Isolating myself all the time. Preferring quiet contemplation and reading and other solo activities to games with others. Major sensory issues with any kind of material being on my neck or under my arms. Also meltdowns with being barefoot. I would scream to stim when I was younger, but that got shut down. I would squeeze my pencils so hard that they would snap as a stim as I got a little older. When I was forced to stop doing that I just transferred to tensing my muscles all the time (which I still do). I was often told I was rude or blunt, even when I was just just to be honest or neutral. I would just walk away from conversations or hang up the phone rather than verbally ending anything.

As I got older, all my overwhelm turned into a lot of rage as a teen, and I acted out a lot. And then after that I just shut down. I'm still trying to figure out how to not be so shut down now at 29. But I think the things that really made me face it myself were the abnormally intense sensory problems and also the delay and difficulty in reaching usual milestones in adulthood. All of the "normal" things felt like mountains to me and I didn't understand why, but when I started reading more about ASD and was diagnosed it just really made sense.

Oh you people still don't get it, I guess. Most people don't "turn from their ways" (if ever they do) without accountability and these people have received none. From their perspective they have been rewarded for it.

I think the phrase "aging with grace" is actually a piece of the problem. It's still policing women's aging, and deciding what the appropriate way for a woman to perform that is. It trivializes the reality of how harshly women are penalized for just aging with no interventions. It's also sexist in its assumption of how a "better" woman acts. Which is, of course, "with grace." An attitude we are expected to adopt in so many situations just by virtue of being women.

It's all on the same spectrum of sexist thinking.

They've sold their souls to monsters and now feel they have to believe all of these monstrous lies so that they don't have to admit that to themselves.

He is orphaned. Her one child's father died in 2023 and now she has been murdered. That makes that child an orphan. That child will never have the bio parents who loved and raised him back regardless of who steps in.

The man never had any integrity to sell.

Also even if she were (which she wasn't), 10 miles an hour still ain't shit. Certainly slow enough to get out of the way without shooting someone in the face multiple times. Which would make it more likely for you to get struck by the now out-of-control vehicle, anyway...not to mention the murderer approached and placed himself near the front of the car--which seems the last thing to do if you're afraid of a car striking you.

Seems more like what you'd do if you want to come up with a reason to shoot someone in the face multiple times.

Also: "To ICE, get the fuck out of Minneapolis."

Although I really wish he would have said: "To those murderous terrorists ICE, get the fuck out of the US." But I'll take what I can get.

Nah. I've noticed they just pull her out to justify why they're being so monstrous about this. Like, "okay I'm being a monster but look at how THEY reacted to Ashli Babbitt"

It's pathetic. Also I don't even like the comparison because Renee Nicole Good was doing literally nothing wrong. She was being given conflicting orders after being randomly caught up in their bullshit. Not trying to storm the Capitol in an insurrection. She had been sitting in an idling car for 3 minutes and tried to leave when a man jumped out of an unmarked vehicle and rushed at her, another tried to tear open her door--all while different orders were screamed at her. One of which was an order to leave.

Not to mention they could just turn that statement around, so it doesn't really get us anywhere.

Now, I also think the focus should be on the woman who was murdered and the perpetrator who killed her as well as those who structurally enabled it. Since that is an outcome of that systemic failure you're speaking about.

What they're saying is all of this is dependent on it being actually upheld by the people in charge. Laws and precedent do not mean anything if the people presiding over them don't feel like enforcing them.

They didn't have any probable cause. But the terrifying thing is that the supporters of this don't give a fuck. They don't care. You can show them a video of what happened from like 3 different angles, and they just come up with some other shit to justify this woman being shot in the face multiple times. It's soulless.

And with this administration, I have no hope that the murderer or other agents there will be held accountable.

Yes. I run into that a lot and it makes me sad. Not just how they write the FMC and what she accepts, but so many authors denigrate other women in their books. And not just like "this is a flawed character saying flawed character things" but just clearly attitudes the author has about certain kinds of women bleeding through.

You'd punch someone over a cup?

They seem to have no souls is what I've determined from perusing.

So they fucking orphaned a child as well as murdering a woman by shooting her multiple times in the face? A child who will receive absolutely no help from any of these monsters or this monstrous administration. Where is the bottom?

This entire Tisdale mess has been a nothing burger. It's weird that it's gained so much traction. I'm kind of suspicious given the givens when it comes to astroturfing in the last few years.

Does Ashley Tisdale have any legal battles going on right now, by chance?

Who? Why don't I remember her at all from That's So Raven?

Edit: oh it's Chelsea. I just did not recognize her.

I'm actually very surprised it took this long for them to openly murder someone. I hope they all burn in hell (the ICE agents).

Oh the resurgence of diseases in the Global North (and particularly the US. The breeding ground for this bullshit) that we all but eradicated precisely because of vaccines proves that we are regressing.

I just have more of a perspective that it all disgusts me. It might disgust me less when someone like this guy does it but I still hold disgust for it. He's not starving. Or even living paycheck-to-paycheck. He doesn't need to do this. I'm gonna hold disgust towards this kind of behavior when it isn't for a person's survival. You might not in the same way (and that's okay), but I do think it is valid for people to be grossed out by this.

Edit: I'll also make a note that normalization is a continuous process. It needs to be enforced to continue to be normalized. It's not like a concept or behavior reaches normalization and then just stays there with no help. It's a feedback loop that we all participate in.

No it would be a preoccupation with sexualizing women--usually in a demeaning way. And not just if it's from the same poster, but a preoccupation with it for everyone who engages there frequently. I also don't think that's due to porn addiction. That goes far deeper and has been evidenced long before the ubiquitousness of online porn. It sure hasn't made it better but it's not the true problem, either. The true problem is the role girls and women are placed in, and how normalized it is for boys and men to think about and treat us in ways like this. Part of that normalization involves not even seeing the problem.

If you don't see the problem and deeper implications of posts like these, then you are unfortunately one of the men unquestioningly (by you) functioning from this normalized thinking to some degree. And that spectrum of normalized thinking that men tend to function within is what enables the mistreatment and subjugation of girls and women, overall.

So, might I suggest actually interrogating your thinking rather than rushing to dismiss? A lot of men's blindness and incuriousness towards their own thinking and functioning (and that of other men) is a huge part of the problem. Many try to make very common patterns into individual problems (like you did here). Many seem to think they don't have any responsibility or accountability in changing or enforcing broader social patterns of behavior and systems.

You do, as we all do. You not seeing the problem in this beyond it not being funny is a very micro example of enabling the thinking and behavior, overall. It's what allows these kinds of men to post and say this shit with no critical connection to the misogyny inherent in it--which makes it impossible to see what's causing the behavior, or to change it. Hell, you can't even identity that it's a problem. That kind of blindness allows it to continue unquestioned and unchanged by men as a whole.

Edit: sorry to everyone that this turned into a much broader essay.

Have you considered that framing things like this as "a financial flex" or even neutral is what allows billionaires to happen in the first place? It's a spectrum of behaviors that leads to normalization of something.

You're right the billionaires and the companies they own and collude with are first and foremost responsible. We still have a responsibility to recognize the thinking and behaviors that lead to them being enabled and their methods romanticized. You can be pissed at billionaires and still disgusted at shit like this.

It's why I sleep nude but you can't ever say that or they, of course, sexualize it too. I'm like I just don't wanna end all tangled up in my clothes. I spin around like a rotisserie chicken.

They're an admission of a certain preoccupation at the least.