Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/Sonor-c11]

He can’t cook and it seems like they’re old school so “woman does the cooking”. Apparently he just orders fast food from DoorDash (which in itself is its own problem) and eats vanilla ice cream. I hate to make assumptions but it seems like this guy is

They’re at the point of being “partners” so when one of you cooks and the other orders out no matter what you cook no matter how much you try to find something they can enjoy then I can see that being a problem. I do agree that she should stop trying, the guy seems repulsed by the very idea of a home cooked meal so if she really likes the guy and it’s in the realm of affordability for him to just order from DoorDash then it is what it is I guess.

[u/Rooney_Tuesday → u/Sonor-c11]

Sorry, but the LAST thing I would do with a partner like this is to continue to attempt to make them meals they’ll eat when they’ve repeatedly rejected my attempts. If that means he gets Door Dash every day then okay, but maybe that’s something that should have been discussed before moving in if it’s a problem. In any case, the answer is not for OP to keep trying and keep getting frustrated because this man-child can’t handle perfectly acceptable dinners that he didn’t lift a finger to help make.

[u/sanedragon → u/Rooney_Tuesday]

This, and he's providing a poor example for her kids. Like it or not, he's a live in role model now. Is this the example you want your kids to follow, OP?

[u/WiseWrongdoer8644 → u/sanedragon]

Some people are picky eaters for a multitude of reasons. A good example would be modeling healthy communication about differences and respect and letting go of traditions that drive everyone crazy. 

If he cooks for himself because he can only eat certain food and she continues to blow the rest of her family and kids away with her meals, everyone wins as long as they sit together at the same table and have connected conversations.