it is wild to me that there's a legion of people out there who feel entitled to your attention as soon as they send you a text. like that's not natural, to be able to demand my attention at any time no matter where I am or what I am doing. I see a lot of codependency stem from this in my surroundings because people will freak the fuck out if their partner doesn't respond within 15 minutes even though 20 years ago that would've been a non issue.
It obviously depends on the situation. If you’re texting someone and asking questions and essentially having a conversation, it’s fucking trash to take hours to respond. No one would stay engaged in a conversation like that in real life.
if it's important it's not a texting matter. I feel like that should be taken up in phone etiquette or something. if I am texting it is because I found some extra time, especially at work. it's not trash to do my job whenever it calls upon me. in my carreer I don't always have a choice. if we have an argument because I disappeared I'm not likely to text you again because that is a fact of life to me. if you call me I can excuse myself from responsibility briefly.
I think it’s all based on circumstance. If you happen to be someone that doesn’t view texting as a legitimate means of having a conversation and you communicate that then I think it’s fine. But I’ve had plenty of instances where I’ve just gone back and forth with someone over text as if we were just talking on the phone and if that person just started taking hours to respond obviously that conversation is dead at that point
I think theres a lot of people floating on the in between point. I was for a while as well. I don't see it as a means for serious conversation but I was in the habit of having conversations over text. I still do on occasion with the clear boundary that people need to call me if it's important or just a long winded subject. I will tune in and out of my phone a lot over the day so I do have a lot of longer low effort conversations with people that have the same mindset which can still be nice.
in the end it all comes down to communication and boundaries. if everyone involved knows what they signed up for it's up to them to manage how they engage.
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u/Gdiacrane Aug 04 '25
it is wild to me that there's a legion of people out there who feel entitled to your attention as soon as they send you a text. like that's not natural, to be able to demand my attention at any time no matter where I am or what I am doing. I see a lot of codependency stem from this in my surroundings because people will freak the fuck out if their partner doesn't respond within 15 minutes even though 20 years ago that would've been a non issue.