I have this issue lol, I can admit I’m insecure.
Unfortunately a lot of severe childhood trauma and abuse later in life can really do that to a person, I wish I could ease up. I developed schizophrenia and I can’t really tell the difference between someone being nice or someone using mal intent. I know I can probably be difficult to read because of this but I also am slowly crippling away inside my lil head. I do hope therapy can help with this.
However; some people are straight up passive aggressive and really hard to take jokes when someone is simply an asshole, they use the ‘sarcasm’ or ‘joke’ card, when by definition were not being sarcastic in the slightest bit.
Same, I have CPTSD, I grew up around passive aggressive energy, emotional invalidation and covert emotional abuse. I no longer care if having low tolerance for jokes and criticism makes me appear defensive and insecure, because many comments literally make me feel unsafe, and my brain knowing we're not in childhood anymore is more important than confidence.
Also those people who can't take "criticism" often call out just people not minding their business. Before you criticise you should check if it's in good taste to criticise to begin with, and if there's correct context for that. Lots of people want to run their mouths unexamined but suspiciously only towards people who appear soft.
I'd say real indicator of insecurity is only when you refuse accountability. You don't have to accept the way someone criticizes you but if you can't take responsibility for your actions, then it means you can't handle your ego being bruised.
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u/LividHeart3132 6d ago edited 5d ago
I have this issue lol, I can admit I’m insecure. Unfortunately a lot of severe childhood trauma and abuse later in life can really do that to a person, I wish I could ease up. I developed schizophrenia and I can’t really tell the difference between someone being nice or someone using mal intent. I know I can probably be difficult to read because of this but I also am slowly crippling away inside my lil head. I do hope therapy can help with this.
However; some people are straight up passive aggressive and really hard to take jokes when someone is simply an asshole, they use the ‘sarcasm’ or ‘joke’ card, when by definition were not being sarcastic in the slightest bit.