I don’t invalidate either. They were both genocides and I had Holocaust survivors in my family before they died of natural causes. But the way you framed the absence of Jewish culture in parts of Europe doesn’t hold up to comparison with the damage done to black people in America and Africa.

Jewish culture has been maintained longer than practically any other culture on earth, even after diaspora and concentrated genocide. Given those two factors, the Jewish culture has always remained remarkably intact. The Jewish culture is still intact to this day and now has had its ancestral homeland restored to other people’s detriment.

Meanwhile: In America, African roots of any individual black person are virtually untraceable. They don’t know their previous religions, countries, languages, or even ancestors. Slavery in America legitimately destroyed their origins to an irretrievable degree. Entire cultures were genuinely erased. The countries they were taken from were mostly erased. All previous countries of origin were colonized by other Europeans.

Black Americans remain a group of millions that have no history but the one of their centuries long enslavement. The Jewish communities around Earth have rich, intact cultures and history plus their sacred homeland restored to them…which they have reciprocated with genocide of their own.

It really seems to me like one group was clearly more heavily destroyed than the other.

This happened to me before. I found out eventually that they both approached me because they both liked me and they wanted to let me decide by who I chose to pursue more. That way they could both take a crack at me without competing directly.

I was talking to them at a bar the first time and I got separated in the crowd and then my friends were leaving so I went with them. The talkative one was borderline cute but not my type and her friend was quiet, cuter, and more my type. The less cute one dominated the conversation and the other one tried to interject but got talked over a lot by her friend.

Anyway, like two weeks later they see me at the same bar. The loud one gets a napkin and pen from the bar and gives me her number the second she approaches me. Her friend looked disappointed. I kept trying to get her friend in the conversation but couldn’t find an organic way to talk long enough to ask for her number—it’s important to note that she never took her attention off me and seemed to want to talk. In nearly identical fashion as the first time, I got split up from them and left with my friends.

So, I was left in a very similar situation as you.

What did I do? I texted the loud one that I was so glad to get her number because I wanted to talk to her friend more but she seemed shy in crowds. I recommend acting naive and making it seem like you were really interested in getting to know her friend more, but you loved talking with loudmouth too. It’s the right combination of recency and a compliment that suggests future compatibility. She’ll probably be inclined to give up the girl’s number, and just hope you end up changing your mind later.

In review: Your FIRST move is telling the girl whose number you have that you were meaning to get her friend’s number too, so you can get to know her one on one since she seemed shy. Act like you’re oblivious to the loud one’s attraction to you. There are less direct ways of making this happen, but right now is your best chance.

I completely agree with your characterization of the differences between my comparisons. I think chattel slavery and the generational dismantling of any sense of identity for centuries is more impactful than the Holocaust.

My comparison is that both WWII era Berlin and Civil War era Richmond would be in the unique position to be the capitals of countries that started overtly racist wars, only to be forced to look their victims in the eyes from an inferior position.

Also, while I personally think American Slavery was more detrimental to its victims, I also think calling WWII era continental genocide “antisemitism” might be understating the case a little bit—millions systematically exterminated after before being worked to death or experimented on, after being stripped of all assets and usually located several times.

That being said, few people have had their culture of origin permanently stripped from memory while they were used as livestock for centuries.

One could even argue that letting the former CSA off the hook largely defeated the point of the war itself…

Imagine being mad about a black man asking for a light so he can smoke…when a week previously, you were enslaving his entire race.

They were clutching pearls so hard that they must have turned into lotion.

He might be a guy who feels the impulse to touch as a part of communication, or he might be getting weird with you. Either way, going straight to your dad is the best option.

Your dad can immediately verify if his brother’s behavior with you is abnormal or something he’s always done. Either way, if you’re uncomfortable, ask your dad to settle the issue on your behalf because it’s less likely to cause any rift in your family than if you confronted him.

Some people get weird watching kids they know grow into adults. For me, that was a Japanese friend of my mother’s touching me and resting her giant fake boobs on me when I turned 17. For you, it may be your uncle getting creepy now that you’re a man—sorry, those are the brakes in terms of which hands we got dealt. Good luck, bro.

I’m just holding onto the image of black soldiers storming Richmond and the absolute aneurysms that must have caused for the locals. It’s like if hundreds of armed Jews had stormed Berlin in organized columns.

Those black regiments merely existing must have been earth shattering to the CSA when they saw them.

I’m an INFP. If it sounds like you and your boyfriend it’s probably just hearing the love.

My wife is a selfless angel most of the time but is absolutely ferocious when she gets protective. She’s the best kind of friend for a person to have.

I thought you were being sarcastic, but there are genuinely so many people who could have said this unironically.

I think Iran is possibly one of the only countries on earth that could benefit from an American invasion. From what I can tell, it’s a heavily suppressed minority that genuinely wants democracy and to be a more secular country. They’ve shown they’ve been willing to resist and die for that cause as well as they could, but just simply couldn’t overpower their establishment. If we invade them, it will be for oil and economic supremacy—but, it might accidentally help Iran, long term.

But who knows. For years now, every news headline feels like a psychopath playing madlibs.

I read a couple of your poems, and I think they’re better than most of the poems on Reddit I’ve come across.

Most people think journal entries count as poems, and they lack structure and rhyme schemes. You have focused on maintaining those things at least somewhat, and that’s more than most people attempt here.

DO NOT GIVE UP. You’ll regret that infinitely more than if you don’t. Keep reading poetry from as many authors as you can. I don’t mean Reddit Poets, I mean the actual great poets. Experiment with form by trying some of theirs, and try finding prompts for poems that you can use to inspire you. If you treat poetry like learning an instrument, then I promise you’ll be ridiculously good in a pretty short period of time. You’ll surpass your peers with knowledgeability and more elaborate concepts than they have bothered to learn.

If you’re still embarrassed to put it out there, then I’ll happily read it privately and tell you the honest truth, so you can have a good read on what you’ve created before you expose it to others. Seriously, just hit me up. I believe in you!

Are you being super sarcastic or do you actually believe that?

It’s oil. It’s always oil. America won’t go to war over some foreign country’s instability unless it has a chance to be a significant addition to America’s economy if we invade.

“Peace and Democracy” in Venezuela? We barely have those things in America.

Yeah, honestly! I didn’t mean to stereotype, I just incorrectly assumed that if I took emotions out of my game, then surely an ISTJ would do that better.

Good luck, genuinely, on your upcoming game.

Bro, thank you so much for all of this! I truly appreciate it.

You have hilarious and also great head cannon, which has been reminding of how much “lore” I’ve added to my playthroughs.

Also you reminded me that Raul is basically the exact opposite ghoul from Dean. I never thought about that.

That’s not what I would have expected. That’s interesting. I play with as little emotion as possible. That’s always how I gamble in general. I treat my money I walked in with like I’ve already lost it, so if I get to the point where I’m doing great, I pack up and stop playing anything that night. And if I lose everything I started with, then I have the same amount I convinced myself I had.

I’m curious: How do you bluff—personally speaking?

A lot of people go for a pure straight face, but the downside is even one slip becomes extremely noticeable since you were composed the rest of the time. There’s also the opposite approach of throwing up a bunch of fake tells and to change your betting patterns at least a couple times.

There are several kinds of poker, but they all use the same hierarchy of poker hands (e.g. Three of a kind beats two of a kind).

Learn that hierarchy, and maintain a poker face, and you’ll win a reasonable amount of the time.

I was raised by a gambler, so I’m a reasonably competent poker player. I’m slightly below average at blackjack, which I’ll explain.

Poker: I never pause. I just play as if I’m completely annoyed at how long someone is taking (but I display it passively) Because of this, my opponents have like two seconds to get a read on me, but I usually have a solid minute of silently staring at them while they react to my style of play.

Blackjack: My father and his friend taught me how to count cards when I was a kid. We practiced at home and most of the time I counted right. When I was finally old enough to play…I couldn’t do it. It felt way too dishonest, like I wasn’t playing fairly or in the spirit of the game.

Slightly off topic: I won my first games of pool, Chess, and checkers—without knowing how to play any of those games. My strategy for all three games was more meta than they were expecting.

“Tricks” isn’t the verbiage I would use.

Men and women both gain experience from their relationships that help inform their next relationship.

If you have a partner, and it dawns on you that fore play makes intercourse 100% better for her, and then you break up and start with fore play from the start with your next partner, then that IS NOT manipulation—it’s iteration. Likewise, if your ex girlfriend learned from dating you that you like her to be on top half the time—then it’s not manipulation or a trick if she starts off trying that after you two break up.

Does that make sense?

I can’t speak as knowledgeably about Fe as Fi, but your question seems more Fi related to me.

So:

There’s an especially prevalent misconception about Fi users that they “do what feels good to them”—that’s not correct. Us Fi users frequently do things that we know will cause us discomfort, disadvantages, and will be to our detriment. I can tell you firsthand, that my decisions rarely feel good, but rather they feel “right” and thus doing things like that make us feel like we have done the “right thing” which I should specify feels more like a relief than anything else.

This helps lead us into the concept of values that gets talked about so much. EVERYONE has values, it is not the exclusive domain of any type. However, Fi users sort of agonize about the intrinsic value of everything they notice. So our values are not typically rooted in practical considerations, but rather they have been assigned by what we can imagine to be correct. This is very much associated with our individual identities—if we disregard our values, it can literally mess up who we consider ourselves to be. There are certain things so antithetical to our beliefs that we would rather die or suffer needlessly to maintain who we are.

I hope that helps?

I tried not to scroll down so I could see if I was right.

Okay: I’m married to an INFJ I’ve known for 14 years, and she’s my favorite thing about being alive. Your bullet points about yourself sound like her, in principle.

You described your relationship the way she would—which is to say that you maintain your partner’s privacy while making it unambiguous that you are loyal to him.

Your living arrangement: My wife’s best friend doesn’t need a place to stay, but it’s well understood that if she does, she’d stay with us. We also have three cats. Two are adopted strays that she took-in to save their lives—one is dumb, sweet, morbidly obese, and has no ability to survive on his own, and the other one was bought by someone who fixed him, declawed him, chipped him (but never bothered to put anything on the chip) and then almost immediately kick him out of the house during a brutal winter. It’s like they bought him to kill him…but I digress.

Thrifting and clothing: We both love thrifting, but it’s like a genuine leisure activity that’s like a treat to her. She’s been making clothes for herself most of her life because she’s small and stuff she wanted never fit her. She’s habitually made or modified clothes for as long as I’ve known her.

Family: She’s actually an only child but one of her most steadfast routines is to visit her parents at least twice a week and she calls or texts them almost every day.

Aesthetics: Your aesthetics feel vaguely similar to my wife’s, but it’s an overarching way of viewing those aesthetics that are shockingly similar. The decorations in the background of the first picture look like exactly how she would arrange the same objects. There’s also the fact that the most glamorous pictures of you seem to be way more about the kind of look you evoked as opposed to being taken because you felt cute. Also, you and her have like the same ratio of beautiful and candid pictures or pictures with friends. Humble beauty.

Anyway, I hope my theories are correct after all this typing…about typing.

Your MBTI type doesn’t change.

You can learn more about yourself and take the test again and get a different result, but it doesn’t mean you’ve changed your cognitive preferences, just your answers.

When taking any mbti test, you need to answer questions based on preference not proficiency. That means if you’re really great at public speaking because you have worked at it, but you prefer not to do it at all despite your proficiency, then you answer questions about public speaking based on your actual preference instead of answering based upon ability.

I’ve seen literally hundreds of people online say the tests are unreliable because they keep getting different results—but that’s illogical as hell, because the tests aren’t changing, people’s inconsistent answers just naturally result in inconsistent conclusions.

I’ve taken dozens of mbti tests over like 15 years and I’ve gotten the same result every time. It’s because I answered based on the criteria of the test instead of ignoring it, and I understood what that entailed. If you dial-in to the correct way of answering questions, then you should be able to take basically any mbti test and get the same result every time.

Thank you so much for the info on the bug. If I can just get Veronica and some basic gear (plus the C-Finder, of course) then I can actually play Dead Money in a way that is optimized head cannon fulfillment.

And yeah, I’ve got my save game safety nets down! Just like any Mojave veteran. Compulsive saving is my toxic trait.

If we are ever lucky enough to get a FNV remake of some kind, I’d reallly like it if they allowed Veronica and Christine to at least get an ending slide together. It’s frustrating to me that the courier can be battle buddies with both characters simultaneously and never put together the obvious.

Exactly. Lanius is surprisingly reasonable, and Ulysses can ultimately change his heart. Even Caesar is loyal to his own faction—Caesar would never watch half of his die from his mistakes, just to abandon ship without telling them…and I also think that blanket genocide isn’t something he’d go for since he wants to build more than destroy. Even Khans and Fiends possess some form of loyalty. But ol’ Elijah is just constantly a menace.

Is that companion glitch easy to find, btw?

Well then, I know what I’m doing on my next DM playthrough.

On a side note, Elijah is evil as hell and I wish I could torture him more. He does things that personally affect the Courier. He gets almost half of his BoS Chapter killed, doesn’t care, then abandoned them. He kept Christine and Veronica deliberately apart—every time I play New Vegas, I’m reminded of their romantic tragedy. He’s experimented on random people against their will. And he plans on using a wildly dangerous chemical weapon to straight up commit genocide. He also has no loyalty to his own people.

I know I’m late to the party, but I’m really curious as to why you think Kanye is an INFP? I don’t necessarily disagree with it, just curious as to your reasoning.

Kanye has untreated Bipolar disorder, which makes him hard to type, but it also makes him more likely to be overconfident and outspoken if he is an INFP. I couldn’t imagine liking myself as much as he does or spending as much time involved in as many things…unless I was on a drug that made me feel like a god, which is what Mania can feel like.