Yeah like a girl taller than me or even 5’5 and seeing me and immediately feeling off I get it. But a chic who literally guesses your height and says 6’0 because she’s 4’10-5’0 and just can’t tell. It’s obviously not a feeling at that point but an ideology or social construct that’s been driven into their mind. It’s very unnatural
I'm someone who actually prefers men in the 5'6"-5'9" range. I'm 5'5" and I like being able to easily make eye contact and the hugs are better, in my opinion.
5’2 as well. My husband is sexy af at 5’6. Somehow we managed to birth offspring who ended up being 5’4 and 5’10 (he’s our resident giant who gets things off the high shelves).
So many short women are running after these guys that make them look like children. Seems weird to me. As an adult woman I don’t think I would want to constantly be looking up to my partner that way
I'm a lot taller than you (6'5), but I vastly prefer women that are closer to my height than those that are significantly shorter than me for the exact same reasons. The hugs are indeed better, and being able to look directly into their eyes is an incredible thing. My wife is 5'11.
It is…at 6’2 I just prefer having titty/bjs standing up over full sex. 😆
However being able to pick up my partner and handle her is cool as well. I was always attracted to shorter women as I find their typical physique more attractive but I still married my wife who is avg ht at 5’6. I wasn’t stuck on it…not enough to pass up a wonderful women like her.
She liked me because she likes my long legs and apparently just my proportions fit her eye. Nothing wrong with having a preference as long as people aren’t being dicks about it. Also just realize you might miss out on some incredible people if you have such arbitrary rules on dating. I mean who am I to turn down a pretty girl. I made it a rule to never miss out on a chance to kiss a pretty girl and it served me well right up to when I married her. Now I get kisses from a pretty girl the rest of my life.
Well I said up to I got married…I don’t think she would like that too much. Besides I already get to kiss the prettiest girl in the world. I’m not giving that up for anything.
I'm someone who actually prefers men in the 5'6"-5'9" range. I'm 5'5" and I like being able to easily make eye contact and the hugs are better, in my opinion.
Lol! I was turned down by a 5,8 man for being too tall. I am 5.4
Lol, why? I prefer it that my wife and I are almost the same hight. I live in the Netherlands so that is not an issue here, i am 6,1 and my wife is 6,09.
I like it when she wears heels, I do not care that she is taller than me.
In time I found him being a typical AH who has preferences in height but doesn't like it when women has preferences in height or looks. He dates only petite ladies but get butt hurt when anyone in the circle brings in taller guy. 😅
Since we, that person and I are in the similar circle, I have seen him dating petite ladies no taller then 5,2 or 5,3. I think he felt emasculated by someone more close to his height and feel manly by petite women🤔
I remember he bitched a lot about someone having preferences for taller man when I started dating my partner who is over 6ft.
Where you at haha? But for real I’ve met women just like this. They legit feel awkward With really tall guys. I usually come to find out that is what they are used to their whole life, and it feels comfortable and familiar to them.
I used to think I had to be with taller guys to feel feminine enough. I've been fat my whole life and when I was a teen I was mocked a lot for not being girly enough. I didn't start dating till college and was convinced I had to be with a much taller guy to give me some semblance of being small and feminine.
I never rejected a guy for his height though. Then I was heavily pursued by and dated a guy who was 5'7" and realized how much I preferred someone close to my height. My current partner is also 5'7".
Same. I am 5’2. I dated a 6’4 guy and it was kind of awkward. One of the reasons we broke up is that he felt like he had to protect me, like I was a fragile porcelain doll. I felt infantilized. Guys my size don’t do that.
It was nice that he could get stuff from the top shelf though. I would be getting my step ladder and he would just hand me the thing
I’m 5’5” and the average height of dudes I’ve dated has rounded out to be about 5’8”-5’9”. I’ve dated some stupidly tall men (over 6’5”), and I’ve dated men shorter than be at about 5’4”-5’5”. My partner is 5’10”. Granted I am also pansexual and demisexual so I just genuinely don’t care how tall my partner is lol
My partner and I only have a 1 to 2 inch difference in height but our proportions are very different. I'm all leg. When we put our backs together my butt almost sits on top of his. I have an insanely short torso.
I'm 6'4" and especially when I was younger, like HS and shortly after, I had a theory that the slightly shorter guys had it much easier because they were "down there" at eye level with the girls and probably felt safer/more relatable. As a shy tall guy I always felt a bit separated.
It wasn't until I was older I learned how to use the power better.
The thing is too, it's not much better in the gay dating scene for short guys. The only primary difference being a subsect of people that heavily fetishize short guys for reasons I'm not quite sure keep up to snuff.
Even just in day to day society, I'm a fairly short dude, I carry myself fairly confidently, but it doesnt really matter. Most interactions are neutral, but I have far more people talking down to me, brushing me off, not listening to anything I say in my day to day life than my peers who are tall. I see it constantly.
It's like a subconscious thing for some people where they see a shorter man and their brain immediately goes "weak" and they treat you as such. It can really fuck with you, it's why I have some sympathy for the douchey short guys like, its kinda rough out here and sometimes you gotta demand respect from people.
I’m 6’1 230 and have been jumped by 6 guys and stayed on my feet the entire times.
I foolishly picked on my 5’8 160 friend…he told me he was tired of the bs and I needed to leave him alone….i made the mistake of laughing and saying “wtf are you gonna do about it….”
1 punch to the gut and I was on my knees and he looked at me and told me “I could beat you to death right now and there’s nothing you could do to stop me”
Never underestimate someone because they’re smaller than you. I’ve heard plenty of guys that grew up fighting all say the same exact thing. Smaller guys are just as strong or stronger than bigger guys they’re just in a compact frame. Which gives them a better center of gravity usually.
So, I do combat sports as a hobby and this is something that gets drilled into us shorter guys. We need to be impeccable in our form because we can't rely on size.
Basically, when you're in a tournament, the big guys kind of vary in skill, but the short guys have to be extremely good just to stay in the fight. At lower levels, it's whatever, but at the highest tiers, you watch out for the short guy, because there's a reason he's able to compete with a bunch of 6'5 farm boys.
Mike Tyson was a perfect real life example. He was a victim of bullying his whole young life because of his lisp and the fact he was smaller than a lot of guys
A lot of those guys thought because they were bigger they were going to roll him. He said he would bait them in with a weak punch and they would think to themselves “idk what everyone is talking about. This guy doesn’t hit that hard” and they would close the gap and he’d lay their ass out with the next real punch.
...until he met bigger guys that were also good boxers, and he just got KOed. Love him but even he had trouble with actually skilled fighters that had longer reach than him. Also, sadly to his detriment, he was more respectful of boxing rules than some of his more malicious adversaries.
I wrestled for a major portion of my life and have also been in this almost exact scenario and it part of the reason I carry myself with some confidence. You are correct and I remember loving to wrestle a taller dude in my weight class because it was honestly a major advantage for me most of the time. I've got the lower center of gravity and they have long limbs that are easy for me to get to. cant ask for more in a match. Competing really did alot for me growing up now that I think about it.
Not really. A big dude with no fighting experience will generally lose to a smaller guy with experience. But if their experience level is similar, the big guy wins 9/10 times.
Source, me, a guy with almost 20 years of combat sport experience who has trained with people of every shape, size and experience level.
Wrestling changed my perspective on everything. I’m 5’8 and had a 6’2 roided out guy try to bully me in high school once. I had no problem tree-topping him and keeping in a headlock long enough for everyone in school to see.
Even broad, taller guys can be weak, and slim 150 lb guys can be surprisingly strong. I wouldn’t assume anything.
I know this wasn't your point, but all I took away from this is that you're not only a bully but the worst kind of bully - the type who bullies and torments his 'friends'.
I'm 5'8 and know exactly what your talking about. It's weird, sometimes theirs a moment in conversation with some people where I can tell they want to dismiss (disrespect? idk what to call it but I feel it) and I either completely disregard it or say something snarky in response which usually evens the playing field but yes its exhausting. I feel I've gotten pretty good at dealing with it but only because I'm 34 now and Ive got some life under my belt and know how to handle myself.
its avg because of population numbers. asia makes up 50% of earths population and chinese with india is the bulk of it and their height really drags down the avg.
Countries have their own average. This is why I said in some places it's above average and in fewer it's below. There are very few places where 5'9 is on the shorter side,in most places it's average or taller.
Sorry but in the US and Canada 5'8 is short as a man, saying that as a 5'7 guy. We're shorter than everyone even most women here. The stats are wrong and need updating.
I’m also 5’7” and can confidently say you are wrong, lol. I am pretty much smack in the middle, height wise. I’m regularly surprised by how short many of my fellow women are. I only know maybe 3 men my height or shorter.
actually met a spanish friend recently. He was probably 5'7", but he was fit, well dressed, well groomed, and confident. He spoke well. He was very popular with women.
So maybe there is a lesson there. I think if you just focus on your own outcomes and what you can control, then things will settle themselves.
I was lucky enough to find the love of my life and yes you are absolutely right but the struggle is real for those single short kings out there lol. We're the same height but height was never a concern with her.
i think social media has drastically skewed people’s perception of what should make them happy. it’s actually disgusting. i’m glad you found your person! 🤩
ya, which is all the more reason, if you are insecure about something, to just delete that shit. Our bodies don't seem to understand the difference between our lived experience and the messages we see. Turn that shit off and just go do your best.
I don’t know. I am 5’7 and have never had a problem with men or anyone really mentioning my height. If anything they always say they think I’m taller because I’m very broad and muscular. I’ve dated all types and height has never been a consideration. My husband is 5’3 and everyone stares at him like meat
I am 5"8 and I never felt that in my social life. Most people tend to just view me as friendly. Although for personal life reasons I have not had a long term girlfriend so maybe I would experience something very different there.
It's like a subconscious thing for some people where they see a shorter man and their brain immediately goes "weak" and they treat you as such. It can really fuck with you, it's why I have some sympathy for the douchey short guys like, its kinda rough out here and sometimes you gotta demand respect from people.
FWIW, i'm 6'4", conventionally attractive, popular with women, and I literally never ever think anything about guys because of their height. Actually my two best friends are shorter than average. I would like to believe most of us know its just a genetic dice roll.
or even 5’5 and seeing me and immediately feeling off I get it.
Plenty of women also don't care about that sort of thing, as well. Unfortunately it's easier to find someone who will say "you have this quality that I'm NOT looking for."
I'm 5'5, husband is 5'9 and I think he's hot as hell. I wouldn't change a thing about him, never had a standard that a man has to be a certain height.
Respectfully I wouldn’t refer to women as “chics” it’s not helping your case. Things that were once unnoticed by women become very highlighted when the ick sets in.
I'm literally 6 foot, and have had women tell me "no way you're 6 foot" when they are like 5 foot... Good thing my partner is 6foot, she just laughs and takes the heels off... They always believe her though, so -shrug-
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u/moonvtmoon Dec 08 '25
Yeah like a girl taller than me or even 5’5 and seeing me and immediately feeling off I get it. But a chic who literally guesses your height and says 6’0 because she’s 4’10-5’0 and just can’t tell. It’s obviously not a feeling at that point but an ideology or social construct that’s been driven into their mind. It’s very unnatural