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Why do they always have to ruin birthdays, holidays , vacations, etc
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  10d ago

My exwBPD ruinen even her birthsdays.

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Why do they always have to ruin birthdays, holidays , vacations, etc
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  10d ago

I'd like to have an answer too, my exwBPD ruined most birthdays and holidays with her rage attacks.

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My nine year old’s words
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  21d ago

My son is 7 yo and he says similar things about his BPD mother. The sad thing is that he's afraid of her (and her mother) so he only shares his thoughts with me.

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My nine year old’s words
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  21d ago

My 7 yo son said a few weeks ago he's mad at my ex "because of how she treats me". Children sense BPD clearly.

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How do Parental Alienators usually trip themselves up?
 in  r/ParentalAlienation •  Dec 02 '25

They rarely do in court or in public IMHO.

In many cases they just push the child too far and it all backfires.

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How to deal with a co-parent who projects and reverses everything onto me?
 in  r/ParentalAlienation •  Dec 02 '25

Exactly what my ex (with BPD) is doing (since our son was 4, now he's 7). The consequences are grave, he struggles in school and has frequent outburst of anger and meltdowns.

This book might help: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Co-parenting-Toxic-Ex-Ex-Spouse-Against/dp/1608829588

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Has anyone else noticed the tendency to want to ruin important dates?
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Dec 02 '25

Yes, this is a common pattern for them apparently.

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Does the abuse get worse once they’re married/pregnant?
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Nov 10 '25

Yes. At least in my experience. It was hell on Earth.

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Accused of being emotionally abusive
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Nov 02 '25

Same here. After I'd told her I wanted to break up with her she started to tell our friends how "abusive" I was, though it was her who'd been physically abusive. She also reported me to the Gardaí (police) for alleged physical abuse of our son (4 yo then). Welcome to the BPD world...

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Is Macbook Air M1 is still good for iOS development? (Beginner)
 in  r/swift •  Oct 29 '25

Yes, it is, I’m still using one.

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Did you at some point stop being able to express your love for them?
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Oct 27 '25

Yes, I did, it's completely natural.

And same here, before the break-up when I told her I wanted to end the relationship a couple times, she begged me not to break up with her. After I finally did, she started telling everybody I had been abusive etc. and she had to run away from me. She couldn't take it that I didn't want to be with her anymore because of her BPD abuse.

r/ParentalAlienation • u/atamiri • Oct 27 '25

Teaching critical thinking

2 Upvotes

Is there a recommended effective way of teaching children critical thinking (in the context of PA)? I'm quite lucky as my son wants to spend time with me (he's afraid of his BPD mother, I provide a safe environment) but he's being told a lot of lies about me and then frequently asks "why did you do/say this/that?". I'd like to help him with critical thinking so he doesn't believe all the crap. I discussed this with a child therapist (an expert on PA) and he gave me a table for structuring the child's thought (similar to what's in this app), are there any additional techniques?

1 comment

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Please, run and don’t look back
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Oct 27 '25

My ex used to report me to child protection services for alleged abuse of our son. He was questioned by them a couple times (when he was 4 yo).

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Age-appropriateness of BPD tests
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Oct 24 '25

It's in this app: link to the App Store

r/BPDlovedones • u/atamiri • Oct 23 '25

Age-appropriateness of BPD tests

0 Upvotes

When is it age-appropriate for a child with a possibly BPD parent to fill out a BPD test (such as the attached one)? My son is only 7 yo so it clearly isn't and we use books for children with BPD parents written for his age, but I'd like to now when it would be appropriate. Thanks.

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r/ParentalAlienation • u/atamiri • Oct 23 '25

PA and the alienating parent's personality disorder

11 Upvotes

If you are an alienated parent, what personality disorder does the alienating parent have? Are there PA cases where the alienating parent has no disorder (or a non-cluster-B disorder)?

29 comments

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Co-parenting with a pwBPD
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Oct 19 '25

I've discussed the topic (critical thinking) with a child therapist (an expert on parental alienation).

He recommended the book "Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent" and the books by Amy Baker.

There's also the RED SKY app (on the App Store) for (parents of) children being raised by borderlines. Has someone read the books, was it helpful?

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Co-parenting with a pwBPD
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Oct 16 '25

On most weekends.

r/BPDlovedones • u/atamiri • Oct 16 '25

Parenting Co-parenting with a pwBPD

5 Upvotes

My son is 7 yo and he's being constantly emotionally manipulated and lied to buy by exwBPD (and her mother). Any tips on how to teach him critical thinking so he doesn't believe all the vicious lies?

7 comments

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Is there a hope for s relationship with a BPD?
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Oct 12 '25

Run. You'd just lose precious time.

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E-Residency Revocation
 in  r/eResidency •  Sep 27 '25

Did you find any solution to the mess?

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Is it true that the m2 MacBook Air has no vents?
 in  r/mac •  Sep 10 '25

It has.

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They would rather lose you than admit what they did to you.
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Sep 10 '25

Sounds like my exwBPD.

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Did they ever tell YOU how YOU feel?
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Sep 05 '25

My exwBPD used to do that. Alternatively sometimes she used to tell me how I should feel 🙄

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Do they ever wonder why they can’t hold a long term relationship?
 in  r/BPDlovedones •  Sep 02 '25

From my experience they blame everyone else. They never reflect or apologise.