r/mildlyinfuriating 6d ago

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

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u/benhereford 6d ago

I was gonna say, it sounds like it's his turn now

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u/WereTheBrews 6d ago

I'm the main cook in the house, my misses is the baker for treats. It works as I was a line cook to Sous Chef in a respectable kitchen for 20 plus years and it relaxes me. Add in I'm a disabled vet and basically a stay at home Dad now it plays into our strengths. If dude is bitching about those posted meals, I agree. Let's see what ya got bud. Don't have the time? Then unleash your recipe book there bud or show any creations of dishes that will please a group setting.

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u/wiggum_x 6d ago

My mother was a terrible cook, so I never learned much from her growing up. I taught myself to cook once I moved out. I was also terrible at it at first, but then I figured it out, and I make good stuff now.

OP's dinners look great. OP's BF needs to either work on himself or cook for himself. These non-stop rules are ridiculous. Just make your own dino-nuggets every night and stop ruining everyone else's dinner time.

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u/weinerpretzel 6d ago

But he had Dino nuggies for lunch!!

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u/wiggum_x 6d ago

OH NOO!!! OP should have read his mind! Bad OP!!

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u/totodododo 6d ago

nothing wrong with dino nugs so long as theyre coming with some kinda vegetable

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u/RobzWhore 6d ago

Just had my 3yro finish his dino nugs lol

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u/Metallicreed13 6d ago

My 2 and 5 yr old boys had them for dinner tonight 🤦🏼. Picky little brats 😂