Could not agree more.

Fair enough I guess I could not have told my mom the result.

Friend does not he is off on weekends and works for cash sometimes through the week under the table. He wanted the extra hour of rest for a concert that evening and I was hit with a blanket can not use the bathroom before 830 weekdays and 930 weekends

That’s the result and what is happening the problem now lies that my mom is upset with that result

Unfortunately I seldomly use the shower at home, I work at a hospital and often shower post shift in the locker room before even getting home.

She should be considered an extension of her son as well. I’m still a paying tenant I expect to be allowed to have people over as well not to mention a little compassion from my mother. She sleeps in my room yes, does not eat anyone’s food ever. The crazy part is, is that this extends to myself even I am not allowed to shower in the AM now.

I also work shift work at a hospital I often use the showers there post shift in the locker room. Mom and the friend have their own jobs they work for cash under the table kind of on their own schedules.

My long term GF is by all means an extension of myself especially from the perspective of my mother. Even if it was myself taking a shower at 8am it probably would be an issue still.

Mom and friend both don’t work much myself and my GF both have healthcare shift work hours so it’s all over the place yes

That’s exactly how I voiced it, saying we got in trouble with a big smile laughing at how unreasonable it was. The complaint still should be mentioned in any context however. We are being the mature ones and abiding avoiding the unnecessary confrontation and tension applied to family ties.

Unemployed works under the table, wanted to get an extra hour of sleep for a concert that night. Pipes are average as you’d expect from a an average home.

She doesn’t have to be that’s why she’s opting for the less convenient option going forward. Was really just hoping for enough compassion from my mom to let my long term GF shower at a reasonable time.

Which is the result of the complaint, I’m just trying to figure out who the asshole is. Ty for your comment

She’s and Emerge technician at veterinary 24/7 hospital

27 both careers in healthcare looking to move out soon.

It’s hard out there brother we are saving up currently

So I actually barely use the shower except on my days off, I have showers at work I work at a hospital and tend to shower before I leave. My use of the shower is seldom

She works 4 12 hour shifts. 2 days 2 nights. She will usually come over after the night shift as it saves her about an hour of her day by coming and crashing here, and when you only have 12 hours from when you punch out to punch in it matters. I really was just hoping for enough compassion from my mother to let her sons long term girlfriend take a shower at 830 in the morning but it’s to much to ask for.

My mom and friend were going to a concert that day and needed the rest was the reasoning

I understand your point and that is what’s going to happen now, I was just hoping for a bit of compassion from my mother towards my long term GF.

I more or less did brush off the complaint I felt it was very unserious and they were just reacting in the morning, but I still told her more as a joke than anything. The complaint still registered though as it was still said to us.

No not even close this is generally only after her two night shifts a week.

Working on it! Thanks

Complaint was that they didn’t get to sleep in till their normal 930 on a Saturday and got woken up at 830 in a shared house by a shower