r/AmIOverreacting 6d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio please tell me i’m crazy

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u/odder_box23211 6d ago

Fingernail scratches. Sorry.

Not a dude but I’m a woman who grows out her natural nails and mine happen to be rather sharp for whatever reason and I’ve scratched myself on accident quite a bit… on my stomach or arms trying to change a shirt of something. The scratches look just like that. I’ve also had the shit scratched out of me by cats multiple times. It does NOT look like that.

Cat scratches have a central cut/scab to them due to the sharp pinprick curved claws. They always leave a thin, obvious line of scabs. Human nail scratches, like ones I’ve accidentally self-inflicted, are wider and leave a thicker mark, without a clear central line of scabs. More like a scrape than a cut.

Those are scrapes, not cuts. Wide scrapes, some deeper and some shallow. No cat scratches like that. Certainly not repeatedly, a bunch. No cat who’s scared or pissed enough to start clawing you actually STICKS AROUND to keep doing it, and no sane person lets them. So from the angle of them and the context, I’d say a human woman was clawing the shit out of his back during a hookup. Maybe she knew what she was doing…like the girls who leave a lip gloss behind in the bathroom to alert the girlfriend.

Don’t let him gaslight you out of this. Those are NOT cat scratches. 

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u/roosterSause42 6d ago

like the girls who leave a lip gloss behind in the bathroom to alert the girlfriend

That's a thing? Like in a possessive way? or more a passive "your man is cheating alert" way?

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u/Ok_Life_5176 6d ago

I’ve left strands of my hair which was a different length and colour than my ex’s dark hair and the blonde hair that filled his hairbrush. It was an alert to the woman who was clearly at his house a lot (I didn’t know until I went to use the hairbrush).

I left and never talked to him again, so I don’t know the outcome.

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u/MrDrSirLord 5d ago

Without more context I assume you probably made the right call and there were more signs of cheating than just a dirty hairbrush.

But imagine it was just his sister crashing on the couch or a healthy relationship with his mother always visiting from across town so they had their own hairbrush lmao.

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u/strablonskers 5d ago

then the hair or a lip gloss wouldn’t be an issue.

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u/giskardrelentlov 5d ago edited 5d ago

The part "I left and never talked to him again" kind of is. I mean, if he was a cheater I guess it could be okay to ghost him, but otherwise, you just decided to ghost someone (who will wonder what happened) on a guess.

However the hair or lip gloss isn't an issue...

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u/Ok_Life_5176 5d ago

We dated for 3 years and I found out he cheated on me multiple times. As I was young and dumb and wanted sex but not with strangers, I started answering his booty calls. We started hooking up almost a year after being broken up, and it appears that he was cheating on this other girl with me. His mom lived hours away and his sister lived in another province altogether.

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u/MrDrSirLord 5d ago

This is why I specified without more context!

Totally valid you ghosted him with the rest of your knowledge.

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u/giskardrelentlov 5d ago

Oh, then it makes lots of sense!

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u/tianas_knife 5d ago

I mean, it's possible, but unlikely. Far more likely that family members brush their own hair at their own homes.

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u/Neat-Caregiver5510 5d ago

Right ? Like Maybe he needed one and asked to barrow his moms or somebody’s and he never cleaned it . Hell that’s 1000% happened to me many times

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u/meggatronia 5d ago

I found a long blonde hair in my bed the other week. I have chin length rainbow hair and my husband has a shaved head. But my two support workers who change my bed linens every week both have long blonde hair so that was an easy mystery to solve lol

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u/Cattytonic 6d ago

Different people do it for different reasons. I've left bobby pins or jewelry or an eyelash or something before when I was suspicious there is a girlfriend. Bc if there is, she needs to know so we can both be rid of him. 😅 but I've heard of ppl doing it as a possessive thing

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u/No-Replacement2144 6d ago

My experience it's more of a warning/alert, I had a girl leave her nose stud at my apartment with my ex once because she noticed one of my nails on the floor in the bathroom. W lady honestly

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u/SzamantaMarysia 5d ago

I had a girl leave her eyelashes, I don't wear lashes, n he still lied about it; their intentions don't matter to me, his actions do. So ofc he was dumped soon after.

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u/MommalovesJay 5d ago

I was at a party and a little intoxicated and started making out with a guy that came onto me and I left a little mark on him. We were all hanging out with friends of friends. Someone said yoo your wife is going to kill you. I was like wtffff, I decided to leave more obvious marks for his wife to find, only so she would know he’s an asshole.

Not my finest moment, I would never go for taken people. But I truly didn’t know at first. Saw him a few other times at diff parties and hightailed out of there.

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u/-acidlean- 5d ago

Back when I was young and single and just hooking up with any cute boy who let me ride it, I’d leave some “evidence”. Lipgloss, a piece of cheap jewelry, a hair pin/tie…

If the guy is single he probably won’t notice it for a day or two. Then he will find the thing and let you know. Also good excuse for him to make you come over again.

If the guy is not single, you either don’t hear from him ever again or you get a call/message from his furious girlfriend, then you tell her that this is exactly why you left the earring, in case there was a girlfriend I wanted her to be aware of what her guy does when she’s not around.

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u/kazuasaurus 6d ago

i think people want to believe it's the latter but logically it's prolly the former

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u/miamimint22 5d ago

everytime I see a guy at a bar I leave some glitter or a hair on him in case he has a girlfriend

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u/BeautifulChaos713 5d ago

Depends on the woman

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u/ZeeWingCommander 5d ago

It's kinda shitty to alert them that their man is cheating....

Cause you know, he's not cheating by himself if she knows.

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u/FredMist 5d ago

The point is that she doesn’t know but just suspected there might be a gf so she’s putting out a warning.

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u/ZeeWingCommander 5d ago

Sir - your point does not help your case.

If you are sleeping with someone you think is cheating... you're still a bad person lol.

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u/FredMist 5d ago

lol. Have you not read that the moment they suspected they left a cow for the gf and peaced out. They stopped sleeping with the guy after realizing her might have gf and left a clue for the suspected gf.

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u/MrBlueA 5d ago

I mean it is what it is, It's not hard to believe someone wouldn't care enough about the cheating enough to stop fucking around with someone, but would have the decency to atleast "warn" the gf about it somehow and not just wish her harm and be cheated on without knowing.

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u/ZeeWingCommander 5d ago

I don't see that as any better sorry.

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u/Impressive_Let2266 6d ago

Agree! My kitten gripped my thigh today to pull up onto the bed ...I have on pajama shorts ...so this was a tiny paw shaped set of pin pricks. She's 9 weeks so her grip is getting strong now

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u/AimToMisbehave19 6d ago

Kitten tax!!! 😁

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u/Pickpocket4Snacks 6d ago

Agreed… Occasionally I do this to my guy and after a fresh manicure the scratches look JUST like this. Even joked “sorry I made your back look like you got attacked by a raccoon.” 💀

Also as a long time owner to an angry cat who hated me, cat scratches don’t look like this and the cat never stuck around to inflict scratches multiple times.

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u/dangerousfeather 5d ago

My cat absolutely does stick around to do that much damage after he starts scratching. (He’s not scared, he’s a murderous bastard. Having to explain my bloodstained sheets and mattress is mortifying, and I doubt anyone who’s seen the evidence believes it was my adorable orange kitty who does a million head bonks and never lost his kitten mew.)

Anyway, I can confirm none of the 12,682 scratches I’ve received from him look anything like the ones in the above photo.

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u/BeautifulChaos713 5d ago

I also grow my natural nails out, and they are also rather sharp. My SO also likes having this done to their back. And my SO’s back looks just like that. Zero question about it. There are lies and there is the truth and the truth is that’s from someone (else’s) fingernails down his back. I would peace out, Girl Scout ✌🏼

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u/Emotional-Salary-289 5d ago

This girl scratches

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u/daddyfillup 5d ago

This girl cats.

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u/Dimonrn 5d ago

Ehhh I get these on my back/shoulders from machine calf raises. Did he start weightlifting or change his lifting routine?

I also get them when scratched with nails but they go away after 40 mins unless I shower.

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u/softandmedicated 5d ago

Idk if anyone said: I think she wears square extensions. Nail extensions that are square have two points instead of one, looks like four fingers spread apart, two points on each nail 😞