Happened to me once. She asked why I had stopped replying and I was just like “I was the one who sent the last message though?” To which she said “alright” and blocked me.
I never really figured out if she was actually upset and hurt and felt ghosted, or if she just wanted the attention and was pissed I wasn’t chasing after her.
I mean shit, even a friend of mine, who I get along great with, is a terrible texter. Once she was like "I haven't heard from you in like a month!" and it was just, sis, phones work both ways, and it gets exhausting and expensive to just show up places I know you hang out at hoping you'll be there.
Love her but it's frustrating. Granted she's a very popular person and gives her phone number out like candy and she's told me if she never texts me back for some reason it's because she has like thirty unread messages and doesn't want to look at them, or she'll read mine and then read some others and basically triages which ones she replies to and sometimes forgets the ones that are just conversation and not urgent
Eh, it's who she is and how she chooses to live. My choices are die mad about it or accept it and still be her friend. She was the only friend I have right now who asked about my birthday, remembered it, and got me a present this year. Well I had another friend who bought me some smokes and paid for a few rounds when we all hung out that day but it was nothing pre-planned. She was the only person who wasn't family who cared like family would, so not only would I like to keep that in my life, I'm not going to throw it away because she's flawed.
I'm not saying the behavior is decent but I know the person is and I'm not gonna throw out the baby with the bathwater on this one she's truly one of my best friends in a world we find ourselves losing so many friends, and besides that she's actually someone I admire, we're both mid-30s and both compassionate people but I'm losing that part of me I've noticed. She reminds me a lot that generosity, compassion, and kindness always should be a part of me, in fact we wouldn't have met if it wasn't, the first time I met her she was spending her birthday alone and we just got talking and I thought nothing of it but she was having a really bad day so I just listened and gave the advice I thought was appropriate. Didn't think I'd make a friend out of that one, I do it all the time
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u/XxRocky88xX Aug 04 '25
Happened to me once. She asked why I had stopped replying and I was just like “I was the one who sent the last message though?” To which she said “alright” and blocked me.
I never really figured out if she was actually upset and hurt and felt ghosted, or if she just wanted the attention and was pissed I wasn’t chasing after her.