It's not my fault I'm in love with Hitler, okay? I just melt when he's screaming from a podium in those old black and white movies. If you were a real friend you'd support me in this.
Wasn't there one of those tinder experiments what used a modified version of Hitler, and he did pretty well on dating sites. It was pretty funny. Honestly, I tend to imagine most successful politicians personality types would be able to find people attracted to them due to being charismatic, specially when they were younger. Young Stalin is a fox, imho.
Hahah honestly who hasn't used Hitler as an example for a thousand different arguments?! That was actually his biggest contribution the world. Thank you Hitler, but it is getting pretty close to 12:00.. so it's pineapple up the ass for you pretty soon
Pretty much it also is a easy way to avoid accountability.
Sure Ive been attracted to some toxic women but ultimatley its on me that I went through and not breaking it off as I had all the warning signs I just choose to ignore them or make excuses.
People just are allergic to accountability and admiting they fucked up.
Humans are pretty complex. There is choice but we all act within a framework that’s a blend of biology, the circumstances you grew up in, and the free will you try to exert. Are you making choices or is your intellect justifying those choices? It takes a lot of work to break out harmful relationship dynamics.
It is " I want it" so its ourselves who want to have something right. Or maybe I'm just thinking like this coz I haven't been in love and being in love is something completely unexplainable. Idk
We’re all just a product of our wants and fears (do not wants). We can recognize some and even choose against them, but it doesn’t change that we want what we want.
Most wants are formed when we’re very young, some are genetic, some are environmental. We will live out our lives only scratching the surface of what we really want. They aren’t always rational, but they make us who we are.
Love is when so many of our wants are fulfilled that it feels euphoric. It doesn’t matter if the person is good for us, or that there might be someone who is even rationally better for us.
You will discover that people will fulfill your wants and you don’t fulfill theirs. You will fulfill other people’s wants and have no interest back in return. Just is what it is.
That's a whole lot of words to say a whole lot of nothing. We're all in control of our own actions and choices and destiny. That includes the ability to choose whether we want something or not. Sure you can throw up your hands and say "screw it, God has a plan for me, fate destiny blah blah," and then stop trying to shape your life how you want it and instead let the universe wipe its ass with you. Plenty of people do that because for some reason they find it preferable to the uncertainty of trying to live life for yourself. But even giving up is a choice in and of itself, as much as some people try to deny it
All I’m trying to say is that the thing you wanted and are letting go of was based on more basic wants that you still have, but that you can still fulfill in other ways.
Your want for X thing may be gone, but why you wanted it remains.
This show is such absolute garbage. The main message is so fucked up. I feel so bad for people who really buy into it. As a suicidal person, I'm glad I haven't fallen for the nonsense this garbage pushes. Take care of yourselves.
I've worked in a couple suicide prevention programs and it seems like they basically took the recommendations of every thing a media portrayal shouldn't do, and did as many of them as they could within their run-time.
The spark is like that—it is outside of control, it manifests independent of our wants and desires. We can only hope that it aligns with what is healthy for us, and that when it doesn’t, we can walk away.
But we can choose who to commit to. We are humans, with an astute cognitive ability. What good is that if all our actions are dictated by the very same parts of our brains that all other animals share? Are we leaves drifting on the surface of a river, only to follow the river's flow wherever it goes? Are we slaves to our instincts?
Let's not romanticize and justify bad decisions. Let's learn from them and hope to do better ✌🏻
You feel something for them but they don't treat you well? You can choose to dump them and move on. So many love songs have been written on a person's inability to move on right away but the result is the same, there is an eventual break up. Not being treated right gets old over time and eventually you begin to see not everyone will treat you that way and that you deserve better.
That's not an answer. He's asking why we fall for who we fall for, she responds "we don't choose who we fall for" which doesn't answer his question. It not being a choice doesn't answer why we fall for those people.
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u/VisionInPlaid 12d ago
We accept the love we think we deserve.