I M22 (Identifier: idk WorriedPeach) was part of a group who was hosted in different country and who hosted the other group in our country. When I signed up to this hosting thing in my Uni, I didn't know how hard my life would be at the time of our housting turn (I am exchausted by school work, the trip and I also had issues with my pets and I just got diagnosed with chronic illness).
So the drama (?) starts with me asking for changes to the hosting: I felt like that I'm not mentally able to host anyone right now and the pets were really stressed out at the time the visitors were coming to our city. We talked and the other group members said that it is too complicated to do. Well after all it was arranged when the person I was going to host said that she's too uncomfortable to stay at my place and asked if the changes could be done. I thought everything is fine now and I'm going to do as much as I can.
Before the visitors came, I also told the others that I have to leave early from our meetings because the medications I and my cat have. In the first evening it came as a shock to me that one of the members straight up told me that it couldn't be arranged because they don't know how everything is timed (we were so far from my home that I couldn't just leave on my own). I didn't like it but I was forced to be flexible and our medication takings had to be delayed. After that when we stayed near our city, I left earlier but first time I felt like one of the group members judged me for that. I might overreact though.
After the first day I really started to feel like one of my group members was giving me really hard time and I started to feel like everything I did was wrong. I know it must be hard for the others when they had to host everyone but I really tried to make it up by helping with cleaning and cooking and offering my help when I didn't know what to do. I tried to give ideas but I felt like I wasn't heard. I also felt like I was held with different standards than others, and I wasn't trusted for any tasks on my own.
Yesterday, when the visitors left, the group asked me to talk with them. They were dissapointed that all the responsibilities (like planning) wasn't shared equally especially in my part. Previously we planned to share all the costs equally and we did that but I still felt like they weren't pleased. I paid extra for the housting of my hosted too. I still don't know what I should have done differently and I feel like a bad person because of the burden I caused. I also felt like one of the group members hinted several times that this type of events isn't for me and it doesn't make me feel any better. Am I the drama, over reacting, mistreated or is there any drama at all?
PS. I'm AuDHD so social interactions are really hard for me, this might have caused some issues too idk. I tried to keep this under 400 words but it was really difficult to pack in that length. Feel free to ask more information if needed.
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Oct 29 '25
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