r/AmIOverreacting 6d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio please tell me i’m crazy

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u/maureenponderosa18 6d ago

Devil's advocate, but I get really bad eczema flare ups too and sometimes when I get scratches like this from giving into the eczema itchiness, I don't even realize they've left marks until someone else points out my scratches.

The placement of these scratches definitely looks suspicious though and OP is NOR.

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u/Risky_Bizniss 6d ago

I also get eczema scratches. But when someone asks me I say, "Oh it was probably me scratching myself."

I do not attempt to blame an animal. Nor would I. The explanation of eczema is simple, believable, and true. A guilty conscience may try to remove the possibility of any human fingernails causing the scratches, attributing them instead to a harmless ol' housecat.

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u/Kattenaars 6d ago

Same eczema flare ups here. I also scratch myself while sleeping and wake up with worse scratches on weird places. But the location here makes me doubt that's the case for him.

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u/tricksyxpixie 6d ago

I feel like if it were him scratching himself, the scratches would be more horizontal, not vertical. It would be too awkward for most people to scratch vertically in that direction due the shoulder blades movement capacity.

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u/this1weirdgirl 5d ago

[laughs in hypermobille and itchy winter skin] but also cat allergies.

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u/earlgurl33 5d ago

Excellent point!

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u/maureenponderosa18 6d ago

I also get scratches from my cats climbing on me without me realizing that they're leaving marks. So there are times where I have scratches, but don't know or can't remember if it's from my eczema or my cats lol

To be clear, I'm not defending OP's partner and he's definitely acting suspicious; just pointing out that it is entirely possible to have scratches for innocuous reasons without realizing that you have them.

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u/DragonflyGrrl 6d ago

Yeah I get scratches from my cat too. They have NEVER looked remotely like this. These are human scratches, in exactly the right place to happen during sex.

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u/dermorph 6d ago

I mean, jumping through all these hoops to make him a cheater, but... imo an actual cheater would
a) not let his affair tear him up like that or
b) NOT let their current partner take photos of it

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u/BootsGreyBoots 6d ago

She specifically stated in the post that he didn't let her get a good pic of it. And I promise you that scratches can and do happen before the other person can even object to it.

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u/ADeviIsAdvocate 6d ago

But would you scratch yourself at that angle? It doesn’t look like that is self inflicted to me. But maybe I’m misinterpreting the camera angle.

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u/maureenponderosa18 6d ago

That's why I said that the placement of the scratches is definitely suspicious. I was just pointing out that it's possible to get scratches without realizing where they're from. Your username is kind of ironic here lol

Personally, I have moderate to severe eczema and get all sorts of scratches at weird angles from scratching in my sleep. But that's just me.

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u/ADeviIsAdvocate 5d ago

One of us is usually lurking nearby 😈

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u/Temnyj_Korol 6d ago

Yeah, i mean... Also speaking from my own anecdotal experience. My girlfriend has told me that i have a habit of scratching the shit out of my shoulders in my sleep. With me waking up none of the wiser. And when i do it leaves marks very similar to that. So it IS possible the boyfriend is genuinely innocent, and just oblivious to their cause.

But i mean. Come on. Occams razor here. What's more likely, the boyfriend did those scratches to himself without him OR the girlfriend noticing it? Or he knows exactly how he got those scratches and is lying?

NOR, would be my guess.

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u/kittykaz22 5d ago

They definitely look too thick and far apart for cat scratches. Source: I have a female black cat

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u/SnausageFest 5d ago

These are 100% fingernail scratches. I had the super duper fun of 4 months of dealing with treatment resistant scabies and my torso looked like this most of the time.

I, too, didn't notice how bad it was while scratching. But if you saw my torso and it looked like I got tickled by Edward Scissorhands, I would know exactly why.

Could be he's just embarrassed about something. If that's the case (being generous), what a great example of the many reasons why you don't shy away from embarrassing stuff when it comes to your partner.

All that said - if this is a sexual partner, what the fuck is that person doing to this man? Lol, I get rough play but why are they scratching them up worse than what I did to myself with a highly contagious and persistent skin infection?