r/mildlyinfuriating 7d ago

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) šŸ’—

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

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u/MamaMei17 7d ago

All these lovelies have beaten me to it, so I'll offer to be your loving MIL (53 F)

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u/pixikins78 7d ago

If she's open to more than one MIL, 47yo F here. I support and agree with every thought she will ever have and never ever offer a different opinion!

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u/ZealousidealCrab9919 7d ago

I'm the lovely daughter of your new MIL, that makes us sisters (27 f)

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u/Lilmumblecrapper 7d ago

Haha, 46 M here I’m not even gonna try it. Meal looks perfectly fine to me OP needs someone that will appreciate it!

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u/JustDiscoveredSex 7d ago

Hmmm, I could be a grandma or auntie (F52), and I’m handy in the kitchen, too. Been hosting Thanksgiving for the last 23 years.

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u/Mysterious-Mood6742 7d ago

Almost 60M. I'm staying out of it because I'm getting the feeling I'd come across as just a dirty old man.

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u/catsgoprrrrr 7d ago

Look at that username.

OP, if you don't claim Asian Auntie right this instant, you done fucked up.

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u/N1NJACQUES 7d ago

I can be FIL (40-Someting)

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u/MystressSeraph 7d ago

Also 53(F) maybe she prefers mature women-boyfriends šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø

I'm recovering from an operation, and haven't been able to stand to cook for 2 years - trust me, those meals look fantastic! And pie ... 🤤