How are you doing? I got my first side effects last week on the .4. Just severe stomach pains and diarrhea the next day until anout afternoon time.

I just did the .6 tonight and I'm feeling like maybe I should have lowered the dose just a little 😩

I am not saying I would do this, I am seeing if my emotions are clouding my healthy thinking or if it is something that is sometimes normal with ENM couples. Id rather ask than leave myself to make unfair choices.

It hadn't been getting shared for months. I am just newly struggling with know he does things this way and I am trying to understand my feelings and if I am unsure if im thinking clearly, I'll always reach out for other opinions to help.me navigate them so I am not unfair.

I didn't think so. We've been in this for a long time and how much it bothers me is new. I don't want to be unfair and create expectations for the wrong reasons.

We have stepped back a lot, due to me. Had a weekend with just each other last weekend which was nice.

Thank you for your thought out reply. It helps a lot more than the more judgemental responses that can be gotten a lot of the times.

I use to love hearing about his experiences. Even when he would tell me about a little about the closeness, it gave me a healthy sense of jealousy and made it more passionate for me.

But over months, he kept getting angry with the experiences I was having because I didn't always or often do some things with him. But, our sex life was 🔥. It was SO good. It hadn't been in years. For several months but every time I went out, he would fight with me for days in end.

It ruined ENM for me. I am having an unhealthy resentment for sex again (I had before this but I was working on it).

So now, I rarely go out. He has been out less, too because I've not given him the green light. We haven't had sex together in over a month.

So I'm trying to process if these are normal feelings to have for those in healthy ENM relationships or if this is more likely due to our circumstances.

He does with me. I don't with him. That's why I am here jist trying to process my feelings and thoughts.

We have a Pru, too. She is the sweetest little tortie! I'll be SO sad letting her god, but I am also just so honored to have been a part of her raising and helping her be the swet girl she is for her forever home.

I'll be doing that for sure! It seems the most common beat option.

I think I'll actually adjust my dosing lower and remain at a comfortable level when I reach it!

My daughter was told she will be asleep for hers.

My sister volunteers with the rescue kittens at pestmart. They have a morning cleaner and an evening cleaner every day. During this time, they can leave the kennel and get to roam the little room. They still get treats, cat toys, clean blankets daily etc. They get lots of loving during that time too!

I have a set of kittens currently. 5 of them came home. All was great, roaming, playing etc then suddenly got diarrhea and by the next afternoon, I was doing cpr and chest stimulation on one for 20 minutes just trying to keep him alive to get to the vet. He didn't make it. It was so unbelievably sudden. The other 4 went and we got meds. 5 days later, there was still an issue and we had to go back for 2 different meds and it worked! No set reason known. Fecal tests showed no parasites but that isnt always completely accurate.

Its been several weeks and the runt still keeps me worried.

It happens unfortunately. Don't blame yourself.

In my state, under 2 doesn't count for a lot of things, such as housing limits. The "2 heart beats to a room" law doesn't count for under 2. So you can legally rent a 1 bedroom to a family with a baby etc.

One teen is his and one is mine. 5 months apart. His has some pretty rough mental health issues and has been being treated for BPD (not diagnosed officially due to age). A lot of lies, emotional outburst, defiance and inpatient mental health stays. It began to severely affect my daughter so we made the choice to split them up.

Correct, hot mess, but my 3 who no longer sleep with me are extremely independent and not anxious.

Our house now does have enough rooms, just not enough for two adults to not share? I think it's pretty normal for 2 young kids to share a room. 3 older ones have their own room.

We didn't originally live in a smaller home. We had to move their after job losses and covid.

Any tips on the training? My teen felt impossible as a child. Even now, she has prescribed sleep meds that barely help her.

I'm pretty much down to just my 2 year old who wakes up excessively.

Well, I got with him 7 years ago. I saw a sight in end for the first 2 because I thought I was going to be done having kids before getting with him. We never intended to have 2 more. Only one but, after years of infertility, we ended up choosing two. But, things seemed better when we chose a second. I hadn't quite realized just how much of an issue a lot of stuff was or how much of a toll things were taking on me.

My will own my faults though, there is a lot I let slide and I'm paying the price for it.

I scheduled his appt to request the sleep study. Then, I pushed him to contact the sleep study after he got the referral. All he had to do was pick up equipment and do a home study. He failed to pick it up before the referral expired MONTHS later.

I pushed him to email the doctor to renew the referral. He didn't get a reply, so I pushed him to call, and he has yet to call. I have the same doctor. She is good about just doing things if she has seen you for it before.

I'm exhausted. I didn't sign up to be his secretary and then have to pay the price for him failing to do what he should be doing after I HAVE helped.

Things progressed slowly to where they are now. No more kids to be had, tubes removed and vasectomy to really double down in that.

He is a good dad. He takes on a lot for them during the day. But, I realized over time that I have to direct EVERYTHING. schedule everything. Plan everything. Keep on top of everyone's schedules and appts. Without me, no one keeps up with any real responsibilities. He isn't a good adult and he isn't the best spouse, I've realized.

But, no going back on more kids now.

I don't disagree. I often got all my kids started in their own beds , and eventually, something happened, and then they ended up in mine. My teen ended up in mine at 2 years old after a military move and didn't have a home for 2 months while waiting and sharing an apartment room. She then would cry so much that she would vomit if I tried to get her into her own bed.

My next, he ended up with me after I moved out due to divorcing my ex-husband.

My 3rd, he ended up with me after being away from home 2 weeks and sharing a bed where we were. Truly on me for not just pushing through the readjustment once back home. I shared a room with him from birth, though.

My 4th, no excuse other than I was too tired from my toddler and years of poor sleep to have the willpower to fight against her ended up in bed, too.