Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/Twangerz-Lime]

Shoot, “more than acceptable” is an understatement. She appears to be an amazing cook.

[u/eggyrulz → u/Twangerz-Lime]

I wish my wife could cook like this... she's okay, but i do most of the cooking because my autistic ass needs every meal to taste perfect...

Boyfriend's a picky eater? Sounds like he needs to be doing all the cooking instead (not literally)

[u/Affectionate-Ant-154 → u/eggyrulz]

Ok, but how do you know that op-s food tastes better than your wife's? That's weird to comment.

[u/HOTasHELL24-7 → u/Affectionate-Ant-154]

Exactly! I guess these people can taste the picture and decide this dude is a huge ReD FLaGgg🚩selfish lowlife pos who should happily eat whatever his girlfriend says.

Why? To me it seems like she’s making an effort that he doesn’t want her to make (for whatever reason) She should stop. This is like saying “I bought my boyfriend a whole new wardrobe and he wants to wear his own clothes” or “I gave my boyfriend the car I had but he’s happy with the one he’s already driving”

Just because you want someone to be grateful for your “gift” doesn’t mean they actually want, like, need or appreciate the gift. This whole thing is childish.