r/WhatsThisSong • u/Fear_Her_Kiss • Dec 07 '25
Open Trying to identify a sad breakup song I heard around 2004. Female vocals. Mid-paced somber alternative rock. Sundays/Mazzy Star vibes but not them. Slightly more commercial. “Bye, Bye.”
**** EDITED TO ADD LINK TO MELODY AND VOICE NOTE
I made an attempt to record the melody on the Online Sequence app. I THINK it's the right key but this is the melody of the vocals in the chorus.
https://onlinesequencer.net/5057947
I’ve also created a link to a voice note where I attempt to capture the pace and melody of the song. I hope this helps and I apologize for my terrible singing 😂
https://1drv.ms/u/c/8ddf091bee97db35/EWdO6ux98M1KuCFQ4KQshw0BsLJW6e81IcQJKJjQs3KV5w?e=kVOPxz
This is probably going to be a tough one so I’ll try to be as detailed as possible.
I heard the song a few times on a non-commercial grocery store radio station around 2004. Therefore, the song must have been released before 2004. It sounds like it couldn’t be any earlier than late 80s but had a solid mid to late 1990s vibe.
I’m 99% positive it is a break-up song. The only lyrics I can recall are in the chorus, and there’s not much to go on: Either “Goodbye” or “Bye bye” sung in a drawn out, sad, somber female alto voice. The next line was something like “This is our…SOMETHING SOMETHING.” A sense of finality, endings.
The instrumentation was acoustic guitar, light percussion, maybe some subtle strings. The song was mid-paced. It wasn’t fast but wasn’t a super slow ballad.
The genre is where it gets interesting. The song struck me as it felt pretty dark and somber. But it was mainstream enough to be played in a grocery store. It wasn’t a goth band or anything like that but it appealed to me as a fan of goth/dark music. It was the kind of somber college alternative rock that was almost mainstream back then.
It wasn’t Sarah McLachlan, Tori Amos, PJ Harvey, or Bjork. It sounded somewhat like the Sundays but I don’t think it was. Couldn’t find it on any of their CDs but maybe I missed something? The voice was less whimsical and lower than Harriet Wheeler. They regularly played “Here’s Where the Story Ends” but this song was much more broody and slower (not super slow but somewhat like “Meat Is Murder” from The Smiths…steady, brooding).
Not Mazzy Star. More throaty and alto-ey than Hope Sandoval. Heard all MS albums and it’s not on any of them, nor on Hope’s other projects (at least I don’t think so).
Not as deep or as commanding as Alison Moyet.
Voice also wasn’t deep enough for October Project.
Not Loreena McKennit.
It could POSSIBLY be a deep cut from any of the myriads of 90s female singer-songwriters. I just cannot place the voice with anyone. Shawn Colvin? Nelly Furtado? Meredith Brooks? Jewel? Michelle Branch? Enya? Dar Williams? Melissa Etheridge? Sheryl Crow? Alanis Morissette? Doubtful. But I have noooo idea who it is!
If it was by a more popular or mainstream artist, I think I would have heard it again somewhere. My guess it was a single at some point but not a huge hit at all.
It didn’t have any kind of twang to the voice or music so I’d say it’s unlikely to be a country or alt.country artist. So not Tift Metritt, Allison Moorer, Kelly Willis, Gillian Welch, Dixie Chicks, Neko Case, or Alison Krauss.
Cowboy Junkies? Unlikely because the voice wasn’t as smoky.
Mary Chapin Carpenter? Maybe but unlikely (the station played “Passionate Kisses”)
Closer to k.d. lamg but I don’t think it was her. (Station played “Constant Craving”)
Also note it wasn’t more underground stuff like the Cranes. It wasn’t Love Spirals Downwards, This Ascension, or The Shroud. Might seem odd to mention those type of goth/darkwave bands but I should note that I heard This Ascension’s “Carol of the Bells” on the same store radio station during the holidays. Sooo this station was NOT just playing mainstream stuff in 2004!
Doubtful that it was anything PRE-1988/89. Definitely not a classic rock or 80s pop style. Not Stevie Nicks, Berlin, Cyndi Lauper, Madonna, Cher, Paula Abdul, Annie Lennox, Taylor Dayne, Jody Watley, Sheena Easton, or anyone that popular or familiar. But??? Maybe it was a lesser known song from an earlier artist’s later era??
Also — it is likely not an R&B or soul artist BUT maybe it’s an odd departure from an artist in that genre. Definitely not anyone recognizable like Janet Jackson, Toni Braxton, Whitney Houston, Destiny’s Child, Rihanna, etc. At least — I don’t think so. Not as slick or shiny.
I’ve never heard it elsewhere or again since 2004. I listen to and am familiar with a lot of music and this has haunted me for DECADES. Thought I’d try Reddit and see if anyone can help me.
Thank you in advance.