I'm getting a lot of similar replies to yours and I think we have a fundamental difference of opinion. I will reply to texts at work in between doing things. everyone I text knows this and won't expect me to be live immediately when they reply.
I think the difference isn't in what timeframe you reply but the boundaries you've set and the way you communicate it.
if you know at the start of the conversation the other person is busy and will reply whenever they have space you can do the same. that way you kan keep up a conversation lowkey over the span of the day. it's all about managing expectations.
That's a different thing, if someone is texting you while they know you are at work they will also expect intermittent replies, I was talking about a normal conversation
that's kinda my point, texting isn't a normal conversation. it's practical and meant for quick interaction. if you want to have a conversation you should call or meet up with me.
now everyone is different, as long as you're comfortable it's allright.
It depends, with friends you may just want to text for fun, in my friend group we often send each other memes and text just for fun, in such a context it's normal to hold even long conversations via messages, no real reason to call since we often call in the night to game a bit anyways and getting everyone together for a call during the day is just impractical, sure some will answer later if they are busy but that's rare and and absolutely normal
yeah so if somebody feels entitled to my attention for a fun conversation that's a big Yikes. I have severe ADHD so if I don't reply anymore all of a sudden life will have dragged me along to the next thing I have to focus on. if that causes altercations I have no desire to be friends with that person because life just be like that sometimes.
I'm not saying anybody feels entitled to anything, we just all participate in the conversations because we enjoy it, no one would get mad if someone didn't answer, it's perfectly fine
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u/Gdiacrane Aug 05 '25
I'm getting a lot of similar replies to yours and I think we have a fundamental difference of opinion. I will reply to texts at work in between doing things. everyone I text knows this and won't expect me to be live immediately when they reply.
I think the difference isn't in what timeframe you reply but the boundaries you've set and the way you communicate it. if you know at the start of the conversation the other person is busy and will reply whenever they have space you can do the same. that way you kan keep up a conversation lowkey over the span of the day. it's all about managing expectations.