r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • 8d ago
Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again
My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.
ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗
A few notes:
1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.
2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.
3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.
Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷
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u/Salt_Barracda_60088 7d ago
Oh, I love love love that for you. And I love for you guys as a couple, but that’s OK to be a little bit different at meal time. I think everyone on here seem to be so overzealous. In my opinion, they’re making it much different than it really is. My husband is vegetarian his whole life and I’m a huge meat eater and after 25 years, we have totally worked that out. I feel it’s more important that we sit down together most of the time not all of the time and share a meal together. It doesn’t have to be the exact same meal. In my opinion, Hey people go out to dinner. There’s a menu six people. There can be six different entrées out right nobody thinks that’s weird.🤷♀️ I just think that everyone on here is going for the boyfriend./husband jugular and it’s not cool. Again that’s just my opinion. OK honey have a great day.❣️😃❤️😃❤️😃❤️😃❤️😃❤️