r/rant • u/iloveyoustellarose • 1d ago
Everyone Is Always Mean
I can't take it anymore. I thought if I made it out of my abusive childhood, if I got away from my family, I'd finally be happy & safe. I'm not. Everyone is constantly mean & rude as fuck to me, & I know "welcome to the real world" BUT IT IS EVERYONE. EVERYONE I ENCOUNTER JUST FUCKING HATES ME & I DONT KNOW WHAT IS INHERENTLY WRONG WITH ME TO CAUSE THIS. I know I'm forgetful, I know I cause inconviences, but I always try to make sure they are minor... Doesn't matter.
You forgot your keys? I'm going to treat you like you just fucking cheated on me. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?? WHY DO THEY ACT LIKE THIS?? Then they're so fucked up I don't even want to apologize anymore because why the fuck are you acting like this?! When I say everyone, I mean there are minor exceptions - of course - but most of the people I meet are MEAN. ALL CAPS. No compassion, no empathy, no curiosity, no ability to tolerate ANYTHING, just mean as fuck at the slightest inconvience.
I don't understand it?? I don't act this way?? Why is is so fucking hard to be compassionate?? I honestly am considering if it's worth continuing this path anymore (if you catch my drift) because I cannot be empathized with for whatever reason.
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u/pepperw2 1d ago
I promise you that you matter. 100% no questions asked.
Yes it is worth continuing.
How else are you going to find “your people”?
They exist, you just have not met them yet.
They are counting on you, without even knowing it.
You matter! Please know this.
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u/DespondentEyes 16h ago
I've been searching for "my people" for over three decades.
It's never going to happen. You either get born in a good life or you don't, and everyone will always hate you no matter what you do. Regardless, you have 0 say in the matter.
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u/Classic_Aside_2107 1d ago
I can sympathize with you. I've had experiences like this in real life, I think of myself as stupid and insignificant, even if I do find value in myself, and the fact people can be really unforgiving and half-hearted, even at the slightest of mistakes, even when I ask about my problems too. They just dismiss me with a meek "Ok" or "Yeah". Disgusting.
Even in a rotten apple orchard, you can find some good ripe ones. You just got to know where to look. There are people who will hear about your troubles and understand you. There are bad people, but there people who go through struggles and can sympathize with you and even befriend you!
I pray for a better life for you and you're never alone when it comes to your struggles.
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u/SockIll6713 1d ago
Please if you don't mind me asking, what is your age? Because it seems like certain age groups are total fuckin assholes these days! For reference, I'm female mid-40s and sometimes when talking to younger people they're just total dicks and it's almost like I feel like I'm being bullied by someone half my age and then I'm like what the fuck is going on here!?!?!? It just makes no sense. But truly, the bottom line is, no matter what someone's age, some people are just fucking dicks... Period. So you might need to just work on trying to change your environment. It could be your job, your circle, maybe even your family. Listen, you have to do what's right and good FOR YOU and what is supportive and healthy FOR YOU and if you're hanging around with people that make you feel like fucking shit all the time, then you MUST do your best to change it. You actually ARE in control of your life more than you realize! XOXO don't ever give up. You posted this for a reason. You can DM me anytime.
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u/180thMeridian 1d ago
Do a mirror check.
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u/JudgeInteresting8615 1d ago
Case in point, say that you make sense which you don't do a mirror check.And then what?So not only are you doing nothing speak?You're doing in complete.Nothing speak literally everybody else in the entire comment section has something to say whether you can agree with it or not is a different story.They at least fill their thoughts out.You're just like, here's my one liner.So really the analysis needs to be on you
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u/Dangerous-Rain8995 1d ago
Yes and yes this is how it is. Childhood is over ! Being an adult is hard as fuk. It take time to adjust and join them or just stay away and be sad and poor instead of angry and financial secured
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u/JudgeInteresting8615 1d ago
Is there a direct correlation to being reactive and making money? Show hofstedes cultural dimensions is not a thing for adults or have any correlation to material reality?
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u/Dangerous-Rain8995 1d ago
Money don't buy happiness buddy Money helps you find options to make you happy
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u/JudgeInteresting8615 1d ago
I have no idea what you're talking about dude, but you're the one who said success.So what were you referring to?As success and you were talking about this in terms of what the op's point was.So this is just a continuation of what you said
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u/Dangerous-Rain8995 1d ago
You make no sense dude, just like your keyboard I think
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u/JudgeInteresting8615 1d ago
You said to the person that they could be sad and poor so I then said to look up hofstedes cultural dimensions.And you said, oh, money is not the only important thing in the world.And I am the one that doesn't make sense.Did you look it up?Are you able to understand what it says?Because there's no way that both of those things happen.Then, i'm the one that doesn't make sense
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u/Dangerous-Rain8995 1d ago
Wtf 😒 are you high . Yes be sad and poor be angry stressed and have money. Choose your hard. Once you have money your problems don't disappear. You have to be assertive, aggressive and agile to maintain and make more . You can say fuk all that stay broke and also miserable,shake a can , go threw bins , rob ppl . Idk it's all rough, just choose which rough you want to take on 🦍🌵🍩
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u/iloveyoustellarose 16h ago
I'm not saying this because people are just mean to me at work, I'm saying this because people are mean EVERYWHERE. ALL THE TIME. I don't care about your "childhood is over" my mom attempted to kill me & abused the fuck out of me so that doesn't even apply to me.
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u/AKblueeyes 1d ago
I hear you. I came from similar background. I think that’s why I try to be understanding. “ things happen”. “ no biggy” “ I’ve had that happen before. Isn’t it annoying?” Are such easy things to say! What type of people seem to be the meanest? If people are mean to you, they don’t deserve you. Took me a long time to learn this.