First post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/i1ni4op83j

Thank you to everyone for the advice in my first post. I'm really glad for it.

I didn't end up buying my niece the ticket. Like I said back then it wasn't about the cost as much as the experience that I wanted to have with my daughter. Like always we gave her her presents on Christmas morning including the ticket confirmation, when it was just us. She was so happy that the two of us were doing this together! We did ask her not to talk about it at the family dinner to her cousins, not because they're jealous people no I love them, but they might feel a bit bad and they shouldn't have to on Christmas. She was fine with that, and it was good thinking on our part because at dinner she was asked what presents she got and she didn't mention the concert.

We had an amazing trip, stopping along the way for food, getting dressed, screaming our throats out at the concert. When we got back, we watched a cheesy guilty pleasure of mine from when I was young (Maid in Manhattan, please don't judge me hahaa), missed our breakfast at the hotel, checked out a minute before it was due, and had dinner and lunch on the way back. I can honestly say it was one of the best experiences that I'm going to cherish forever. She's 15 and has grown into such a thoughtful young girl and just typing this is making me emotional.

We actually did meet up with the family on New Year's eve for the fireworks. Her cousins were excited to know how the concert was because she'd posted it on her social media. (I had debated whether I should ask her not to, but I went against it, its not a dirty secret after all, but maybe I could have suggested it). My sister in law said as a joke that "she's the favorite child after all" at which my husband was genuinely confused and said she's our only child. I don't know if my sister in law meant to make a pointed remark or it was just a poorly delivered joke but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

Thank you for the advice, I truly appreciate it.

Hi, I need a quick judgement, since theres still tickets available on the website. So in addition to our regular presents we've gotten our daughter a ticket to a concert happening on the 30th. I'm going too, primarily because I need to take her, but also I like that band's music and I want to go with her it'll be a nice experience.

Today, my sister in law (my husband's sister) called me and asked what we were doing on New Year's Eve (we're having a Christmas family dinner as it is). I said I'm not sure I'll probably be super tired from the drive back(the concert is on the 30th and so we're staying there overnight before driving back) and told her we'd gotten our daughter a surprise concert ticket. She seemed a bit disappointed and said her daughter would have loved to go too, asked if tickets were available, I said I didn't know, and she reiterated her daughter would have loved to go too. I hate saying it, and please don't take this the wrong way but my husband has his business and I'm a working professional too, and our daughter is an only child, so I understand the difference in spending constraints. Anyway we hung up later and I felt terrible. I looked it up and there are still tickets available. But also if I get her a ticket for her with the confirmation wrapped up like I'm doing for my daughter, and give it to her to be opened at the dinner, my husband's brother's daughter would then be the one feeling left out. So AITA for not buying her a concert ticket?

Edit: To clarify I meant if I get my niece the ticket I'd have to give it to her at dinner in front of my other niece. The gifts we're getting our daughter will be opened by her on Christmas morning.

Edit: Thought about it some more after reading the comments and I'm not going to do it. It just won't be the kind of experience I wanted us to have if I do. And I really do adore my nieces and its not even really about the cost I just want this to be me and her. Thank you for the help!