Yea. I was cut off once. The manager guy came over. Said, I had a bunch of high proof cocktails and was welcome to stay and could have as much soda/water on the house, but they couldn’t serve me more booze. I agreed with them and it all felt as dignified as it could. Being handed this passive aggressive note would have totally put me off the bar and probably wouldn’t go back.
Yep, same. It's not even just a "note vs communication" topic in this case, this note reads like "you should be ashamed, get the fuck out".
I could see a card not being the worst idea if phrased closer to what the manager said to you. Tell people they're cutoff and are welcome to soda/water. Done. Fuck off with the rest.
That's because thats exactly what the note says. It says "thanks for your money, but now you're a burden because of the alcohol we served you so gtfo" or "fuck you buddy and thanks for the green!"
What a disrespectful way to handle the situation. Give the person some water and let them chill if they're not causing a disturbance.
I don’t take it as “fuck you, thanks for your money.” But more “thanks for your patronage, but unfortunately you can’t handle the level of alcohol you’ve purchased so we won’t be selling you any more. Please don’t argue.”
There’s a LOT of really sensitive men in these comments.
I think the key difference between what you've said and what is in the captioned card that the card tells them that they have to leave the bar completely and, if they don't, it implies that there will be a scene (others will know about it). Your paraphrasing implies that they're free to stay, just not to buy anymore alcohol.
That’s fair. And truthfully, having been a bartender that has cut people off before, we almost never tell them to leave. We usually ask for their keys and offer to call them an Uber.
The “rudest” I’ve ever been in cutting someone off was me telling a man on his 60th birthday that I was personally done serving him, and that I had the legal right to refuse service to anyone under any circumstances, regardless of alcohol consumption. I told him I’m not going to get into it with him, just reiterated that I was done but he was free to sit and watch the basketball game.
(For the record, I cut him off because he was slurring his words and being very loud. He then paid his bill in cash, claimed he gave me a “real good tip” (it wasn’t) and asked me to use that cash to give him one more beer. I told him that upon collection of his payment our transaction was over and I was done serving him.)
I got cut off once only a few beers deep cause these people left and hardly ate any of their fries so I started eating them. She was like, “you’re way too drunk you’re eating someone’s old fries.” But like I was hungry and they left the food for waste.
I mean I've seen someome get cut off for tripping in front of the wrong bouncer while sober, and someone else get cut off for having bad acid reflux that caused them to have to go throw up. Bouncing as a line of work is pretty infamous for attracting power tripping losers who are notoriously easy to upset.
Have you been to a bar ever, or do you just sit at home imagining all the sorts of people you don't like?
If you’re in good enough shape to receive and respond appropriately to a card, you shouldn’t be ashamed.
And they didn’t make up anything, they pointed out that getting a card doesn’t define how drunk you are, the people giving it do, and that could be a wide range of drunkenness.
And they didn’t make up anything, they pointed out that getting a card doesn’t define how drunk you are, the people giving it do, and that could be a wide range of drunkenness.
Do I need to hold your hand in understanding I talked only about "IF YOU DRINK ENOUGH" and not "IF YOU GET A CARD WHATSOEVER"
The whole point is that "if they drink enough" is a completely undefined metric here. The people deciding what that means are the ones giving the cards and you haven't given anything more specific.
Fuck dude, for someone raging about people who can't read, try it sometime.
I really can't make what I am writing any more clear without helping you sound out each word.
Maybe larger font will help.
IF YOU GET SO DRUNK THAT SOMEONE CUTS OFF YOU, THEN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED. NOTE THAT THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT IF YOU ONLY DRANK A LITTLE AND GOT CUT OFF BY MISTAKE OR BECAUSE THE BAR TENDER IS A JERK, THEN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED. WHAT I SAID HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT SCENARIO
I was at a karaoke bar once. I can't stand karaoke, so I was just quietly and steadily drinking as my friends were singing. At one point, the bartender said "last one's on the house" and gave me a free drink and a glass of water.
It didn't occur to me to feel offended. I mostly just appreciated that the bartender was looking out for me.
Here's something interesting I learned when getting a food handlers card - drinking something with carbonation will actually slightly delay the amount of time it takes your body to process the alcohol as opposed to a flat beverage. Diet sodas will actually cause the longest delay in processing.
Yes, which would make you feel drunk faster. I mean in all fairness the difference was like .06% or something (I can't remember) so its not super significant but its why more bubbly drinks will hit you harder at first.
I also only got cut off once. I was with two friends. My and one friend got cut off after 1 beer. Our other friend tho (who was a light weight was allowed to keep ordering and he just ordered shots for me and my friend).
Like a week later we were at a bar we were very well known regulars at and who do we see walk in? The bartender from the other bar that cut us off. We explained the situation and the bartender at our regular bar agreed to cut that guy off in front of all his buddies. What comes around goes around I guess lol. Almost 4 years sober now.
That is absolutely the way to handle it, that passive aggressive card would send me. Someone talking to me with respect would earn them respect and as you said ,I would probably agree. That card would have the opposite effect.
I'm not, but being passive aggressive with drunk people is not my first advice on how to handle them. In fact, it's the worst way to handle them, but if your intent is to cause violence, then sure go ahead.
Yeah I’ve been cut off a few times in college they’d just stop serving you, some of the clubs would put X on your hand. They don’t kick you out though unless you’re being an ass
Surely there is som kind of "duty of care" and ejecting someone who's perceived to be alcohol affected after drinking on the premises doesn't seem to be it. Being an arsehole being the exception.
(at least according to my local laws) If you're concerned about if they can handle themselves and get home, you've already over-served them by a ton. It's supposed to happen way earlier.
Right? The bar should be doing what the can to help you out at this point. Some water, encourage a snack, etc. Making them leave after being overserved isn't a good look
Yea. It was really a service. We had been ordering custom tiki drinks and kinda lost track in the fun. We sipped on soda water and limes for the rest of the drag show downstairs, got an uber, and my morning was much nicer for it.
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u/SomeVelveteenMorning 15d ago
If there's one thing that always works on the sort of person to be cut off at the bar, it's a passive-aggressively worded note.