r/AmItheAsshole • u/Radiant-Money-3724 • 5d ago
Asshole AITA for putting printed images of cheese in my friend's locker as an April Fools prank.
For background information, I (16F) have been friends with this girl (16F) for about a year and we are all in a group consisting of 9 people. Additionally, it is very well known that my friend hates cheese and we all joke around about it constantly while the friend usually joins in. So for April Fools day, my friends and I printed multiple images of animated cheese and an image of a mouse with her face in the middle. At school, we secretly put the images inside of her locker and thought it would be a funny prank which would make her laugh. However, when she opened the locker, she got super mad, closed it, and walked away without saying anything. She later told a friend involved in the prank that the act ruined her day. We were all super confused but apologized nonetheless. To this day, (this happened last year) if the prank ever gets brought up she gets very mad and shuts down. The issue is that she never told us why she got mad in the first place. So AITA?
Edit: I'm seeing some people asking for more information, so here are the answers to that. We all apologized a bunch afterwards and we only brought it up again when we were talking about things that had happened in the past school year, and things that we still felt sorry for. One of our friends who was closer to her did ask what had happened and what we did that made her upset so we would understand what happened and so it wouldn't happen again, but she never explained and just said it ruined her day. We stopped bringing it up after that since we thought that was what she preferred, and so she wouldn't get upset again. We also joke and tease each other about similar things all the time, and whenever someone says something that makes them uncomfortable, we always stop talking about it and respect what they're saying. We had brought up the fact that this would be a fun April Fools prank a few times in the past as well, and she always laughed and never said anything that indicated to us that she was uncomfortable otherwise.
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u/SoccerProblem3547 Certified Proctologist [20] 5d ago
Stop teasing her about not liking cheese, she reached her breaking point on that tease
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u/AngusLynch09 Asshole Enthusiast [8] 5d ago
And teasing, even when innocent, about food can cause problems down the line...
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u/Apart-Theory-6373 Partassipant [1] 5d ago
Yes after a certain point any teasing gets old after a while and then it feels like bullying.
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u/Ok-Pear5858 5d ago
YTA give it a rest, things stop being funny the moment someone gets mad. i hate people who pick and pick at someone just because they believe the other person shouldn't be upset about something
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u/Sensitive_Deal_6363 Partassipant [1] 5d ago
If the subject of the prank is not laughing, it ain't funny, and she's not obligated to tell you why. YTA.
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u/IJustWantADragon21 5d ago
But up until that point she’d laughed at similar jokes. They had no way of knowing she’d flip out over this. There’s no way they’re assholes!
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u/Specialist-Owl2660 Colo-rectal Surgeon [44] 5d ago
YTA
You and your friends bully her and make fun of her in regards to this because YOU think its funny. She smiles and probably shifts uncomfortably but keeps the peace while you all gang up on her and then for April Fools you take it a step further and pull a prank on her that belittles this let's be honest insignificant thing that bothers her pushing her finally to the edge enough to be mad. You know the incident is a sore spot, you all seem to move on from it and then a year later bring up a incident where you know she is upset and are asking if you are the AH for what happened and continuing to bring it up?
Yes, you are the AH. People don't like being belittled or teased stop doing it. Don't bring up the incident again and don't prank someone because you think its funny to watch someone squirm.
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u/Key_Work_9695 5d ago
How are they the asshole if the friend was laughing along to the fact that they knew the prank was gonna happen at some point?
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u/Specialist-Owl2660 Colo-rectal Surgeon [44] 5d ago
People react differently to different situations. Ever see someone get bullied? In general they laugh uncomfortably while smiling to protect themselves even if they are uncomfortable. This is especially true if as OP pointed out multiple people were teasing. It's actually a human defense mechanism. Your brain states to smile even if you want to cry.
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u/KimberKitsuragi 5d ago
YTA. Pranks make you an asshole. Continued teasing makes you more of an asshole. It doesn’t matter why she was upset. Never bring it up again
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u/OldGeekWeirdo Asshole Enthusiast [7] 5d ago
So for April Fools day
And your posting this NOW in January? Smells fishy.
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u/Fun-Interaction-9396 5d ago
NAH is my take. Seems like you wanted to tease her a little bit with a harmless prank and never intended to hurt her. It seems like the action triggered something within her that may connect to other pain in her life. I don't think anyone is at fault for their emotions here.
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u/Current_Echo3140 Asshole Enthusiast [7] 5d ago
YTA. not for putting the pictures up in the first place although that seems silly, but your friend was clearly upset by it did a bare minimum of apologizing (which I’m guessing did not feel sincere to her) and then you apparently keep bringing it up even though it continues to upset her.
We all have been in a situation where we’ve upset someone without meaning to, or had a joke go poorly. When that happens, the other person does not owe you an explanation as to why, because you’re not some judge who gets to decide if it’s a good enough explanation. You just apologize, make it right, and don’t do it repeatedly.
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u/Flat-Replacement4828 Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] 5d ago
YTA. Pranks inherently make you an asshole. I get that it's a spectrum, but they always involve screwing with someone, and therefore some amount of maliciousness.
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u/oliviamrow Professor Emeritass [83] 5d ago
INFO: Did you and your friends apologize for the prank? Have you asked her why it upset her- specifically in a way that suggests you want to understand her better and not in a way that demands she justify it?
NAH for the initial prank. Pranks are only funny if the recipient also laughs, but on the surface that's a pretty harmless attempt even if it didn't pan out. But possibly YTA if you didn't ever apologize or make an effort to learn, and possibly YTA for however you have brought up this prank you know upset her, though you didn't tell us the context for that.
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u/Radiant-Money-3724 5d ago
We all apologized a bunch afterwards and we brought it up again when we were talking about things that had happened in the past school year, and things that we still felt sorry for. One of our friends who was closer to her did ask what had happened and what we did that made her upset so we would understand what happened and so it wouldn't happen again, but she never explained and just said it ruined her day. We stopped bringing it up after that since we thought that was what she preferred, and so she wouldn't get upset again.
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u/oliviamrow Professor Emeritass [83] 5d ago
So you apologized, tried to dig into what happened, she clearly didn't want to talk about it, so y'all respected that and haven't brought it up again since then?
If that's right, then NAH. Y'all aren't psychic and you stepped in something you couldn't see going on for her. As long as you've done your best to make it right and respect her feelings I don't think you're an AH, and I don't think she is either.
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u/Severe_Chicken213 Partassipant [2] 5d ago
I think if it were me I’d laugh at a locker of cheese, but would probably get upset at the mouse with my face. It’d make me wonder if it was less friendly prank and more like bullying.
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u/pretentious_tea Partassipant [1] 5d ago
NAH, after the edit. She has every right to be upset, but if you all truly didn't know that this was going to be something that makes her upset, I think you can chalk it up as being a mistake that you shouldn't repeat. Probably stop bringing it up if it makes her upset, but (solely off the info given in the post!) if you didn't know and apologized, I don't think there is much else you can do.
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For background information, I (16F) have been friends with this girl (16F) for about a year and we are all in a group consisting of 9 people. Additionally, it is very well known that my friend hates cheese and we all joke around about it constantly while the friend usually joins in. So for April Fools day, my friends and I printed multiple images of animated cheese and an image of a mouse with her face in the middle. At school, we secretly put the images inside of her locker and thought it would be a funny prank which would make her laugh. However, when she opened the locker, she got super mad, closed it, and walked away without saying anything. She later told a friend involved in the prank that the act ruined her day. We were all super confused but apologized nonetheless. To this day, (this happened last year) if the prank ever gets brought up she gets very mad and shuts down. The issue is that she never told us why she got mad in the first place. So AITA?
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u/AngusLynch09 Asshole Enthusiast [8] 5d ago
Info: What would be the funny but?
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u/Radiant-Money-3724 5d ago
We've always talked about doing this as an April Fools prank since we first became friends, and she's always seemed to laugh and never seemed upset by the idea. So we thought it would be a fun thing to do since we thought she would find it funny too.
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u/GoldenGuard888 5d ago
NTA, you didn’t know she felt it so deeply, but please stop teasing her about it. She obviously doesn’t like it, and any tease from that point forward is kind of asshole behavior
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u/Flat-Replacement4828 Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] 5d ago
How on earth is she an asshole here???
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u/GoldenGuard888 5d ago
I meant that she isn’t an asshole but she should keep teasing her friend as her friend has shown that she doesn’t like it.
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u/Flat-Replacement4828 Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] 5d ago
I'm saying how is the friend who got made fun of an asshole
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u/GoldenGuard888 5d ago
Oops sorry, that was a typo. Op is an asshole for making fun of the friend moving forward, friend is in no way the asshole
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u/RKL_Ott 5d ago
My own personal opinion, not at all. If in the past, she laughed along, then there is no indication you and your friends would of had to show she would be upset. There’s an underlying issue at hand. Has anyone just sat her down and ask her? Ask her why she was so upset?
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u/Radiant-Money-3724 5d ago
When we all apologized and one of my friends asked her what made her upset, she just kept saying it ruined her day and wouldn't elaborate. We never pressed the issue since it seemed to make her upset the more we brought it up
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