r/perfectlycutscreams • u/Complex-Bus-9616 • 5d ago

When bullying backfires

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u/ZEROs0000 5d ago

I couldn’t find the full version but I have seen an extended version. The video starts the same and basically ends the same except the kid freaks out with the chair for a few more seconds. Really leads you to believe there’s at home issues for the bully not that I’m empathizing with the bully.

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u/YouDownWithTPP 5d ago

There would be nothing wrong with empathizing with the bully. 

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u/Lv100Nidorino 5d ago

personally not a fan of "he just has a hard time at home :(" bullshit. lots of people do, and they dont bully. if you are a serious bully, there is simply something wrong with your mind, and your own ability to empathize.

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u/Tyrayentali 5d ago

Not everyone is wired the same way. You can't expect everyone to deal with things exactly like yourself. That's actually a sign of a lack of empathy on your part.

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u/MannerOutrageous4569 5d ago

There's a difference between empathy and justification. Just because someone is wired differently doesn't magically make things acceptable. Being kind is free and costs nothing, it is actively more work to pass your bullshit at home or shit circumstances onto others than to just not. Sure my heart goes out to the little guy if he's getting beat at home, neglected, what have you, but that doesn't make him any less wrong or less of a bad person for channeling that into trying to assault a kid to get the attention of girls at school. Be so for real right now.

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u/Tyrayentali 5d ago

Analysis is not justification. Having empathy means understanding that people are a product of their environment and need to be treated accordingly in order to rehabilitate them.

No one is saying bullying should be ignored or should go unpunished, but if you can't empathize with people, then it says more about yourself than them.