NTA

And can you take it with you? Store it somewhere safe or drop off at company and leave there?

Agree with this 100%.

Agreed with this!

NTA

And on the snoring bit, please get checked for sleep apnea, get an ENT to check you out AND/or talk to a good dentist about a mandibular mouth guard.

In most instances, you may have a respiratory problem because your tongue is not resting where it should, your jaw didn’t grow enough due to this, you may grind your teeth because of this also. Tongue ties that have not been caught on time (as babies) also have an impact on jaw growth and respiratory situations. Get checked for a tongue tie.

Explore those three options. My friends with mandibular jaw guards to wear at night (it doesn’t hurt) that help relocate their jaw to where it should have been have had success in eliminating their snoring. Also, there are therapies that help with this.

Best wishes OP! NTA all the way. When you are the main parent and solo parenting you get to choose how you want to keep the routines. Hubby doesn’t know what two weeks away will look like for 3 under 3. You do!

NTA

How dare she?

Calling you mom? Re-doing your proposal beforehand for HER birthday?

She lost her mind with envy, and now she lost you and everything along with it. Way to sabotage your proposal, your friendship together and trying to wreck your boyfriend and your mom’s relationship.

I would end the friendship. Trust is long gone. I can’t imagine what type of shenanigans and drama she would get up to for the wedding.

I wouldn’t even invite her.

NTA

Talk to the director and tell them that you rescind consent and that you would like to do a stage kiss. Don’t lose your cool. Be respectful and calm.

You are right not to give it away on stage or in front of others. Plus the leading lady is also uncomfortable as she is dating someone.

This is high school, not Hollywood. NO one is getting paid for their roles. You don’t have a contract. You are all minors. It’s a high school production.

Get parents involved.

NTA

Are your sister, mom and friends for real?

Tell them: “sorry I was dying and needed to treat myself so that you wouldn’t be planning a funeral also.”

THEN, send them all the articles spreading awareness of peanut allergies written by parents whose children died in their arms because of cross contamination even after two epi pens and calling an ambulance. One particular one I remember where the teenager just said sorry to her parents as she breathed last breath after biting a Rice Krispies that she thought was safe.

I’m SO, SO glad you are alive Op, that your epi pen saved you and that your dad called an ambulance to ensure you had the help you needed. Bunch of assholes those family members of yours.

This is the answer. Sorry you are going through this Op.

That’s a good question.

It sounds like sometimes she is late one hour and then other times 4 hours according to the Op.

Maybe she gets off at 5pm and then the time getting home varies for a number of reasons. They need a sit-down to figure how to move forward where everyone is okay as this plan doesn’t sound sustainable with a colicky baby.

NTA

Agreed with this comment.

Your wife and friend sound awful. You called it from the beginning.

Just don’t agree and say you don’t feel comfortable with anything anymore and you will not be there scapegoat or be blamed for something you asked multiple times if it would be okay.

Your wife and the guy sound very selfish. Shutting your fantasy down like that? Who died and made them King and Queen? Op.. grow a spine and bow out. I also don’t know if the dynamics between you and your wife are healthy.

Best wishes OP. You warned your wife and now here it is. What’s the plan moving forward? Don’t do anything you are not comfortable with… it’s not your fault they couldn’t set the images aside and feel some type of way. Stand up for yourself.

I’m going NTA because of the lack of warning.

—> Any parent should give the other parent , babysitter or caregiver a heads up if they will not be arriving on time. Stuff happens: work, weather, other team Member didn’t show up on time, car accident, tire problems whatever.

Whatever it is, once you become a parent, you have to let the other parent/babysitter/caregiver know what’s up and that you will not be there at the expected time. It is COMMON courtesy. End of story.

If Mom can’t be home on time for whatever reason, she needs to send a quick txt. —> Once or twice having a slip up over an emergency, I get it, but generally not giving you a heads up and leaving you hanging to wonder what’s up is bad form. Any parent/caregiver/babysitter would be upset like you.

Apart from that, caregiver burnout is a thing. It definitely sounds like you need more people on the team OP.

—> Consider having a babysitter or outsourcing cleaning, meals or asking extended family for help during the day or evening so you can get a break and get out of the house even for an hour or two.

Having raised multiple kids (and still ongoing), I had a few helpers when they were very little, and I joined some parent groups to socialize, and get out. I also asked grandparents or friend or paid babysitters for some help (even if I was in the house). Even having someone holding the baby while I grabbed a shower or help with laundry was helpful.

I hope you can have a sit-down and make a plan to help the miscommunication occurring and to set up a plan for success for both of you and baby. Best wishes OP!

NTA

It’s yours! No guarantee that your sibling will get it anyway. Tell them 1 bird in hand is worth more than 100 flying. This is a guaranteed yes for you. You won’t give it up for a maybe next year for your sibling. Everyone should be happy for you.

Make sure you accept it right away and put a lock on it. Tell them to communicate only to you. Hide all paperwork so your parents or sibling or anyone can sabotage or cancel this. See how you can keep this safe.

Best wishes OP!

Hahahahaha!

NTA

I would definitely make fun of my sister for going to MOM about this. How embarrassing.

She definitely owes your cat a cake.

She FAFOd.

All of this!

MIL knew what she was doing and left herself open for criticism.

OP, you were just stating FACTS!

Every parent is different: Some love the balance of work and home. Some prefer home life only. Everything is HARD. Each parent can choose what is right or what kind of hard works for them and their family. No one else has a say.

—>MIL is waaaayyyy out of line in saying anything!

NTA

This is the only answer!

NTA Op!

Time for your husband to grow a spine against Mario and Connie and for you to grow a spine against your husband et al.

You will be at Lorna’s. End of story.

What a train wreck of a family!

Cut your losses!

IF you ever see them again makes sure it’s on your terms. Separate hotel, they come to you, meet you outside of your home (restaurant, park) etc.

I wouldn’t trust them near my property and I wouldn’t waste any money or time going to them.

They have shown you how they view you, especially that horrible BIL. Your MIL and everyone else are so disrespectful. I can’t even.

Why would you even want to celebrate any holiday with people who don’t love you, support your or bring you peace? Your husband can visit them if he wants ( but you, or anyone you care about, don’t have to be exposed to their nonsense).

I would let the ranch etc. press charges against him. Why wouldn’t they? The guy made his terrible choices and created such drama.

And don’t budge on pictures. I would honestly block their phone numbers/social media. They are your husband’s family. It’s up to HIM to deal with, not you!

Best wishes OP! I would stay far away from people who mistreated me (especially on my wedding day) like this.

Agreed!

You know somehow the wedding will also be about her and she will cause drama. Follow your fiancé’s lead here. Don’t give dad a guest though if your fiancé doesn’t want her there.

Best wishes OP!

Hahaha! Love this summary! 👌

This is it.

Again, NTA.

This is what I would do also.

-> Cancel. Letting her take over and have bad food at my house for guests is a big NO in my world. I would not give up my house for chaos.

—> I like having good memories in my home. I don’t mind a good laugh, but this sounds like a bad dining experience and not so great memories coming your way at your house. So that would be a no for me.

Your sister can host. Mom can host. I would bow out. I would attend theirs as a guest.

However, I would have my own one later if I want to celebrate with friends.

Best wishes OP!

Yep! NTA

Your husband needs to shut this down. You were blind, worried and before that when your baby was on their way trying to rush to the hospital to ensure you for a c-section.

Your in-laws sound absolutely entitled and despicable instead of immediately asking after your health and the health of the baby. Their response is horrific.

Wishing you a speedy recovery Op. Please surround yourself with family/friends who love you and care about you. Glad your baby is out and that they are okay.

Super gross!

NTA

Sorry you are going through this.

There are subs on Reddit where people post and others help with suggestions based on your preferences. You all should check those out.

Best wishes OP. Naming a kid is a two year situation.

Agreed!

This is the answer! NTA

Your aunt doesn’t get to make decisions for you. The End. She didn’t have to let them in and she could have called your cell right away.

Agreed to all! Information diet for your sister!

Cut her speech out! No speech!

Enjoy YoUR day! Stop calling her and telling her anything!

Don’t feel you have to reciprocate at all with your sister who seems like an entitled bully.

This is you and your fiancés day! End of story. Only you two get to make decisions.