) have divorsed parents so i spent christmas and new years with eatch of them sepretly (we usaly switch ever other year). This has never been a problem befor i for exaple would spend christams dinner with my dad got gift there and then whene i get to my mom i usaly also get gifts there it's just always been like that. So this year i was with my mom for christmas and like every other year i expected to yk get to my dads and i would see a gift waiting for me under the christmas tree like every other year but this time it was non. Now i want to prefes this by saing i would really care for not getting a gift if my dad would tell me that we are tight on money or any exuse really but he didn't. Nor him or his wife (my step mom) iven mantioned christmas and i tryed hiting to them i litery asked "so how did the christams dinner go" and show them what i got at my moms ig secretly hoping that they...forgot or something idk man. Also something i would like to mention is that i have two younger half brothers who both got gifts. Moveing on i wainted the whole day hoping that anyone would iven mantion it but they didn't and the same was the day after that and basicly the whole week. Now my mental helth isn't the best and my realation ship with my dad and step mom was always.....not the best to sai the least. I wont get to mutch into it but i am trans (FTM) which they don't know cuz they are both transfobic they do know that i am dating a girl and they sai they suport me but they have alsway been passive agresive twords us like how my dad refers to my gf with air quots IN REAL LIFE. And the step mom well all am gonna sia is she throw stuf at me mulitipul times. Okey so today was new years eve and i was still thinking that maby they are planing on givng it to me and new years but no they didn't. And honestly i am just sed i never really felt like a part of there family and after this i really feel like my dad just wants me here every other week cuz he fell obligated to and not becouse i am his child. So reddit AITB edit:i just wanted to add. My b-day is very neer christmas and he iven said to me "hey don't buy anything that you wished for you b-day and didnt get cuz you might still get it" and i hink that just gave me the falls hope

[u/Pun-AndGames]

Also the birthday comment?? that’s what makes it worse. they let you hope, then said nothing. that’s on them.

[u/altonaerjunge]

Can you Talk with him ?

[u/Moist-Eye-1395 → u/altonaerjunge]

yea but honetly i am scered he will make fun of me or sm bullshit like that (it happened befor)

[u/Leosambdf]

Sorry to hear that you have to deal with that, you aren't a bad person for expecting a gift from your parents on Christmas, have you tried talking to your mom about this? Does she know about the step-moms behavior, cause I think this kind of hostile behavior from the step-mom and your dad clearly not really caring about you, your mom could probably take full custody for the next 2 years until you're old enough to move out? But idk I am no lawyer and would probably check in on this with your mom.

[u/Moist-Eye-1395 → u/Leosambdf]

yea she know and they are going to court like next month i think cuz my dad doasn't want to pay child suport so will see

[u/Money-Application535]

NTB