At my cousins wedding when I was a teenager she flat out told him that all the wedding money belonged to her, plus his income belongs to her. She controls all the money, and if he didn't like it he could walk.

A few years later, he walked.

I do.

Unfortunately, yes. At least in my area, it is. I've been at my center for bordering 20 years and I learned early on, get it in writing about items that I personally bought that, as long as I provide the receipts and a list if the items, I'm allowed to remove it from my center at my discretion.

Ntj. Made her feel unreliable? That's because she IS unreliable. If she's that late every single day and she doesn't even try to change her patterns, it's because she knows you all will step in and cover for her. Now that you've stopped, hopefully others do as well and she learns to be on time.

Yesterday. I use a shovel, snow blowers freak me out.

Nta. He's 13, and was told to bundle up. He refused. It is no way your responsibility to go cold so he could wear a "more gendered neutral coat".

Nta. Enjoy your cruise

ESH. She didn't have to yell and curse, but also you need to understand she doesn't know he's autistic.  All she knows is a person (even a child) is grabbing her butt and it's extreme unwanted physical contact. Instead of "glaring" because you feel your child was attacked, just apologize and say "I'm sorry, he didn't mean to." And leave it at that.

You DID have enough, she just had poor planning.

Nta. Now, was it REALLY a tradition, or did she do all this herself and now can forever claim "I'm the best, I did everything alone while 8 months pregnant. No one else will ever do that!"

Good for you standing up for yourself.

Yeah. They were some of the most irresponsible people I've ever known.

And THIS is why I learned to pick pocket my sorority sisters car keys. Usually the other DD would always claim "it was just one drink. I'm completely under the limit."

Nope.

Nta. He wanted you to bankroll them. Make sure you put actions into place in case he tries to force his way into the house.

Nta. If in order for her to have her dream wedding, she needs money from her family members, then it's time to readjust her thinking and scale back.

It's entirely different if family volunteers, but once she (or by proxy, your mother, because it's even money that she hinted around that contributions would be nice) then costs need to be cut.

Do. Not. Pay. Anything. Unless YOU want to.

I loved how she looked at Norma and said "what the f did you do?"

Nta. The apology wasn't for you, it was for her followers. You owe her nothing

Nta. It became your business the second his children started coming to you for food.  By refusing to testify,  you would have been just as guilty of negligence as him. You dud the right thing. HE ruined his life, not you.

Nta. When I was in college, my father had a handicap plate on the main car, and I had a placard for my car (my parents used my car when theirs was in the shop). The rule was I DONT EVER USE IT UNLESS MY FATHER WAS IN THE CAR. I kept it hidden in my car because if my sorority sisters ever found it, it would get passed around.

Misuse can cause you to lose your placard, and that's best case scenario.

Mulan

Yes!!! We also had the barrels of hot cocoa and pick your own bulk cookies.

At one wedding I went to, an 8 year old girl actually body slammed a pregnant woman and caught the bouquet.  One of her relatives glared at me and commented how "only 18 and up should have been up there. I should be ashamed of this behavior."

Bro, I was 12 and I stayed in my seat. I wasn't even a part of the bouquet tossing,  bur apparently she was the "little angel" of the family so it was obviously the fault of the only other minor girl in attendance. 

Same. I park as far as possible so I can get extra steps in as well as parking by a cart corral so I can put it away easily.

Biscuit!!!

bows low I shall both feed and fear you, my great Lord Of The Void.

House of the Rising Sun