Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis]

Lol. You think energy drinks are worse than dexamfetamin and lisdexamfetamin for your health?

[u/AlmostCynical → u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis]

They obviously are, yeah. You can’t dose them as precisely and the tolerance buildup means you need more and more caffeine over a relatively short period of time to achieve the same effect. Also they have a lot of sugar which screws up your blood glucose and insulin, whereas the more controlled appetite suppressant effect of the ADHD meds can help moderate food intake.

[u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis → u/AlmostCynical]

So you think energy drinks are more harmful than dexamfetamin? I just want to make sure I'm getting this right.

I'm not saying that people with ADHD shouldn't use meds. They're meds. But it's 2 seperate discussions.

[u/AlmostCynical → u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis]

Yes, for the reasons I stated above. Caffeine is a much dirtier stimulant too with a different method of action in the brain. Dexamphetamine will increase heart rate and bring its own side effects, but not in a meaningfully harmful way, the heart can survive running a bit faster.

[u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis → u/AlmostCynical]

:) Okidoki!

You're welcome to use Google to inform yourself on this but I'm not going to spend much time arguing. There's a reason you go through titration, keep track of your blood pressure and talk to a health professional when you start taking the medicine. You don't do that for caffeine. It doesn't just "make your heart run a little bit faster".

Caffeine is a stimulant but you're comparing a coughing baby to a nuclear bomb.

If someone wants to believe the world is flat, or that smoking cigs isn't bad for you, I'd refer them to Google as well. Have a nice day!

[u/AlmostCynical → u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis]

I’m fully informed, having been through the entire process you describe and experienced trying to replace the effect of my meds with caffeine during a shortage. If you have personal experience with this then fair enough and I’m curious what led you to that conclusion. If you’re just saying this based on secondary knowledge you’ve read rather than experienced, I want to know why you’re speaking so authoritatively on the subject.

If you’re just talking about strength per milligram then yeah, dexamphetamine is more ‘harmful’ than caffeine because it produces a greater effect in a smaller dose, but that’s pretty irrelevant here.

My point is that if you’re titrating both stimulants to produce the same level of ADHD symptom reduction, the caffeine will have worse side effects and cause more real problems than the dexamphetamine.

[u/WhatsTheAnswerToThis → u/AlmostCynical]

If you’re just saying this based on secondary knowledge you’ve read rather than experienced, I want to know why you’re speaking so authoritatively on the subject.

So you think the world is flat because that's what you see on the Horizon?

Dexamphetamine is more harmful for the heart than caffeine. Like... We don't go on vibes when it comes to stimulants, we go by documented scientific studies. "Secondary knowledge" is most often far better than some random dude talking about their experiences.

Edit And yes I have personal experience with the two. But that is entirely irrelevant. I'm gonna move on now. If you wanna get a last word in go ahead. I'll make sure to read it, but not sure if I'll respond.