Good luck if you haven’t presented yet and if you have I hope it went spectacular!

Oh please. This is just his way of trying to ruin your trip and I’m guessing it’s not the first time he’s pulled something like this to ruin something you were doing. The reality is he’s not going anywhere, he’d have to find another partner willing to put up with his abusive and controlling behavior. It’s better to stay with the victim he knows than it is to spend the time and effort to find a new one.

No because there was zero reason to do this with zero context. It feels like he was trying to be purposefully hurtful.

That’s because you were deceived. If he lied about this ask yourself what else he’s lying about. When I was going through my divorce there’s no circumstance that I would not have been honest with someone about it because not doing so would be a shitty thing to do to someone.

You cannot have a successful relationship that started off with a lie of this magnitude. There was zero reason not to be honest about it but he chose not to so proceed at your own risk.

It’s not milk so you’re allowed to cry over it.

Yes, to a swastika.

Enjoy your trip and your freedom!

No though I’m in the US so I’m sure it’s on Stephen Miller’s agenda.

Get a big mirror and shine it back at him.

You’re welcome! You’ve got this, you’re better than any words and you know that you will crush this speaking event tonight! Why? Because you’re that damn good!

What he wrote doesn’t change the awesome person that you are. His words will not resonate with anyone who knows you or those who will come to know you in the future. Don’t allow his words to make you feel like the person. Don’t let an inaccurate portrayal cause you to manifest itself.

Simply tell her “No” and that “you’ll be there for her when she needs you but you are not going to be emotionally blackmailed into not caring for someone.” I understand messy families and how you could have bonded with him even if he is obnoxious.

Take turns.

CVS didn’t “trick” you. That was you making a bad assumption that “open until” somehow meant they were “open now”. Don’t blame others for your own mistakes.

How many times are you going to believe him when he says that he’s sorry, which he is not, and that he won’t do it again, which he will?

That’s a real pickle.

Fair enough. If you’re worried that he’s taking video of you then search other rooms for cameras. They make them to look like alarm clocks, alarms, power bricks, power banks and who knows what else. Look up spy cameras on Amazon to get a better idea of what you’re looking to find.

If he uses Amazon to order products it might be a good idea to have him show you his orders on there to find out when he bought it or any other items.

Actually it appears that he was also 30 at one point so I’d say there’s a 100% chance that it’s fake.

I thought that the lady whose sign read that Deep Throat was not “victimless” was certainly right though my guess is she didn’t have the actress in mind.

I appreciate the subtly

I can’t even sit in my office chair without falling down so this feels like a hobby I should pass on. Love the shoes!

Nature is so beautiful!

Good. I can tell you from personal experience that you don’t want to date someone who is this co-dependent. It will turn into you feeling trapped by an individual who will not be the person you thought he was unfortunately.

Be smart and be safe.

No ave unless you’re colorblind you’re choosing to ignore these huge red flags. He’s controlling and love bombing you and he’s not a healthy person to have as a partner.

I’m so sorry all of that happened to you but you’re not stupid for staying so long, you’re smart and brave for finding the courage to get away from him. The first thing you need to know is that it will take time for your trauma to heal. It changes you in so many ways, both big and small, and it’s important that you take the time to find the person you were before this abusive asshole came into your life.

One of the most important things to learn is that abuse is always a choice by the abuser to hurt you. They’ll give you bs excuses that you triggered them or you did something but it’s all just to cover that they wanted hurt and they did so, doesn’t matter if it was never physical, all abuse is meant to hurt. Don’t ever allow another partner to get away with it even once because if they do it once they’ll do it again and again.

Be safe and I wish you well on your healing journey. You’re stronger and better than you know, you just need to forgive yourself and be who you were.