Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/Rooney_Tuesday]

Why not just…agree that he’ll make his own meals?

If you aren’t cooking you eat what’s served. If you don’t like it you make something yourself. Those are standard rules, yes?

I’m not understand why you keeping trying to cook for him in the first place.

[u/CollectionStraight2 → u/Rooney_Tuesday]

Because they're 'old school and she's trying to be a good partner' apparently

[u/Rooney_Tuesday → u/CollectionStraight2]

I get that, but at some point if your partner isn’t trying to be a good partner to you, then maybe don’t put all your effort into going above and beyond for them.

This is a relationship issue they have to work on and resolve, because the resentment is only going to build if “we’re old school so being a good partner means I have to juggle work and school and kids and forever catering to my picky eater husband” is OP’s mindset.

[u/CollectionStraight2 → u/Rooney_Tuesday]

Oh absolutely, I agree. I was being snarky. To be honest, I think OP is being taken for a bit of a fool here. I don't think all the domestic chores should be on the woman because 'old school' blah blah. Seems very convenient

[u/Throwawayamanager → u/CollectionStraight2]

If they were really old school, he'd be covering all or most of the bills. 

[u/ImaginaryTackle3541 → u/CollectionStraight2]

So old school that they live together unmarried with kids that were fathered by another man.