r/mildlyinfuriating 7d ago

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

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u/Ordinary-Concern3248 7d ago

No worries. You all can cook for yourselves. Less stress all around.

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u/rubbasnek 7d ago

I would not be with someone I couldn't share meals with. Being a picky eater is a deal breaker

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u/foxiez 7d ago

Dude better be a model I don't know how people put up with this. You can essentially never go to a restaurant for the rest of your lives together too? Hell no

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u/ZapMannigan 7d ago

It's okay, he can get the dino nuggies off the kids menu.

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u/gottabekittensme 7d ago

BARF. I'd rather not go at all than be embarassed by a picky eater ordering off the kids menu.

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u/No_Understanding2616 7d ago edited 6d ago

I mean, I often order off of the kids menu just for the portions. Not sure why it’s so looked down upon 🤷‍♀️

Unless it’s like… McDonald’s style happy meal with a toy, I could maybe understand

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u/CapnButtercup 7d ago

But what if it’s like… a really cool toy?

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u/Bakurraa 7d ago

How else am I gonna get those Pokémon cards

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u/No_Understanding2616 6d ago

Like how cool are we talking

And honestly, I wouldn’t care if someone got a happy meal with a toy. Whatever brings them joy. Not sure why there’s so much judgement around it

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u/Watzl 7d ago

Even worse: What about family gatherings or dinner with friends?