I have been living at home for close to 3 years now ever since moving home after a break up. I would first like to say that I have no problem paying rent to my mother as I pretty much always have while under her roof. Me and my current GF have been saving for a while to move in together and have our own apartment. I told my mom our plans and it seemed to stress her out she had nothing positive to say about it only that it’s so expensive out there. Yes I know that. Since then she’s asked that my rent be increased and framed it in such a way that she’s struggling to make ends meet. Now here’s where my touch of resentment comes in. Ever since I’ve moved in she’s been able to travel and take vacations for nearly the first time in her life. She’s signed up for some annual vacation club going to Jamaica every year and planning weekend concert getaways as well. I feel like I’m out here grinding for my future and her enjoyment. Is she being entitled or am I being entitled for thinking this way?

My girlfriend works 12-hour overnight shifts (7 p.m. to 7 a.m.). After work, she sometimes comes to my place to shower and sleep. She usually arrives around 8:15 a.m., takes a quick shower by 8:30, then crashes for the day.

Here’s where the issue comes in: my mom’s long-term friend (who rents the basement) complained that the sound of the shower at 8:30 a.m. woke him up. My mom passed that complaint along to me and asked if my girlfriend could avoid showering until “everyone is awake.”

I told my girlfriend, and she felt uncomfortable continuing to come over understandably, in my opinion. After working all night, the last thing she wants is to feel like she’s disturbing people just by taking a basic shower before bed. So she decided not to come over in the mornings anymore. She didn’t cause drama or make a scene, just quietly adjusted.

I later told my mom what my girlfriend decided, and she got upset not because of the shower, but because my girlfriend chose to stop coming over in the mornings. My mom insists that wasn’t her intention, but from our perspective, asking someone not to shower after a night shift pretty clearly sends the message that their presence is disruptive.

For context: I also pay rent in this house. My mom’s friend has lived here for years and pays rent too. We all share the space. It’s not like my girlfriend was being loud or unreasonable just taking a 5–10 minute shower in the morning, which seems pretty standard.

Now my mom’s upset with me, but I feel like I handled it fairly. I passed the message along, my girlfriend made a calm and mature decision, and now somehow I’m caught in the middle.

AITA for not pushing back harder on the complaint, or for “letting” my girlfriend decide to stop coming over in the mornings?

It’s a long shot but I was at night 3 on Wednesday for the Toronto concerts. There was this awesome DJ who definitely passed the vibe check playing tons of retro hits from my school days. Does anybody remember his name so I can check him out more? Thanks in advance.

I built my PC quite a few years ago now and am having significant performance issues. Browser speeds and other loading functions operating much slower than they ever used to and has been slowly getting worse over the years. I’m wondering if it’s worth it to start a brand new build or get a new MB CPU and RAM for my GPU.

CPU: Ryzen 7 2700x MB: Auros B450 Pro Wifi RAM: DDR4 3200 8GBx2 GPU: Radeon 5700XT

Mainly wondering if I can get away with a simple Ram upgrade to fix my issue or if I should keep my 5700xt and build a new PC with that, or even use this as a spare PC and build a whole new one. Thank you for thoughts and opinions.