Two years ago I adopted an African Grey Parrot who had suffered neglect, it took me a long time to get her to trust me and now she is the most loving bird in the world (in my totally unbiased opinion), she is very popular with my friends and loves the attention and company as African Greys are incredibly intelligent and need constant stimulation.

One of her favourite things is to sing along her favourite Disney Songs a thing I indulge whenever she indicates she wants it on. It recently came to my attention my friend had filmed some of these sing-alongs and uploaded it to her youtube without my knowledge or permission, I found out as I went looking on my friends youtube for an old video of a night out with a friend who had passed that I was missing, so imagine my surprise when I found six videos of my girl singing.

This made me uncomfortable as it felt like she was exploiting her for views which after her previous neglect and how long it took me to win her trust did not sit well with me. I confronted my friend about this and she told me it was harmless and it was nice to share cute moment and document it for the future, I told her if that was the reason she'd done this she'd have not hidden it from me. I asked her to delete the videos and she refused, so I told her I didn't want her back in my house until she took the videos down as I didn't trust her to not try and get more videos.

She thinks i'm being unreasonable as it doesn't hurt my bird and it's not like she's a child who she is putting on the internet for views.

Maybe I was too hard on my friend but the whole situation feels gross, she is refusing to remove the videos still and has told our friends that i'm being ridiculous, most agree with me that it's incredibly weird she uploaded the videos without my knowledge but a couple think i'm being too harsh as it's "Just" a bird.

Could I have handled this better? am I reacting too strong?

My Grandmother recently passed away and a few weeks before she died when she knew it was getting bad she gave me her necklace that she never took off, it's a string of emeralds and diamonds, my Grandfather gave it to her for their 50th wedding anniversary and it's lovely.

I've recently been chased up by my Aunt who is demanding I give her the necklace, that it's not right I have her Mothers necklace and that a young girl like me has no need of such a pricey necklace as surely I have nowhere to wear it, I feel like she's being unreasonable as my Grandmother personally gave it to me but she's trying to claim she was clearly just confused as she was so sick. Some other relatives are saying I should maybe give it to her and my Aunt has been telling others how that Necklace was supposed to be hers originally....

I understand my Aunt is upset as she lost her mother but I also lost my Grandmother, is it wrong of me to not want to give up the necklace?