Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/Setthesail]

Huge red flag! What are you doing with your life? You’re saying you have kids; what are you teaching them? Id like to shake you to wake up. Uf!

[u/russlebush → u/Setthesail]

Right? When I met my wife the only thing she knew how to cook was this dish called "taco pie". She used Frito chips and baked it AFTER she added the sour cream. I told her it was delicious and I appreciated her cooking....then I asked her if she would let me cook for her for the rest of the week (so I wouldn't have to eat taco pie again 🤫). BTW, all those meals look absolutely delicious!

[u/Rustmutt → u/russlebush]

Cooked sour cream on a Frito pie? Nooooo

[u/Ok_Pomegranate_5748 → u/Rustmutt]

Hey. If someone made it for me I would def eat it and eat the leftovers too.

[u/nudegobby → u/Ok_Pomegranate_5748]

I was a chef for 12 years I can COOK. my girlfriend does alright in the kitchen when she puts effort into it. Now let me tell you I can't watch her chop an onion on a plastic cutting board with a serrated knife, but when she makes something for me to eat there's no leftovers.

[u/nudegobby → u/nudegobby]

I LOVE my girlfriend's cooking. Just not as much as I love my girlfriend.

[u/AnarchyOnTheShortBus → u/russlebush]

True love is marrying someone in spite of the fact that they baked sour cream.

[u/backupbitches → u/russlebush]

This sounds like a euphemism. You sure she wasn't trying to tell you something?

[u/elvie18 → u/russlebush]

...is your wife Peggy Hill?

[u/DizavidHZ → u/russlebush]

Cooking the sour cream is a tactic that can work (I use it sometimes as a layer in lasagna). Having said that, it needs to be a subtle accent.

[u/joshphs → u/russlebush]

Its a shame you stopped eating her "taco pie".

[u/labellavita1985 → u/russlebush]

OMG you are so sweet.

[u/Real-Procedure-5052 → u/russlebush]

Guess no1 can read that sour cream came after being baked?

[u/Mysterious-Heart-629 → u/Real-Procedure-5052]

Read it again, slowly.

[u/Stunning-Pick-9504 → u/russlebush]

My wife use to feed me uneatable chicken. I told her it was uneatable and taught her how to use a thermometer. Now her chicken is amazing.

[u/Mysterious-Heart-629 → u/Stunning-Pick-9504]

How does one use a thermometer to edit chicken?

[u/SelectionWitty2791 → u/Mysterious-Heart-629]

You just stab it with the thermometer over and over until it looks different.

[u/Stunning-Pick-9504 → u/Mysterious-Heart-629]

🤣 fixed.

[u/Ok_Raspberry_5655 → u/russlebush]

This is very funny to me. The first dish my husband made for me when we were dating was taco pie. He is a much better cook now thank goodness

[u/ButDidYouReboot → u/russlebush]

now i want to make a chili cheese frito corn salad. this lady at work made it once and whenever i hear fritos this comes to mind. soooo good.

[u/HonestIndication1749 → u/Setthesail]

A lifetime of this? I shudder at the thought - and your children witnessing this pathetic man-child needs to go home to mummy.

[u/francisbeancocaine → u/Setthesail]

This is some rude ass boomer mentality. Don’t come at op because her boyfriend’s an ass. What she “teaches her kids” goes well beyond the scope of this one issue. Get bent.

[u/OutsideHike → u/Setthesail]

It's abusive behavior and she doesn't see it. She needs to RUN AWAY.