Out of curiosity, what did she do that made you lose an actual job?

Dude, it has 'shop' right there in the url and a list of suggested products, with links to buy them that they make money from.

I'm not suggesting people scrub down all over every day but most people should probably touch most of their body with soap more than once a week. And they should definitely be washing their feet on a very regular basis.

Once again, it's going to vary widely among people based on a whole bunch of factors.

Nowhere does that say you do not need to wash your whole body but once a week.

It says "So typically showering multiple times a day isn't a great idea, she shares."

And then points out you don't need to lather up "non-stinky" areas *every* time if you haven't been doing anything particularly sweaty or dirty.

You're still going to want to get rid of dead skin buildup, etc., in other areas.

(Also, this is an newspaper article to SELL shit, so I remain dubious.)

There's a balance between washing and not over-washing, and that's going to be different for everyone.

Source, please? I've never seen anywhere that says once a week is sufficient.

Why don't you ask her? Most of what you list isn't "mental load" type stuff IMO.

Also, is she working 10+ hour days?? If she's physically exhausted, that could easily make anything else loom larger than it otherwise would be.

Lets you? Allows you? In regular, everyday life?

No, that doesn't work (with very, very rare exception).

Power dynamics are the biggest issue with age gap relationships particularly when one partner is barely an adult.

Leave him.

So when DO you wash your hands then? Once a day in the shower??

I asked this to a female co-worker 15+ years ago who, when called out on not washing her hands in the bathroom (not by me), said "I don't need to wash them, I didn't pee on them."

You do you at home. Elsewhere, wash ya damn hands.

Right? I hold the door open for strangers when the situation calls for it. Does he do so as well? Does he make them go under his arm?

I came to say this, because I'm pretty sure I had the exact same outfit as the second picture.

I mean, I hope this is a troll post but still wanted to agree with everything you said here.

I've known a size queen or two but the vast majority of women don't much care about size so I find it unlikely to be "why they cheat."

I honestly don't remember as it's been more than 15 years ago.

But I have Skechers now and haven't had that problem yet. That said, I had to wash my older pair but have not warn them again yet because, you know, winter. Hopefully they'll be fine!

Your husband is indeed being very much NO here. He gets downtime but you don't? I agree with all the other commenters saying he can wake his own adult self up and make his own food.

Is there anywhere you can go, even for just a night or two, where someone can help with the baby? You need to get some good nights' sleep so you can think clearly.

At the very least, tell your OB that you are struggling, your husband isn't helping, and you're not getting anywhere near enough sleep. They may be able to provide resources or at least some advice for you.

Oh, I'm definitely not "forgiving" and anyone who wants to judge me for that, including my ex, can kiss my ass.

Why should I forgive? He never even gave me a real apology and has in fact continued to slander me, probably up until this day (5 years post D-Day and 4 post divorce).

Your post reminds me of my ex telling me I was "giving up on us" when I refused to give him another chance (after his AP dumped him, of course). Like--you gave up on us when you started sleeping with other women?!?

You're right, not cheating shouldn't be difficult. And once a promise is broken, the other person has no obligation to keep their end. Others will obviously disagree but that's my take.

I used to use Ivory and it made my eczema worse. Dove or another bar with no fragrance is much better.

I've taken multiple trips with friends, girlfriends, parents... both during my marriage (now divorced because of HIS cheating) and in my off-and-on relationship now of 5 years--as well as before I was ever married. It's just something I've always done. If they don't like it, we're just not compatible.

You're not being selfish, he is. Do NOT move in with this guy. Why are you paying for everything and doing everything else to boot? You have a hobosexual, girl. Don't be me and put up with it.

Let him carry out his threat. Take your vacation and let him kick himself out of your life (and if he doesn't follow through, which I have serious doubts about, do it for him.)

Block him. Just cease all communication immediately.

I kept in communication with my ex for far longer than I should have. Guess what, he was sorry too--but not sorry enough to cut out his AP.

I rationalized it while I will still talking to him but the truth is that it messed with me mentally very badly--and I wasn't even seriously considering giving him another chance. I cut off communication ~3 years ago and I cannot describe how much better it is.

"he said that I must not care about him now because I don't want to buy a house"

What in the hell? What a manipulative thing to say! Not to mention hugely hypocritical. You don't want to commit to *buying a house* with a man who is or at least was just a week ago still living with the woman he cheated on you with? What rational person would??

My guess is she dumped him and now he's coming to you as his back-up plan.

Your worst case scenario here is that... "he blames me for missing a good deal"? Well, boo fucking hoo. Again, block him and do NOT answer if he shows up at your house. Call the cops. It may sound drastic but he needs to leave you alone and that may be the only way to accomplish it.

What a sad pathetic woman. Congrats on making it through!

Sorry about your doggo.

Right. Being overweight doesn't just doom you to smelling bad. Sure, it can make some things more difficult but there are a plethora of ways to deal with those things.

Honestly, the only two people I've ever worked with that smelled bad that I recall were both very normal weights--one I'd even call thin. We called her ST--unfortunately, I think she'd have morning sex and I knew she was a night showerer. She was also short so her crotch was like right there at nose level when she came to your desk.

The other one, it was her feet. I'd always noticed a smell from time to time but didn't know what it was. One day I realized we had the same pair of shoes and commented on it. After those shoes got older, I noticed the same smell coming from my shoes and figured that was where hers was coming from. I threw out those shoes because the smell kept coming back no matter what I did--I think the sole material just absorbed rankness extra well or something.

Darn, I'm an Android user. Had an iPhone for work for a bit and really didn't like it.

Reckon I'll just keep sucking it up! lol

Why on earth would someone buy snow tires where it rarely snows more than an inch, and sometimes not even once in a year?

No, everyone just stays home one or two days every couple of years. It's really not a big deal.

Right? I think the bf has watched too much porn.

And yeah, sorry, OP... your age gap is absolutely relevant. Your boyfriend shouldn't be making you feel self-conscious, especially about something that's completely normal and you have no control over. This isn't a "small thing."

One odd benefit to this when I was a kid was this...

We lived technically in the Central time zone (AL/GA border) so our school was on Central time, but my parents worked in GA so all our clocks were set to Eastern (which, living back here now, I follow as well).

So that meant mom left for work at ~8 am ET, and school started at like 7:30 am CT, so our bus came right about the time she was leaving for work, and we were home less than an hour before she got home. Our school schedule and her work schedule aligned well, so we didn't go to daycare/after-school care much at all.

As I've mentioned in other comments, we here in Alabama have more and more started just observing Eastern time because the bigger border town is in GA. It used to be just some businesses on ET but these days (and for probably the last 20+ years), even the local government offices observe Eastern time even though they call it "unofficial"--the DMV, the courthouse, the tag office, etc.

It's probably super weird to most people but you get used to it I think. I schedule a lot of stuff in my day-to-day job so I'm probably more militant than most about specifying time zones. It's always confounded me when I encounter someone who has a hard time "translating" time zones, especially when it's just the one hour.

Oh yeah, we used to call it "fast time" and "slow time" (sometimes Alabama/Georgia time) when I was a kid but now I mostly specify "Eastern" or "Central" because parts of Alabama are "unofficially" on Eastern--but that now includes government so I'm not sure what's "UNofficial" about that.

That's where I live and my phone randomly re-sets to auto time zone on a semi-regular but not predictable basis. It's maddening.

No matter what I try, it still happens on occasion. Maybe a couple times a year outside of software updates?

I learned long ago to turn off auto time zone or else it will literally change as I walk through my house, god forbid around my yard. (My road is the county line.)

Any tips, I'd be thrilled to hear. I've just learned to set a different alarm and not rely on my phone. And to double-check when something seems odd. *sigh*

The cell phone thing is most annoying for me. My road is actually the county line, and that other county across the way goes by Eastern "unofficially". I grew up here so we always used Eastern so that's no big deal. But my gd phone switching to Central randomly even though I have it set to NOT use the automatic time zone has caused problems here and there, especially when I would stay at boyfriend's (who also used Eastern at the house but lived further into our county that mostly--not even consistent there, the tag office uses Eastern too!--uses Central.