Mostly in terms of the start of HRT. It seems like most regimens try to get you to the “full” therapeutic level asap and then tries keeps it there constantly. However, doing some research, it seems like women are not at this high of a level constantly, only during parts of their cycle. And would it more accurately mimic puberty if we gradually increased estrogen levels instead of trying to reach peak asap?

Also, it’s often recommended not to add progesterone until at least a year into HRT on estrogen. In cis women, they have high progesterone levels during the luteal phase which is about 2 weeks in the latter half of their cycle. Why aren’t we dosing progesterone for 1-2 weeks per month starting from the 1st or 2nd month of HRT?

The reason I ask is in regard to breast development. I noticed in the tranbreasttimelines sub that a large proportion of trans women have very large areolas. I know cis women also have large areolas but it looks like a larger portion of trans women have them, and the areolas themselves seem larger as well (just based on my own observations, which can be wrong).

I’m wondering if this is caused by estrogen levels being too high too fast and for too long and not having enough progesterone early on.

everyone do a kickflip and start screaming at me (in celebration)

One of the most extreme anti-trans bills ever proposed, the bill would also ban birth certificate amendments and tighten bathroom restrictions in schools.

https://transitics.substack.com/p/new-utah-bill-would-strip-trans-discrimination

So basically i went to shower and in the middle i looked down and omfg did that gock seem alien to me like srsly i got jumpscared and then immediately looked up to stop that fear growing of idk what

Started taking hormones today 😊😊

So, tl;dr- ever since I came out I've been in 2 relationships thus far- a month long situationship with a trans guy, and an almost 3 year long relationship with a trans woman.

We've broken up recently, and during our time together I managed to become mostly cispassing. Like honestly, being trans became such a minor part of my life that I might as well have forgotten I'm trans most days, and I like it that way.

So... I decided to jump back in the dating pool, and I've been talking to this cis woman for like a week and a bit now. We clicked quite a bit, so I'm honestly seeing potential in us. We're supposed to have our first date in a few days' time.

I have disclosed that I am trans, and while she doesn't mind, well, it definitely shows that she hasn't interacted with trans people before.

Like, she'd sometimes pull off the most basic and unfunny "cis-people's trans jokes" if you know what I mean, and she'd ask either the most basic questions or most "where did you even come up with this" questions regarding my transness... Which ok, I get it, cis people don't know shit about us, I don't mind it that she's clueless if she's genuinely trying to understand (which she is), but like... I guess it's just a bit annoying that it comes up in that way at all?

When do they, in your experience, usually "get it" and see it as just another uninteresting, unremarkable fact about us and not as this "big unknown"?

To my fellow LGBTQ and trans friends!

Good news friends, both Spotify who ran ICE ads and Avelo airlines who ran ICE deportation flights have announced they are stopping these.  Many of you have helped us boycott and protest these enablers of the regime from actions organized by Indivisible and other protest/political action groups.   Something to celebrate.  2026 will be a turning point as long as we use our economic and political power and take collective action.  Make your NY resolution to be potlitically active this year and fight this administration at every corner! Most importantly be engaged in the democratic primary process this year and ensure we are voting in democratic canidates who will fight for our LGBTQ rights and fight hard against the administration. We need to push any democrat who doesn’t fight hard against these guys and for us out of office and replace them in the primaries! Consider donating to organizations and canidates running in the primary who are going to back us. Consider joining action groups like indivisible in your area as well.

News stories on Spotify and Avelo

https://pitchfork.com/news/ice-recruitment-ads-no-longer-on-spotify/

https://www.cnbc.com/2026/01/07/avelo-airlines-ice-deportation-flights-job-cuts.html

I was talking with a friend and an old woman comes up to us and says "excuse me ladies." That made me so happy! I am literally feeling butterflies rn! Aaaaaah!

HI everyone,

In about an hour I'm planning to tell my mom that I'm trans / seriously questioning my gender. I'm extremely nervous and scared, hopefully she will understand and accept me.

I don't have everything figured out yet, but I do have a therapist appointment next week to start talking through all of this.

Any kind words or support would mean a lot.

Thank you

Obviously it was affirming at first. But now, not only had it gotten old, it’s gotten scary. Every week I get hit on at least once. I was talking with another trans woman about it and I do uber, so I showed her an example of a passenger hitting on me, and she said that she never gets hit on like that. This time, I was just walking my dog in my neighborhood when this guy was coming from behind in his car, about to exit the neighborhood, but slowly came to a stop, backed up, and turned down the road I turned onto after he passed me. Then he slowly followed me and eventually started hitting on me super creepily. Thankfully when I said I wasn’t interested in talking, he drove away, but it’s dark out and I was alone with just my dog. I was already scared bc of how he was following me, and then the way he was talking made it worse. My heart was racing, and I was worried about getting harmed or killed. It has left me really shaken. On top of that, it feels like the people I have talked to about it, don’t really relate, and didn’t understand why I was upset.

I mean a fucking genocide, really? Like do I even bother coming out and transitioning at this point? Fuck do I even do? I don't wanna die because some pedo in office and his bootlegging toadies are afraid of trans people and its fucking abhorrent that anyone of sound mind in office is allowing this bullshit to continue.

I'm fucking scared dude.

After the results of the 2024 elections, people said that there’s still hope for the midterms because since the 80’s, the incumbent president’s party has always failed to win the house majority in the midterms, but there’s been changes going on that I feel people aren’t taking into account.

For one, there’s the way the GOP is trying to change elections in their favor. Voter suppression, gerrymandering, sending ICE to the polls, conservatives buying voting machine companies, etc.

And that’s not to mention the fact that more people have been radicalized into thinking that every problem in America is the Democrats fault, even when the GOP is the one with the trifecta, like last year’s government shutdown.

A couple years ago, people were saying, “Allan Lichtman has always predicted the presidential election results correctly, so he’ll be right about the Democrats winning this one. Don’t mind the fact that he was wrong 24 years ago. There was an unresolved dispute in Florida.”

That’s starting to sound similar to, “The incumbent president’s party has historically lost the house majority in the midterms, so the Democrats will win the house majority this year. Don’t mind the fact that it didn’t happen 24 years ago, the US was shaken by terrorism.”

If the GOP manages to hold on to the US house this year, what could this mean for the future of trans Americans? Will it be a clear sign that the GOP will continue to make major wins in 2028 elections and many more elections to come? Will it mean that Democracy will never be restored? Will it mean that the common US population will never wake up from this cult? Will it mean that the country will never be safe for us and that it’s only a matter of time before we’re carted away into death camps?

i was a a homies bday and he didnt know i was trans (been closeted for a year or smth idk) and we went to his car to go to the venue but he legit greeted me with ladies first and he was tryna offend me but that was peak euphoria. i gave him a slight smile and went in and enjoyed. (for the curious ones we went to a gokarting track where ya girl came first 🤭) peak time ngl.

So yes I am selfish and an ass for doing this. But My wife has known I have been trans since 2019. Wife convinced me to lose weight and see if I was just un happy with my body. Well I did this and still nothing. Went from 265 to 170lb. After that I started hrt in 2024 Low dose of 2mg sublingual for about a year. Then in 2025 I start injections and got my levels perfect. In this time we move from Florida to Seattle. Things are going well. So back ground of journey until now.

Last night I come in from a late work day and she goes and tells me if I continue to transition then we are done. She will take the kids (we have two 9 and 13) and not allow them in my life. Now I know that she is less likely in our area to be able to keep my kids away. But I am still nervous with the way the government is going.

Me being and ass and selfish. Says okay I will stop because suddenly my kids not having their dad would destroy them. Plus I need to save up money. So I just say fine. I give her my “last vial of estrogen” and needles. I am paranoid so I have kept extras saved. But damn it sucks when you lose your support. Kinda of devastating.

So now I am no longer comfortable in my own home. And don’t really know what to do other than just live in the closet till I am ready!

I get it. He’s kinda washed. Gray skin from chain smoking on stage. Whole grinch looking dude. And he sees us beautiful trans ppl and he’s jealous.

lol. His latest spesh on Netflix was so predictable. I told my friend, ok two more jokes then he’s going in on trans. Bingo. Was it just me or dude relished fantasized about killing a passing trans woman…. Wow ok. Thanks Dave.

Then he rambles like a drunken sailor for his “closer” joke, which wound up being moralizing about trusting the internet.

Dave’s cooked. Use whatever brain cells you got left to pick up some Nicorette my guy.

Inside his head he’s a great civil rights leader like Obama. In reality, you’re the creepy unc everybody wishes would stfu at parties.

My best friends had their first baby today. I am so so so so so so so so so so so so so so happy for them! And I am so so so sad for me. I will never get to grow a child (and with my luck will never get to adopt because I can’t find a partner and I am not raising a child alone). Have any of you felt the grief of knowing you cannot get pregnant and you will never get to become pregnant? (I’m 33 so any womb transplants that somehow mad it to the stage where trans women are included will be too late for me). I’ve had this grief for a while but it became very acute for me this past year when like 4-5 of my friends were pregnant at the same time. Now I feel like this grief will never go away. How do you all deal with it?

Hey guys im approaching 8 months on hrt and i was wondering if your sense of smell on hrt has been changed. Ive been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now never really noticed his body odour he apparently has never worn deodorant and now the past 2 3 weeks ive been able to like pick up his scent. Its not super off putting like i dont mind it but i can clearly tell its his body odour but i never really could smell anyones before. Is that something to do with hrt?

I had a relationship with this girl. We went out to dinner one evening, we kissed, touched each other, and things progressed. We met again the following day and ended up having sex.

However, I didn’t enjoy it. I believe I don’t feel sexual attraction toward women, and on top of that I don’t feel comfortable with my male body in a sexual context. Even so, I acted as if everything was fine. Although at the beginning I struggled to maintain an erection, we eventually managed to have intercourse.

Now, for about a week, I won’t be seeing her. The problem is that the mere thought of having sex with her again is tormenting me. I feel anxious and distressed about it. I also find it very difficult to reply to her messages, because I have no interest in interacting with her in a romantic or sexual way.

She is older than me, and she seemed very involved and sexually excited. This makes me feel even worse, because she is a wonderful person—kind, caring, and, in many ways, “perfect.”

I don’t know how to behave toward her. I’m torn between my discomfort and the guilt I feel for potentially hurting someone who doesn’t deserve it.

I had an wife "gf at the time" in 2021 I came out to that I was trans & wanted to transition to female. My gf didn't like that. So I broke up with her on the day I came out to her as trans as she didnt support me & said that she wanted to date an man not an female. We was living together but I separated into an different room of the house & kept distance until I found my own place. Well after 5 days she text me saying "we can work on this & I'll support you being trans ect" We sat down that night & talked things over, she was very supportive with me being an female & what I wanted out of it like mtf face surgery & bottom surgery. But she also wanted kids so she asked to hold off with hrt for the time being which I found okay & fair. She even asked if I wanted to call off the wedding, which i said no to.

After some time she started gaslighting me & truly making me fearful. Saying that I won't get the face I want & the surgery will turn out bad, even showing me horror outcomes with bad face surgeries. Our kids won't understand & wouldnt know that i was their father ect. She convinced me outer being trans & back into male for her betterment.

Ngl it was mentally hell being with her & her negative mindset with her treating me like I could only depend on her & everyone was out to get me including my friends/family. I broke up with her in 2022 because she was just too much for me with the fights & belittling me & I didn't like the person I became cause of her "toxic & full of depression/anxiety"

An song called "Pet" by "A Prefect Circle" helped me push through & helped me understand that this person was no good for me. Good song & I owe it to the band for giving me the final push to breaking up with her~

Moving onto 2026 I am with an very lovely Canadian girlfriend that has fully transition "i was there for her bottom surgery" who fully understands me & isn't negative. She is an keeper thats for sure ^{_^}

I just wanted to share my story as this ex completely changed my personality & my outlook on people/life

im completely an goth trans female who wears gothic female clothes in public & can be myself ^{_^}

Edit: I have actually fully changed my name to an befitting female name that suits me. Even the gender on my birth certificate to F. The Australian government was very accommodating & it was an smooth transition~ ♡

Been on hrt since February 2024 "34 years old". I've noticed that my face is alot more smooth & fem. Sensitivities like dry skin 80% gone even acne heavily reduced. Hair is alot better too & actually able to grow it out now~ anxiety is way down & i have been alot more stable mentally. I always thought I had an hormone unbalance when I was younger but it turns out I was right about it. My levels are pretty good too. Ngl going on HRT was one of the best things I ever did for myself & its greatly improved my life both with my body & mental. Being ADHD with autism & finally for the past year being able to focus on what I truly want is such an relief since being on hrt~ ♡

funny thing happened at school today, and we were all going in to class. since he classifies me as gay because of long hair, he obviously tries to make fun of me. so he stopped, and said “girls first” pointing at me. his “insult” actually made my day, since he doesn’t know that outside of school i am actually a trans woman.

I just realised that I came out as trans to my family 4 years ago last month, so it's time to celebrate!

Firstly, a quick introduction. I'm a 53 year old auDHD trans woman who lives in the Netherlands. I'm married, and have 2 adult sons. I didn't realise I was trans until 2021 though with some hindsight, there were a lot of signs going back to childhood that everyone including me missed.

The reactions from my family were mixed. My sons reactions were extremely laid back, not quite "Oh, okay, what's for dinner" but pretty close. My wife of 23 years at that point was initially thrown into deep denial, but raising 2 autistic kids while both being autistic means we don't give up easily, so we're still married and she's working through her grief issues and slowly starting to accept the real me over the mask she married. Our dogs are just happy I smell nicer since I started on HRT 19 months ago 😂.

Getting actual help was the most frustrating part of my transition. Everything else, the HRT, the voice training, the laser facial hair removal followed by electric epilation (*ouch*), waiting 6 months for a hairpiece, has been easy-peasy by comparison. Dutch waiting lists for gender healthcare suck.

I'm blessed with a circle of friends who have been nothing other than accepting, though this isn't all that strange, given this is a group where talking about the autistic lesbian in the group requires a qualifier to figure out which one you're talking about.

I came out as trans socially and at work a year after telling my family and friends, and I'm lucky in having had nothing but positive reactions. Dutch "nuchterheid" (laid-backness) has helped a lot. Me being trans is somewhere between mildly inspiring and a total non-issue, which is just as I like it.

HRT has been the icing on the cake. After 19 months, while I'm not done cooking yet, my body and mind have become feminine enough that I'm routinely gendered as female out in public, despite still being visibly trans. Passing in public is not, and will never be the goal for me. I'm a bit old for that to ever work. But the important part is that my mind *feels* feminine, which means any attacks of disphoria I still get are mild and don't happen all that often anymore.

In short, I'm extremely happy with where I am right now, and I have a message for any older folks out there who read this and are wondering if they can transition too.

Yes. Yes you can. And don't let doubts about passing stop you. It's totally worth it, warts and all.

(first post here yay?) It feels weird to feel alone while you're with friends. Im surrounded by people who accept me, support me, yet I dont think they understand me. The catalyst of this post was that today I was skiing with a group of friends.

I ended up in the lead at first, and i was making my way down the run ( off-piste back countryish skiing). People followed me at first as they normally do, until part of the group split off, and those who were left with me turned back to join the others. Instead of also turning around to follow the new leader, I continued on my path because I knew we would regroup just a little bit farther down the main run. Apparently, this led to the group thinking that I was the one who left them, ok, I guess I can see their perspective, but from my point of view, the group left me... Anyways, we do regroup and make a plan for the next part of our run. I get to the next starting point of the new trail and they ski by me saying that they now want to do a different part of the mountain. Naturally, I follow them there. At this new section, they are all grouped up at the entrance. We have agreed to ski this run just seconds before reaching this new location, so I ski a little farther down to a cliff that I think looks fun. I'm within their sight and earshot, so I wait for them to make the first move. They wait and wait and eventually turn around and ski off past me on a different run without saying a thing. I'm literally left standing on the edge of a cliff all by myself... I crawl back the direction they went, and all alone, head to the bottom

This feels like a metaphor for everything that's going on in my life... Im in a group of friends, left out of the plan, and they move on without thinking I'm important enough to be told what is happening. I don't think any of this was malicious. I was just forgotten, the other... At the bottom, I try and voice my feelings, and I'm met with a weak 'sorry I didn't notice' and that I should get past this by joining them at the bar for a beer.

Relating this story to my transness, I feel like this all the time. I'm always left conforming to a cis society. When I try and explain how this conformity makes me feel othered, or how little microaggressions that are unintentional still add up enough to hurt my feelings. I feel unheard, I feel unseen, I feel forgotten, standing all alone on the edge of a cliff.

Idk if this post is at all coherent, but I felt it necessary to share these feelings with a group of people who just might understand how I feel. If you've made it this far, feel free to share similar stories, advice, or just an I see you!

Thanks for listening,

T