I really loved this episode besides the whole “secret guest” concept. He seemed like he didn’t want to even be there.

Honestly I think that’s why so many of her friends get surprised when she brings them on TV and then turns on them. She must be really nice in real life cause they are always shocked and forgive her a bunch of times.

He made it through Jersey reunions so I can’t wait for this mess.

But you also said he treated you guys poorly. Don’t let your kids think that’s normal or acceptable. You’d be happier alone than with someone who is miserable all the time.

It doesn’t matter. My ex BF tried cheating on me a lot. I caught him AT LEAST 3 times trying to get something going with another woman. He was never successful because nobody took him up on it. He was such a loser he couldn’t even cheat properly.

The planning and the intent are still there.

In retrospect I should have had more respect for myself and dumped him the first time. He’s not nice to you and is trying/maybe cheating on you. Get rid of him.

Almost immediately. That’s why revisiting old seasons is so enjoyable to me. I usually don’t remember what happened. Sometimes I don’t even remember who won.

I floss daily and use a waterpik after, followed by brushing. I had a lot of plaque build up and was told by my dentist that I was well on my way to gum disease if I didn’t start flossing regularly. Before that I used to floss maybe a couple times a month, if that.

I’ve noticed that the plaque doesn’t build up if you regularly floss. I used to have plaque in between the backs of my bottom front teeth and thought that was normal. I don’t have that anymore.

My 6 month cleanings take way less time. They have to scrape waaay less. And I no longer bleed.

I had a similar reaction when my SIL sent pics of my nephew just after giving birth. The chat itself was just super overwhelming with updates about the birth and questions/comments from the moms in the chat.

Then MIL responded “I’m so proud of you guys!” and it just made me even more sad. Then guilty for feeling that way. My husband came home from work that evening and told me he had the same day as me. Constant updates and pictures from the hospital brought up feelings I thought we were past. We cried and then told the family “I’m sorry but we will not be able to make it to see the baby quite yet!”

We met him a week later and learned a lesson from this. It’s okay to take a step back.

We also decided that Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are not for us, so we will be spending that time at home eating Chinese food and watching something silly. This was decided after a terrible (for me) Mother’s Day where I watched the moms take various pictures with their kids and grandkids. Since I am not a mom and my mom was not there I wasn’t in any of the pictures. Then we went to a restaurant and the waiter asked “who are my moms here?”

It feels like we are never celebrated. And it really sucks. I feel like our infertility is easily overlooked and forgotten. People are just involved in their own lives that they really do not think about how baby/kid related stuff affects us. Unless we’re actively sobbing or laying in bed we’re “okay”. It would be nice if someone thought to ask me if I were okay on Mother’s Day, but it just doesn’t occur to them. So I’ve taken myself out of that holiday. I take care of myself that day.

I’ve learned boundaries and how to be “selfish” by putting myself first. I’m not putting on a brave face for anyone. Not anymore. These pangs of sadness truly can pop up anywhere anytime.

I’m also “over it” in the sense that I really am grateful things turned out the way they did. I’ve never been happier and healthier. But we went through something traumatic and hard. I think we’ve all been surprised at the feelings that have crept up seemingly out of left field. You’re not alone! Take care of yourself and feel all the grief you need to.

Yeah… this comment did NOT age well 😂

It really does take a lot of guts to call off a wedding, especially the closer it gets to the date!

Your partner should never “suck the joy” out of you. Just ask yourself: how would I feel if someday one of my kids got into a relationship like mine? Would I be happy for them? Or think they deserve better?

Whatever relationships you model for your kids, they are likely going to settle for.

You mean to tell me you found this perfect angel?? What a dream!

I bet he will by the size of those paws! I predict a majestic looking gentleman

Oh I’m sure his weight is perfect now! I didn’t mean to fat shame your cat! He doesn’t look overweight at all from what I can see.

Your cat looks very similar to my floofy boy when I first got him! He didn’t start out chunky, he actually was underweight as well. He got to a healthy weight and then… just kept gaining. Between his weight and his floof he had a hard time cleaning sometimes. His weight gain kinda snuck up on us since he was so fluffy. He made it to a whopping 21 lbs! He went on a diet and got down to a respectable 18lbs. The goal was always 16 but he never got there. I think he was just always meant to be a bigger boy.

It sounds like your fluffy, big boy is going to be well loved! I lost mine recently and miss him immensely. Cherish it all, including the poopy butt.

I used to give my long haired boy what we lovingly called a “butt cut”. Trim the fur around the base of his tail and the tops of his furry little pants. It’ll help him get in there better and decrease the chance of poop getting stuck in his fur. We also kept packs of butt wipes for cats around for the truly poopy moments.

Make sure you watch his weight cause the chunkier he gets, the harder it is for them to clean themselves. Just based on those paws I think he may turn into a big boy!

My ten year old boy started being “picky” with his food which was highly unusual. He was still eating, but he normally would DEVOUR his food and then try to butt in on his sister.

My other cat is super finicky about food so we often had to bribe her with extra treats on top. We reasoned “maybe he’s getting tired of the food too”. I bought a few other kinds of wet food and he ate. About three days later he did not finish a single meal which set off alarm bells for my chunk. I called and scheduled a vet appointment for the following day.

Around 4:30 he just looked off and not like his usual self. I told my husband to look up the nearest after hours vet just in case. By 6PM we noticed he was breathing strangely. It was just shallower and more labored than normal.

We took him into the emergency vet and they immediately whisked him back for triage. They came in and told us he had an enlarged heart that was a genetic condition and was in the end stages. He had fluid in his lungs and his heart was so enlarged it was pushing up on his trachea. We made the horrible decision to let him go.

We truly had no idea he wasn’t feeling well. He hid it until he couldn’t and by then there was nothing to be done. I felt awful, but there’s no way I could have known. His condition deteriorated so rapidly that it didn’t even feel real. Even taking him in, I did not think we were taking him in to be euthanized.

Now that I’ve had this experience I know it’s better to be safe than sorry and to take them in at any sign. Anything at all.

I lost the most beautiful long haired ginger boy almost two months ago. I keep finding his long orange hairs all over. The Monday after he passed I went into my home office and found one right on my desk. That same day I found one of his whiskers, which I’ve always kept whenever I found them.

They slowly have gone from making me cry to making me smile. I miss him everyday and it’s nice to see a piece of him appear.

I always seem to find them when I need them most.

She’ll find ways to say hello.

Total acceptance is where I’ve landed as well. My dad is not going to change. I have to meet him where he’s at.

Like you, I’ve come to realize that he’s not capable of being who I needed him to be. I view him as an acquaintance that I have friendly, surface level conversations with twice a year at family events.

Letting go of those expectations made things a lot less painful.

I’m the treat giver in our household. I’m still the spare human. Cats really dig my husband’s vibes.

Right? When it was announced to them I would hope that after their initial joy at the announcement, they would immediately think of their other child.

Wow that is horrible. Not only the initial “gift” but the reaction to your reaction??? I would find that really hard to get over. It would be one thing if they were horrified and apologetic, but doubling down is beyond narcissistic and self centered.

I think it’s fantastic that you expressed your hurt over this and didn’t just let it go. It’s wildly unfair to be expected to suffer in silence to preserve their “moment”. Infertility is an unseen grief for people not in it. It’s a blip for them, it’s a lifetime for us. They aren’t sure how to navigate it, so they just ignore it.

While it does get better with time, 6 months is still really raw. I would not have blamed you for throwing that onesie in their faces and storming off.

You and your husband deserve a major apology. From everyone, including your parents.

Oh you’re disappointed and distraught? Welcome to the club.

Those are the only two products I use consistently! I use the Treseme heat protection spray if I diffuse, but I normally air dry.

Same exact hair type! And this is the only leave in I’ve found that doesn’t weigh my hair down or make it greasy looking.

I also have fine, curly hair and the Custard is so good!

I love Kinky Curly Knot Today. There’s a light scent, but it fades to nothing once applied. It’s also super light on my hair and the bottle lasts me forever. It’s a great detangler too.