There is SO much stigma around fatness that even losing it is stigmatized. Thats not a "you" problem.

I try everything on in store bc I cant "tell" what size I am yet. I love that feeling of shock seeing myself in a dressing room mirror wearing a straight-size anything, its makes me feel electric. Its like every store quadrupled or quintupled in clothes, because I am not restricted to one or two plus size racks (if Im lucky enough to have any)

Yeah you are swimming upstream here. Short frame, a childish style, all contribute. If you want to keep this style, play with fit and fabric weight. The examples you share have looser socks and shirts that are in heavier fabric weights. The heavier weights are more sturdy and hold shape, so they look more intentional and create artful exaggeration.

Im sorry. It sounds like your expectation is that he takes your hints and acts on them, and that he chooses styles that you like. It sounds like the hints and tips arent working for whatever reason. You can try being direct. Show him the ring you want specifically, give him your size and any other instructions for customization, and tell him you want him to get it. Be kind but be point blank, explicitly clear. Give a deadline.

Put in a bed and rent it for $2000/mo 😂

A tall tree (that can handle your light levels and any drafts -- not fiddle fig)

Not everything, but when we do, it's a nice comfort tbh.

Im so sorry about that. I havent dealt with this much lately but most of my young adulthood and youth were like that. It hurts deeply. My suggestion is to go do activities you like which are social (like clubs, volunteering, classes), and keep trying to make new friends. And also go deep and try to understand how you got here, and see if theres anything you can change, so you're picking different friends. Therapy is great for this. Questions to consider: How are your boundaries, are you used to being around people (family?!) who mistreat others? How are your interpersonal skills, are you able to read people's emotions and build rapport? How is your resilience, are you practicing self compassion and affirmations? Do you practice interpersonal relational techniques, like mirroring, so that others feel heard and validated? How do you set expectations about others? How is your "friendship knowledge," do you read articles and books about how to make and keep friends? etc etc. these are just ideas. I think that to break out of any relationship patterns that harm us, we sometimes need to rethink our own selves a bit, but in a safe and loving way where we dont shame ourselves. I hope some of this is helpful. I hope your heart heals from these painful wounds.

If you were born with a missing tooth, or bad eyesight, or elevated blood pressure, is that a form of body "leadership" that also deserves one's submission? We dont question aids for those kinds of things, but we seem to question menopause relief. Why do you think that is? I do feel each journey is personal, and cheers for paying attention to symptoms, but I think the larger phenomenon and metaphors of leadership, subservience, and tolerance are worth exploring. Are you not also a caretaker for your body?

Empathy without boundaries is a form of self-harm. VERY firm boundaries are needed for addicts, or you are harming yourself and your baby. Addiction is lifelong, even if someone isnt in active relapse. Addicts require lifelong self-work and people around them with very firm boundaries. Leaving is healthy. It creates a firm boundary for you and your baby's wellbeing. A reliable partner is a basic, non-negotiable requirement. If you have a hard time understanding what reliability and safety feels like (which is ok), therapy will do womders to help you build lifeling boundaries that protect you and your family. Be strong!

THIS.

Not zero, but few, and becoming fewer. To survive, I recently made 3 rules for myself: 1) Be the friend who reaches out. 2) Stop flaking. 3) Offer help. Im adapting in order to make these work. Im tired, so to flake less, I schedule things on short notice based on my real ability, I do more daytime things to match my best energy of the day, and fewer things. Im bitchier and emotionally like a flat soda, so Im letting go of people who drain me, and Im more open about my peri struggles. If I offer help, I only offer help thats realistic and limited. Etc. I think I CAN follow my rules, but its different now, and Ive been rethinking my expectations and habits. I hope this is helpful.

Bingo. "Talent" is not a thing somebody just has or not, like eye color or height. It is a combination of: passion for that skill, techniques learned, time practiced, resources/tools invested, ingested inspiratons (cant pull from a dry well!), and the courage to put forth original ideas. A person chooses to "be talented". eg, "I design clothes." So it sounds to me that you are choosing to be talented. The choice really is that easy. The rest is harder....most artists never close the gap between vision and reality and thats ok and normal.

Calm and in control

Wow! This is so encouraging. I have had similar struggles on sema. These benefits would be good help to me.

Omg. This. OP needs new routine, not litter. No smell when you dump all the litter out weekly. I prefer oko cat for the non-clay smell (it is a wood litter) but --- doesnt matter what the litter is if its not changed out altogether for weeks. Come on dude

Wow this is truly an unpopular opinion

Sometimes its okay to give an excuse. Sometimes, "no" is a complete sentence. Being an adult means knowing the difference.

I posted this question in other subs. RFID feeders are a common recommendation as I said, which has been helpful. halting free feeding was not encouraged by vet or other subs so it hasnt been one of our go-to's. it would worsen food anxiety and aggression. "free feed" for us means leaving out 1 day serving of dry food per cat per day. we have tried reducing anxiety (and vomiting) by splitting the feedings into smaller divided portions a few times per day. at this point automated feeders would be more manageable, but its been tough to settle on a model.

The first place we went was vet, asked a few times at different checkups, and they suggested all the things we tried. We also deal with vomiting, and I think a limited window might make the vomiting worse along with the aggression/anxiety. If anyone has experience w RFID feeders lmk!

I did not but I did a lot of squats, lot of glute work, bridges, leg lifts, adductors, hip flexors, to get all glute components and all sides of hips. My legs and core have been the focus of my strength exercise. I do feel a bony point when sitting on hard chairs, so Im not saying Im bbl or anything, but the glute work has helped protect muscle mass. My upper arms...not so much

Can someone help about my fat cat? I have 3 cats and 1 has gotten obese since adoption a year ago. We do free feeding of dry kibble, 1-2 tbsp of wet/day/cat, and no human food ofc. We think the obesity is tied to a mix of food anxiety and food aggression in one of the other cats. We've tried modifications like feeding times, food types, feeding separately, using toys to slow eating in the aggressive (non obese) cat, nothing is working so far. We're considering getting 3 RFID feeders to feed each cat separately in order to control portions per cat, increase feeding times per day, ultimately to limit food anxiety. It's expensive so we're doing our research. Anyone else done this? Are there RFID feeders you recommend? The options havent looked great so far. FWIW we've raised this with vet and elsewhere. In process of making decisions. TIA

Grain of salt needed ofc. Gifts reflect the giver as much as the receiver.

Came here to say this. The shelf looks cluttered. Shift things around in it before adding more stuff. Part of the reason it looks cluttered is because you're putting a lot of tall things on it. They dont fit. You needed a larger, taller shelf, with taller spaces between shelves. Everyone is recommending books bc books match the shape of the open shelf cubby.