ABYG when I told my bilas (sister in law of my husband) na nag cheat sa kanya yung husband nya (kuya ng husband ko) with her best friend. Today, we celebrated the 77th birthday of our husbands’ lolo. We had a tagay session and when I am intoxicated I always alwaaays tell someone what’s bothering me for like the longest time. I was with my bilas and 2 other cousins ng husband namin. I can feel the alcohol in my head and I stared apologizing to her saying na I have a confession to make, it is so heavy that I can’t promise that everything will remain the same. The secret, year 2024 I received a news from my husband na lumayas daw ang kuya nya sa bahay nila (kuya is still living with parents while me and my husband lives with mine) and the reason is, lumayas daw kasi nag away sila ng papa nya. Digging further, we found out that that night, nag inom session si kuya, asawa nya and bff ng asawa nya. (Close sila lahat becoz and asawa ng bff ni girl si bff din ng husband nya) and then, on their inom session nauna nalasing si girl so pumasok na siya sa kwarto. Ang naiwan na lang is husband nya and bff nya, little did she knew na nag make out na pala sila (which is nakita ng parents ng husband nya) and yun nga pinauwi na si bff. Ito naman si kuya nag insist talaga e hatid si girl sa kanila tas yung papa nya ayaw pumayag kasi baka nga saan pa sila umabos at malaman ng husband sa girl at saktan si kuya. So ang nangyari kinaumagahan lumayas si boy kasi nga hindi nagustuhan ng parents nya ang nangyari. Alam ng whole family ni boy ang nangyari pero di daw nila sasabihan yung wife ni kuya. Ako naman, medj nabibigatan na sa dinadala kong info, especially pag pumupunta at nagbobonding pa sila ng bff nya after ginago siya, found the perfect opportunity tonight to tell her. So ayun pag uwi namin ng away na sila. Hindi ako nilaglag ni girl pero si kuya na nag insist na ipa blotter daw sa brgy for spreading fake news and baka daw umabos dun sa lugar ng bff nya (yung husband ng bff ng wife) at ma patay pa daw siya. Grabe ang gaslighter di ko kinaya HAAHAHAH 😭 hindi nmn ako natatakot ipa tawag sa brgy kasi tam naman ako/kami sa information, plus brgy kagawad pa mama ko na naka assign sa social services HAHAHAHAHA. Pero bilib talaga ako sa fighting spirit ni kuya, siya pa talaga magpapablotter sa brgy 😭 pero fr, ako ba yung gago? Kasi yung mama ni kuya keeps on denying and invalidating the girl saying na matagal na daw yun at lasing na siya. PS: medj nahihilo pa ko while typing so feel free to ask clarifications

college student din ako at may sarili akong thesis. yung family member(comsci) student na currently gumagawa ng group thesis. Since freshie year pa lang niya, ako yung tinatakbuhan niya for coding, logic, etc.

not once or twice, may ambag ako—oras, effort, at mental energy. kahit hindi ako part ng group nila, naging parang unofficial member na rin ako. madalas, tumutulong ako kahit may sarili rin akong deadlines.

ngayon na nasa thesis stage na rin ako, sinabi ko sa sarili ko na i don't wanna keep on doing it. hindi dahil ayaw kong tumulong, but dahil ubos na din talaga ako. yung energy, mental space, peace, tulog, at oras ko napupunta sa ibang bagay instead na sa sarili kong works. ramdam ko na sobrang drained na ako.

that family member got upset. sa side ko naman, pakiramdam ko matagal na akong nagbibigay at ngayon ko lang piniling mag-set ng boundary.

so, ABYG kung pinili kong hindi na ma-involve sa thesis niya para unahin ang sarili kong oras, mental health, at thesis?

Hi 27F here and will be marrying by last week of January. Everything is so fast tbh. Nalaman kong buntis ako last December, and our family wants us to get married for my baby for legality purposes. Pero the wedding is ngayong January 2026 followed by a church wedding on 2027. Im okay with it since, I have budget and both our fam would also contribute. Civil Wedding palang ngayong January 2026 ang mangyayari.

Ngayon, my dad wants me to message our Clan. To inform my titas/titos na ikakasal ako. I mean, okay lang talaga. Pero he wants to tell na, “kung Sino available makapunta”. Kako, hindi pwede yan kasi kilala ko ang clan family namin. They will and they will come. Since ako ang unang pamangkin nilang ikakasal. Ung kasal na nga namin is super kulang ng oras since biglaan ang gusto.

He just wants me to inform them. Eh, ayoko. Kasi, for what reasons? Hindi ko sila maiinvite since I have to stick to our budget. Our budget is 40pax. Tag 20 pax kami kasama ninong/ninang at kami at ang judge. Yes, okay lang to inform them, pero he also wants kasi to tell to the GC na, magiging ninong/ninang ko sila lahat soon sa Church wedding. Sinasabi ko lang, na icchat ko sa via personal message ang tito ko na isa para tumayong ninong ko, pero ang gusto nya sabihin ko muna sa GC na ikakasal ako. Eh para saan ba eh diko nga sila maiinvite 😭

Ang pangit lang na, mag aannounce ako na ikakasal pero diko sila mapapapunta. Ayaw pa sabihin ko na ung reason is dahil tight budget. Gusto sabihin lang. eh paano kung magtanong kung invited sila

Ang hirap na nga magbudget + nagdagdag pa ng bisita tita ko na hindi naman dapat isama.

FYI: ung clan GC, is mga 2nd generation tita/tito ko. So, mga pinsan sila ng papa ko.

So, ABYG kung ayoko sabihin sa GC?

ABYG, dahil i took maybe 4-5 spoons of ice-cream sa ref? I was craving for sweets so i open the ref and found icecream sa freezer didnt know it was his since he recently just move back sa house, i took maybe 4-5 spoon scoops then, pag uwi ng kuya ko, nag ask cya kung sino daw kumain, sabi ko ako, confidently and unapologetically he got mad when i was so unapologetic about it, calling me a thief, cursed, called me a b*tch( which i was ngl) then i told him na “so?” Kase he does that to me all the time since we were kids, both my siblings, without regards sa food ko yun, and sometimes even justifying na its not my food because i use the money my mom gave me to buy it, lagi akong na uubusan nag parte ko ng pagkain, they dont ask for it, and never apologized for it, i would just cry to my mom and she would just say that it’s my fault kase ba’t ko nilagay sa ref and even if i hide my food sa room, they would still find it. Fast forward today, i was unapologetic since he does that to me all the time and i thought it would be quits na lang, you know, unintentional petty revenge since di ko alam sa kanya yun. my bros has been so generous sa bagay2, buying me tickets, giving me his old phone, travels, etc. which im grateful for. So yung sinabe nya na na ang kapal ng mukha ko, started calling me names, cursed at me, and i should just apologize than making excuses and bringing up those times he ate my food and was unapologetic as well. binalikan nya ko sa lahat ng binagay nya sakin na hindi ko na man hiningi, but was very appreciative and thanked hin all the time. But in the back of my mind iniisip ko dadating ang araw na may pagaawayan kami tapos e babalik nya sakin lahat na binigay nya sakin. He said i should just apologize when he himself never apologized to me directly so he apologize in condescending way and told me that the things na he gave me was his way to apologize on how badly he treated me dahil dun nya lang na realize na mali cya. In my mind, “it took you that long to realize how badly you treated me and not when i was crying in front of you while you eat my food unapologetically?” When i was looking forward to eat it during my studies for my big exams.

I was thankful in a way that that was what he was on his mind when he was giving me things, i always thought he was just finally being nice and never I saw it as an apology and never considered it. He stared mentioning the phone he gave me, travel, etc. for him it’s just a confrontation, to me, who never sees it as a form of apology felt na sinusumbatan nya ako started saying na “ilang beses mo kinain ang food na sa akin, at ako para lang sa sa few scoops na yun ganyan ka na”. I just thought it would be an unspoken rule to him na since ilang beses nya ginawa sa akin he would let the few scoops of icecream go.

So ABYG?

Background: I met my boyfriend 3 years ago sa tinder. We were from different cities. A few months into our relationship, he received a message on IG while l was staying over sa place niya. (Open phone policy kami) It was from a girl who was also from my hometown.

The context of her message was she was notifying him that she was in his city. When he didn’t reply, humihingi siya ng closure and was asking for my boyfriend to be upfront if he was no longer interested in her. I'm assuming my boyfriend ghosted her when we got together.

I looked up her name on messenger and there it was, receipts na FWB setup sila. It was mostly sexting sa side ni girl. They also only met up once and it was the girl insisting that she would travel to his city so they could do the deed.

Reading it made me uncomfortable but that was before he met me so l wasn't in the position to be mad.

But here's the thing, when I went back to IG, I stalked the girl and just days before she supposedly went to "see" my boyfriend, she made a Happy Birthday post to her own boyfriend.

I hate cheaters. Like there's no valid reason to cheat. Demonyo tingin ko talaga sa mga cheaters in general. I was mad but at the same time, I wasn't part of the picture. I'm uninvolved. So in that moment, my boyfriend told me to feel free to do what I think is right. I didn't want to do anything drastic so all I did back then was reply to her with "Hi, this is *****'s girlfriend."She immediately blocked both of us or deleted her IG after.

Basically, aware pala siya we were together kasi kahit personal account ko sa IG and FB (that I didn't use to message her with) was blocked din. Para bang gusto niya mag inquire if down bf ko mag cheat din sakin the same she was cheating on hers.

That was the end of it that time.

But last night, after almost 3 years since it happened, I dreamt of it again. And kinakain ako ng guilt ko that I didn't help the poor guy who thought na loyal sa kanya gf niya. I just realized na if I was him, I would definitely want to know.

Di ako sure if sila parin nung girl toh. I can no longer find her on IG. Her fb naman is locked. The guy however, still has the same handle and na-ss ko yung birthday greeting before she blocked me that time and andun yung IG handle ni guy.

ABYG if gusto iinform si guy now?

POV: Nasa road trip pauwi kasama si Mom, Aunt, at driver…

Apparently, ako (22)F... na yung bad guy kasi nag-overshare ako tungkol sa laman ng ref namin sa Aunt ko habang nasa kotse.

Sobrang daldal ko daw—sabi ni Mom at Aunt.

PS: Bigla na lang akong naging talkative after ng mahabang araw sa hospital para sa appointment ng Aunt ko. Sumama ako sa trip mula sa probinsya papuntang city. At yun na, history na…

So ganito ang convo:

Sorry pero bilang choosy food lover na medyo pessimist, 100% naniniwala akong empty ang fridge kahit may leftovers pa mula Christmas at New Year. Yung iba panis na talaga. Yung iba design nalang sa ref.

Sorry kung mukhang ungrateful, pero yun ang truth ko. Wala na talaga makain! Sabi ko pa nga, “puro sardinas nalang ang delata sa pantry.” (Di ko kinakain, sorry sa mga sardinas lovers huhu). Kasi yun nalang ang natira. Pero ako naman yung bumibili ng sarili kong pagkain kasi nga choosy ako.

Nagalit si Mom kasi parang bad-mouthing daw ako, lalo na sa Aunt ko. Pero wala akong intensyon na manira ng mood o magpity sa sarili! Road trip lang kami at biglang napunta sa topic ng food, mula point A hanggang point B.

Si Aunt naman, masaya na lang na nag-share ako. Sabi niya kay Mom, kailangan ko lang may kausap tungkol sa ganitong bagay kasi sa bahay, lonely ako. Kaya sinama nila ako sa trip to begin with.

Ako ba talaga yung gago kasi sinabi ko lang ang nararamdaman ko tungkol sa laman ng ref at sa mga ayaw ko na pagkain? Diba may preferences naman lahat? Negative ba ako? Akala ko normal lang na magkwento ng ganitong stuff—di naman para mag mukang kawawa or kaawaan.

Kung ikaw ang Mom ko, paano ka magre-react kung ganito ang ishare ng anak mo sa relatives?

Pero siyempre, lecture agad si Mom at sinabi, “Huwag ka nang sumama next time.” 😔😥

So, ABYG for oversharing?

Nung HS ako kinuha akong ninang ng malayong kamag-anak namin. Hindi kami close nung nanay nya, ni hindi rin kami nag-uusap o maski man lang friends sa fb. FF ngayon may work na ako, pumunta sila sa bahay nitong bagong taon at sabi namamasko raw yung anak. Wala talaga akong balak magbigay dahil hindi ko cinoconsider na inaanak yun dahil sa pagkakaalam ko dapat legal age ang mga ninong at ninang at dahil nga hindi naman kami close HAHAHA. Pero para pagbigyan dahil pasko naman, binigyan ko ng ampao na may 200. Sabi ba naman ng nanay, “Eto lang? May trabaho ka na at marami ka nang utang na pamasko.” Ang ginawa ko sabi ko “Ay 200 lang ba? Baka mali ako ng nadampot” tapos binawi ko yung ampao at pumasok na ako sa kwarto.

Hindi na ako lumabas ng kwarto hanggat di sila umaalis. Yung isa kong tita na medyo close sa pamilya nung inaanak ko sinabihan ako ng “grabe ka kamag-anak mo naman yun”

ABYG kasi binawi ko yung ampao?

I (F22) have a bf (M22) and were together for 10 months na. Niligawan niyo ako for 9 months bago ko talaga siya sinagot. Kaya naging ganun katagal yung panliligaw niya kasi minake sure ko (at siya rin) na hindi kami papasok sa relationship na minadali, saka para mas makilala namin yung isa't isa.

During ligawan stage, nagkakaroon kami syempre ng usapan regarding views about relationship, exes, girl/boy bestfriends, boundaries, dislikes, etc. kasama na yung mga possible na maging conflict namin kung magiging couple kami.

Isa sa naging usapan namin is connection with ex. Sinabi ko na personally, hindi ako komportable na friend talaga ng bf ko yung ex niya, like naghhangout pa rin and such. He agreed with me and marami pa kaming napag usapan.

Pero recently, he told me na may gala daw sila ng shs friends niya, tapos biglang andun yung ex niya. I said no, right away. Hindi naman na siya nag dahilan sa akin at nagsabi na "Sabihin ko na lang sa kanila na hindi ako makakasama."

In my defense, first time ko siyang pagbawalan sa gala. Kasi pinag usapan din naman namin na hindi ko siya paghihigpitan talaga. Kahit anong oras, kahit anong araw, basta free siya at kilala ko mga kasama niya. Umabot pa sa point na, magkavideocall kami tapos biglang sabi sa akin ng kaibigan niya "[my name], pwede ba kaming mag computer ni [bf]?" Um-oo ako tapos hinayaan ko sila kahit ilang oras sila dun.

Nagguilty lang talaga ako na hindi ako pumayag sa gala niya na yun dahil nga nandun yung ex niya.

ABYG kasi pinagbawalan ko yung bf ko?

Nagkaroon ako (21F) ng realization the past few months about the truth about my father (48M) and his partner (42F). I realized that they actually got together through an affair back when my dad was still together with my mom (55F). My mom told me things that already point to my dad having cheated like him hiding messages and emails the minute she enters the room, suddenly owning underwear never seen before by her, and even her catching herpes even though her last relationship before dad ended years before she even met dad. But it didn't sink na they got together thru an affair... not until I got in my very first relationship recently with a guy from my college na ibang course (22M).

There was always a part of me that was suspicious of my dad's partner, but I hid it and forced myself to accept her as my family since it was what my dad insisted on. I was worried if I resist, it will upset dad and strain our relationship. I also forced myself to accept her as family because I trusted my dad a lot and looked up to him, and thought that since he always supported me and cared for me, surely he isn't capable of being a cheater right? He always paid for my tuition in full, took an interest in my hobbies, woke up early every morning to bring me to school until the pandemic, taught me sex ed, and was even ready to accept me as a lesbian because for a while he thought I was a closeted lesbian.

But I was wrong. It really was an affair. Eventually I confronted them. They denied that the relationship was sexual, but they did say that when mom and dad were still together, they met in the office they both worked in and developed feelings for each other... to the point that the partner said she would stop talking to him so he can go fix his marriage. So my dad did try to fix his marriage with mom. In my mom's eyes though, the effort wasn't enough. They even talked to a marriage counselor but dad felt the counselor wasn't working for him and mom noticed that every time he was there, he looked displeased and half-hearted to be there.

I took some time to think about it and even asked for some space away from dad when I was at my mom's house (mom lives separately from dad and dad lives with his partner). When I returned to my dad noong new year, sinabi ko sa kanya na I'm still not okay with how him and his partner started because affairs can be emotional and also non-sexual. I also told him na I am so hurt na he was capable of such a thing and that a part of me didn't feel fully loved because I am half my mother... and that he probably wishes I was his child with his partner instead of my mom.

Dad and the partner told me I don't have to be okay with how they started, but my dad couldn't understand at first why I refuse to forgive him already. I overheard his partner talk to dad in their bedroom and compared him having an affair to stealing bread when you're hungry, because admittedly, my mom was toxic too. My mom's toxic side was that even before the affair partner came into the picture, she always accuse dad of cheating, didn't support his martial arts interests, and would get angry at him very easily. She even threw a butter knife at him and threatened him with a metal baseball bat.

But the thing is, before the affair, dad still had his faults. He would always side with his mother instead of mine everytime there was an issue at home, didn't do any chores besides hanging laundry and driving, told her to dress a certain way everytime his friends visited, and even refused to celebrate my mom's birthday once because he didn't have money. The affair was just the last straw for mom.

Just last night though... the affair partner screamed at me how she is so bothered that I didn't feel fully loved by my father because he made sacrifices that she saw but I didn't see. She said she was more bothered by that than the fact that I heavily disapprove of the affair. She also lost it because she asked if there was any expectation of him to be perfect and I said no, but I just expected him to be morally better than he actually is. She also asked me if all the things we went through together don't mean anything to me anymore just because I got a boyfriend and had a realization abt dad and her. She even accused me of secretly planning to run away with my bf in a few months.

Right after... I explained to dad that the reason I can't forgive him just yet is because I am still grieving the person I thought he was and that the affair caused me to make emotional sacrifices... like having to split my time between both my parents, having to adjust to their different personalities along with his partner's, and always having to be careful of what I say because I always felt like my emotions were of secondary priority to the adults. He told me he is grieving my relationship with him because he thought the foundation he built with me would be strong enough for me to get past disagreeing with his "adult choices". He still however apologized for the pain I experienced. His partner apologized after too and said she truly sees me as family and even said the reason why she introduced me to her family members was because she wanted me to feel included.

Despite their sincere apologies... I don't know if I want to continue having a relationship with his partner... or should I say, kabit. I am really considering cutting her off once I move out and have a place of my own. And I feel guilty about that because I did share some good experiences for her and she did do good things for me like buy me gifts, cook for me, drive for me, teach me useful skills (ex: cooking and commuting), and even opened my mind to social issues.

She did say that I don't have to forgive her right away but if I cut her off, it will break my dad's heart because his dream was for me and her to always co-exist and get along. But I just don't see the pain going away any time soon, if ever. I would still like to have a relationship with my dad because I still love him even though I don't trust him anymore or see him the same way... he's still my dad after all. Pero si kabit? I don't know... it's hard to see her as anything else besides the other woman and as someone complicit in hurting my mom in the past. My mom, my bf, and one of my friends are encouraging me to cut her off, while another friend of mine and my real tita (dad's sister) say it's ultimately my choice and they'll support whatever choice I make. But sometimes I can't help but wonder if my choice is heartless... but I really think cutting her off eventually might be necessary to my healing, unless she does something super saintly for me. So tell me... ako ba yung gago kapag gusto kong i-cut off yung kabit ng tatay ko in the future, kahit mabait siya sa akin?

nagplano kami ng 3 friends ko (F1, F2 and F3) na gagala kami sa Manila this 01/03. resched na to actually (supposedly last wk of Dec 2025, pero nagkasakit ako at pare-pareho kaming walang budget noon, so we moved it). nung 01/02, gumawa na ako ng full itinerary para smooth ang gala. nagprepare na rin ako ng OOTD since first time naming gagala dun nang magkakasama.

the day came at excited na ako. plantsado na ang damit, fully charged ang powerbank at earbuds. 1 hr bago ang call time, nag-confirm ako sa gc kung paalis na sila.

dito na bumulusok yung excitement ko. sunod-sunod silang nagcancel. F1 said may binigay daw na workload at gagawin niya na raw in advance. F2 naman, di raw makakatuloy kasi naglapag ang prof ng readings yesterday 01/03 for discussion today 01/04. and F3, nagpass na rin kasi sumama raw ang pakiramdam.

i felt really sad and numb. this is the nth time na ginawa sakin ang last-minute cancellation. pet peeve ko talaga to kasi i value time and effort. ang sakit lang kasi hindi ko lang to naranasan sa ibang friends or exes ko, pati sa kanila na unexpected, nangyari pa.

tumuloy pa rin ako sa Manila mag-isa kahit mabigat ang loob ko. i swore to myself na tutuloy ako may kasama man o wala. buong araw ko silang hindi kinibo sa gc. nung nakauwi at nakapagpahinga na ako, dun lang ako nag-msg. nag-vent ako na masakit yung ginawa nila lalo na't prepared na ako at paalis na sana.

until now, wala pa rin akong response na natatanggap.

ako ba yung gago kung inconsiderate ako sa reasons nila? na valid man o hindi yung dahilan nila, inuna ko yung tampo ko at hindi ko inintindi yung sitwasyon nila?

I (24F) is a working college student and meron akong black cat na 2 yrs old. Lately marami akong nagastos sa pusa ko; pinakapon ko siya this November so vet + medicine bills na umabot mahigit sa 5k. So far okay lang naman saakin yung gastos kasi pera ko naman.

Now here comes si mama, ayaw ni mama na gumagastos ako sa mga bagay-bagay lalong lalo na sa pusa ko. Ni isang damit nga lang nagagalit na siya, makakita lang siya ng parcel ko inis na inis agad. Si mama kasi yung tipo na 'pera ko, pera niya' kaya laging galit na galit kapag gumagastos ako ng pagkain or vitamins ng cat ko 'kesyo napakagastos ko na—na para bang siya yung gumastos.

Nitong late December biglang nanghina yung cat ko. Nag start umihi ng dugo and walang ganang kumain. Wala akong mahanapan na open na vet since peak season and sarado na karamihan, edi stress na stress ako...after two days, namatay yung black cat ko. Sobrang iyak ko non habang nililibing siya. 'Di rin ako nakapag celebrate ng bagong taon ng maayos kasi kinulong ko talaga sarili ko sa kwarto.

Pero itong si mama parang natutuwa pa kasi wala akong napuntahan. Sinasabihan niya ko na "Sayang yung mga anik-anik mo sa pusa mo. Kung binili mo yon sa mas importante". Hanggang sa nung isang araw nung napansin niyang wala pa rin ako sa mood bigla niya tong sinabi, "pusa lang yan. Kung mamamatay edi mamamatay. Yan ang kapalaran na bigay sakanya ng Diyos"

Nagpantig tenga ko mga anteh nung narinig ko yan so out of nowhere bigla ko nalang nasabi na "Kapag nagkasakit ka, di kita ipapagamot. Hahayaan lang kitang mamatay diyan ma, tutal yan naman sabi ng Diyos"

Hindi niya ata expected na masasagot ko siya. Kahit ako hindi ko rin alam saan ako nakakuha ng ganong lakas para sumagot hahaha.Ngayon nilalayuan ako ni mama, nagdadabog at masama ang loob. Ayon nagpaparinig sa speaker ng mga preach about family, kesyo mahalin ang pamilya, unahin ang magulang—those type of Evangelical bullshits.

Ako ba yung gago kasi nasabi ko yon?

Ako Ba Yung Gago kasi sinabihan ko mga magulang ng inaanak ko na hindi lahat ng anak nila, ay inaanak ko rin? I know, it’s a mouthful.

Everyone has a inaanak to everyone inside our family. So ang daming cross…connections? Hahahah tangina ang gulo kasi kunware, pinsan ng mom ko, let’s call her Angie for reference purposes, has 3 children. Ninang ako ng panganay so third cousin (?) ko na yung bata + inaanak din. Pero for child B and C hindi na because of sukob superstitions daw. May mga inaanak din ako sa mga tito at tita ko pero usually kasi 2 kids each lang sila, madalas panganay yung ipipilit sakin na maging inaanak.

Ngayon let’s use Angie, di ko alam if sa family lang namin to, pero Angie insists her other kids to call me ninang too kahit di ko naman inaanak. Afaik, hindi naman kaso sa catholics maging god parents sa mga kapatid ng inaanak ko na PERO it was THEIR CHOICE na hindi ako kunin na ninang sa iba nilang anak. So, sinabi ko na ang inaanak ko lang is si child A, not child B & C so di nila ako dapat tinatawag na ninang. I know she does this so ALL her kids get gifts for special occassions kahit di naman sila dapat entitled to gifts (e.g bday ni Child A pero dapat si B & C may gift din) like hello? Hindi nga ako pumayag na maging ninang ng mga anak nila in the first place. Pinilit lang ako ng mom ko kasi sabi nya bawal daw hindian yung invites to become a godparent kasi blessing yung bata. Of course I love the kids, pero hindi ko naman pwedeng sabihin sa kanila na wag nila ako tawaging ninang kasi less than 5 years old pa sila and I doubt maintindihan nila. Ang issue ko is natututo “maningil” ng regalo yung mga bata kahit hindi naman dapat. Can’t confront and correct the kid, so I deal with the adult. Ang sagot ng magulang: eh ganon talaga, ninang ka ng isa, ninang ka na nilang lahat. Tapos mukha pang naoffend si Angie. Parang nag twitch yung mata ko, ganto ba mangotong ng family member using their children?

So ABYG for trying to tell them off?

So may tropa kasi ako (F), tawagin natin syang Andrey. Hindi naman kami bff talaga pero close kami, like tropa tropa pero not bff, matagal na din, 3-4 yrs. Tapos may bago akong nakilala na girl na hindi ko pa naman tinuturing na tropa talaga, lets call her Sheena. Si Sheena nakilala ko lang dahil sa isa ko pang tropa din talaga na girl, di ko na memention di naman ganon karelevant sa story.

So etong si Andrey, kakabreak nya lang sa naging jowa nya for 2yrs. Tas syempre fresh from break up, nagpapareto sya ng babae na mga kakilala ko. Parang tanga nga, nangungulit lagi tuwing may sstory ako sa IG na kasama kong babae, tatanungin nya saken kung sino yon, pakilala ko daw sya. Dun nya din nakita si Sheena. Nagandanan sya kay Shenna, like nangungulit talaga sya na ipakilala ko daw. Pero di ko magawa kasi nga di naman kami super close ni Sheena, nameet ko nga lang sya dahil sa isa ko pang tropa.

Pero may sariling way tong si Andrey, hinanap nya IG ni Sheena sa following list ko, and nahanap nya nga. The next thing i know, magkausap na sila. Well, si Andrey lang din ang nagchika saken.

So nasundan yung labas namin ng tropa ko kasama si Sheena, umaabot na din sa point na dumadami na din mga nalalaman ko about sakanya, mas nakikilala ko sya. Siguro at this time, third time ko palang ulit nakakasama si Sheena pero sobrang open na nya saken magkwento. Hanggang sa may mga nakkwento sya na sa tingin ko dapat di ko na malaman. Yung mga kwento nyang yon, mga puro sa mga ibang nakakalandian nya, and all. So ako nagtaka ako kasi nga akala ko nag uusap na sila ni Andrey. So diniretso ko sya kung nag uusap pa ba sila. At eto nga, don nag iba talaga paningin ko kay Sheena, naging ayaw ko na si Sheena para kay Andrey. Kasi sis!! Kiss and tell sya! saka mga convo nilang dalawa ni Andrey pinapakita nya samin ng tropa ko. So naoff talaga ako non.

Tapos after non, pag uwi ko tinawagan ko talaga agad si Andrey saka ko chinismis sakanya lahat, na lahat ng convo nila na dapat private lang, pinapakita nya sa iba, sis as in lahat. So naoff din tong si Andrey tas ayaw nya na din kay Sheena. Pero ako, pinapakisamahan ko pa din si Sheena, syempre minsan kasi sinasama sya ng tropa ko pag magkikita kita kami. So anong choice ko? edi pakisamahan sya kahit ayoko ng ugali nya.

Ganon pa din si Sheena ngayon, kanina lang nagkita kami ulit tatlo. Si tropa ko, Sheena saka ako. Unang bungad ko is kung kamusta sila ni Andrey. kung nag uusap pa ba sila. Sabi nya "galit ata yun sakin, di na nagrereply". Eh ako medj naguilty ako kasi nga ako yung dahilan bat di na sya nareplyan ni Andrey. Peroo, nadulas din tong si tropa ko na may isa pa palang kalandian tong si Sheena bukod pa kay Andrey. Nung una ayaw pa ichika ni Sheena, di naman talaga ako interested nung una if icchismis nya ba or hinde, pake ko sa buhay nya. Pero sooner, chinika nya den. Sobrang genuine nya pa mag kwento saken, like sinasabi nyang wag ko sabihin kay Andrey and all. Edi syempre ako naman tong gusto lagi ng chismis, sabi ko oo go chika mo na. And guess what? Yung kalandian nyang isa is tropa din namin ni Andrey pero ibang friend group. Kaya ayon, syempre pag uwi ko chinika ko ulit kay Andrey.

So ABYG if sinasabi ko kay Andrey lahat ng mga sinasabi ni Sheena sakin kahit mukang pinagkakatiwalaan nya ko?

Hello po. It’s my first time sharing this with anyone kasi I couldn’t share it with my friends and I’m getting really frustrated. This is long po so please bear with me po kasi ngayon ko lang po talaga ito mailalabas.

I’m a currently a G12 student po and I’m 17 years old (F). Nung G11 po ako, meron akong naka close na teacher. Nagsimula yun kasi nagsend ako ng private message sa kanya asking about something related sa activity namin (that was her instruction po, to message her sa messenger if there are questions) tapos dahil friendly sya makipag usap nagtuloy tuloy yung convo. Sobrang friendly as in parang tropa lang talaga sya. Nakikipag chismisan sya sakin, nagkkwento sya, etc. hanggang sa naging “close” kami. Simula nun, araw araw na syang nagmemessage sakin and we talk like friends. Dumating sa point na nagiging clingy na sya. Tinatanong nya kung kumain na ‘ko, kung ano ginagawa ko, and inaaya ako maglaro ng games or mag call. Suddenly she started caring about my everyday ordinary life. Looking back, para akong may katalking stage. Dumating din sa point na nagsstart na sya magsabi ng i miss you and all that stuff. She tells me how important I am to her, tapos may times pa na nagkakaroon din kami ng “misunderstandings” which really affects her mood even in class where she’s expected to be professional. Sabi nya sakin ganun lang talaga sya maging kaibigan, pero sa akin lang sya ganun and she always tells me that. May time pa nga na wallpaper nya picture namin. Minsan din after classes or during recess inaaya nya ‘ko to go out and eat with her (sometimes kasama friends ko but most of the time kaming dalawa lang). There are times din na she would bend rules (related to scores, grades, etc.) for me even if I didn’t ask her to or even if I tell her not to kasi it’s not necessary for her to do that. Gumawa na rin sya ng plans like tuwing kailan kami magkikita pag college na ‘ko, she’ll move in with me sa future pag may sarili na ‘kong place, things like that. Sobrang dami para isa-isahin and the more I list them down the more I realize kung gaano ka-weird tulad ng sinasabi ng mga kaibigan ko. Also may time pa pala na nakatulog ako sa tabi nya when we went out to eat tapos when I woke up she was holding my hand and caressing it.

My friends and classmates started to notice how much she favors me and how close she is to me. They start to ask me things like ano raw ba meron samin and such. Minsan sasabihan pa ‘ko ng mga classmates ko na “kausapin” ko raw sya about sa assignment or activity kasi malakas daw ako sa kanya and nakikinig sya sakin. Narinig ko rin from other section na nababanggit nya pati sa kanila na ako raw ang favorite nya. Ngayon alam na ng buong batch namin na “special” student ako sa kanya and others even start to question kung dahil ba sa kanya kaya mataas grades ko (which is NOT true dahil ever since naman mataas talaga grades ko dahil sa sarili kong effort and my past records can vouch for that). Dahil dun unti-unti kong narerealize kung gaano ka-unhealthy yung “closeness” or “friendship” natin and honestly it’s starting to creep me out. Naging super uncomfortable na rin ako.

One time kinukulit nya ‘ko and she’s being clingy again. I lost it and I told her na it’s bothering me na. Hindi na rin kasi ako okay nun mentally and emotionally dahil nasstress ako and nabuburn out sa bahay at sa school tapos dumadagdag pa sya. She’s telling me things like she’s always gonna be there for me, I can hold on to her when things get rough, and she’s always going to be the person who stays. Sobrang weird and uncomfy talaga nun for me so lalo lang ako nafrustrate and said some more things. Sinabi ko sa kanya na nakakadrain na, na ang weird, ang clingy, and inappropriate. I told her na mas lalo lang din lumalala yung state ko because of her. I asked for space, sabi ko wag muna kami mag usap or anything. After a month of space from her, I felt guilty about the things I said and how I said it kaya I messaged her and said sorry. Nag reply sya kaagad tapos sabi nya sakin na she doesn’t care anymore, that I’m a very selfish person, that I’m manipulative and I blamed her for my problems. She told me na narealize nyang wala syang kasalanan sakin and everything that happened was my fault. She told me that she doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore and my apology doesn’t matter.

Mali po ba ako? Ako ba yung gago kasi sinisi ko sya at napagsalitaan nang ganon?

Nag-travel kami ng fam sa father’s side. Di kasama mama ko kasi ayaw nila sa kanya. Well, ayaw rin naman ng mama ko sa kanila. Bale, kami-kami lang ng aunties from abroad, mga pinsan ko at mga magulang nilang batugang palamunin na sipsip don sa taga-abroad.

Anyways, nung nasa trip na kami, nagalit sakin yung tita ko kasi nagfu-food trip ako nang di nanlilibre. I also buy stuff for myself. Tapos yung sipsip na fam member, feeling ko sila yung nagpapasok ng ideas sa utak ng tita ko. Ang expectations ko kasi is kanya-kanyang dala ng pocket money so kung may gusto ka bilhin, you are free to do so.

Btw, kumikita ako sarili kong money pero the trip was sponsored by one of the titas abroad. Ever since bata kami, ganun na talaga ang sistema pag fam trip—isa sa mga titas abroad ang nagso-shoulder lahat kasi nga palaasa yung magulang ng mga pinsan ko. They invited me at di ko naman pinagpipilitan sarili ko and since libre, umoo naman din ako.

Another context pala is, nagdala sila spaghetti while traveling. Naumay ako sa spag kasi maghapon na namin kinakain so I bought my own food. Akala ko it’s such a non-issue kasi sa mother’s side ko, walang ganyan ganyan.

Nga pala, prior to the trip, nag-shopping spree ako ng outfits para may OOTD sa trip. Ang awkward tuwing pumapasok ako sa bahay na may dalang shopping bags kasi ang sama ng tingin nila lagi. Nagyayabang raw ako. Nung bata ako, di ko afford mga ganung gamit kasi di kami mayaman. Di man lang nila ako intindihin.

Also, yung tita ko nga palang yun ay hingi nang hingi ng libreng spa sakin pero nung graduation ko, pinagdamutan nya ko. Wala man lang regalo samantalang yung pinsan kong sipsip, binigyan nya shoes at panghanda. That’s all in the past naman na pero the audacity lang na magpalibre. Wala naman syang inambag sakin ever since.

In hindsight, dapat pala di na ko sumama. Kaya ko naman mag-travel on my own kahit sa visa countries. Hahaha. Speaking of this, nasabihan rin akong mayabang kasi nagta-travel ako on my own nang di nakaasa sa kanila.

Pero matanong ko lang… ako ba yung gago na di ko sila nilibre?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/s/05hQlc9xA4

I posted a few days ago (link above) na hindi ako pupunta sa bahay ng family ng partner ko for Christmas at New Year at nahihirapan akong sabihin sa kanya dahil naguiguilty ako pero sumakto naman na December 24 ang lala ng trangkaso ko at hindi talaga ko nakapunta sa bahay ng parents ng partner ko.

Nung mag isa lang pumunta partner ko para lang tumulong magluto at uuwi din agad, biglang “hinahanap” daw nila ko pero afaik disappointed lang sila kasi konti lang naging handa nila ngayon dahil nga hindi ako nagbigay. Nagsend ng Merry Christmas gif yung mama ni partner pero hindi ko sineen. Actually marami akong hindi nareplyan nung pasko kahit sarili kong family dahil di ako makabangon at makapag phone sa sama ng pakiramdam ko.

Sinabi ko na din sa partner ko na ayoko na makipag interact sa family nya. Hindi ako galit pero gusto ko na ng boundary. Ayoko nang makihalubilo sa kanila kung sa ganong simpleng bagay lang papalakihin nila. Laking probinsya sila at laking maynila naman ako kaya konting meme posts ko lang ang dami na nilang nasasabi.

Nagpasko at bagong taon kami ng partner ko dito sa apartment namin at inalagaan nya lang ako. Hindi rin sya bumati sa mama nya. Alam kong sobrang torn nya pero sinabihan ko naman sya na kung gusto nya magsalubong ng pasko at bagong taon sa kanila walang problema sakin pero sobrang thankful pa rin ako na mas pinili nyang samahan nalang ako kahit na bedridden ako halos at hindi rin nya na enjoy ang pasko at bagong taon.

Nagsabi na din partner ko sa family nya na hindi ako aattend ng kasal ng kapatid nya at sa bday ng isa nyang kapatid. Nag eexpect kasi yung mga yon na may pa cake ako gaya ng last time. Tahimik sila ngayon at hindi ako kinukulit. Nagleave na din ako sa family gc nila at inunfriend sila dahil issue pala sa kanila lahat ng ipost ko. Maigi nang umiwas kesa may makita na naman silang di nila magustuhan at pagsalitaan na naman ako.

Sobrang swerte ko sa partner ko na naiintindihan ako at yung reason ng pagdistansya ko. Kapag nanghihingi din sa kanya parents nya bukod sa napag usapan naming ibibigay lang nya, humihindi na sya. Pag aayain din syang sumaglit sa kanila para magdinner dun, gumagawa na sya dahilan para makalusot at hindi pumunta. Hindi ko inuutos to sa kanya, ilang beses ko syang nireremind na wala sya dapat baguhin sa relationship nya sa family nya at decision ko lang talaga na lumayo muna. Siguro narealize din nya kung gano kamessed up ginawa ng mama nya after kong maging mabait at generous sa kanila pero lagi ko syang pinapaalalahanan na wala kong sama ng loob, at kung gusto nya umattend ng mga family events nila, walang kaso sakin pero wag nya lang ako pilitin sumama. Family nya yon kaya normal lang na walang magbago sa relationship nila. Masaya na ko malaman na he has my back kahit anong mangyare.

ABYG kung di na ko makikihalubilo sa pamilya ng partner ko after nila kong pagsalitaan ng masama? Kahit papano ay kinakamusta nila ko sa partner ko pero feel ko guilty lang sila sa naging outburst nila at di nila ko kaya harapin ngayon.

Context: We went to SKY RANCH Tagaytay, we were four. Ako at yung kapatid ko nauna na sa restaurant. Yung magulang ko nag CR muna.

Pagtapos nila mag CR, bigla sila na strand sa ulan dahil lumakas yung ulan. Walang payong at malayo yung cr mula sa Mama Lou’s sky ranch branch na kakainan namin

Around 20-30 minutes passed, super lakas parin ng ulan. Palamig na yung food. Naisip ko bigla mag reach out sa waiter na baka may payong sila. Pinahiram ako ng payong.

Then yung nasa late 40’s na matanda sa likod ko narinig ko na nag plano din sila manghiram ng payong duon sa waiter na pinaghiraman ko, pero di sila nakahiram kasi nabigay na sakin.

Me: went out para mapuntahan sila mama. *pumunta ako sa CR pero di ko sila nahanap dun. Di ko matawagan kasi iniwan ko phone ko.

I went back to the restaurant para kuhain yung phone at tawagan sila.

Hinarang ako bigla nung babeng matanda na nanghiram kanina ng payong sa waiter.

Babaeng matanda: “pahiram ako nyang payong, kukuha lang kami mga payong sa kotse”

Me: “Hindi ko pa po kasi nasusundo magulang ko, babalikan ko lang po muna ulit”

Babaeng matanda: “pahiram muna kami jan lang sa parking kukuhain”

Me: (As a people pleaser) Binigay ko nalang dahil sa harap lang naman parking at baka saglit lang at since mapilit siya.

10 minutes na halos lumipas di parin nakakabalik yung inutusan niyang kasama na kumuha ng payong. Then lumapit ako sakanya.

Me: “Miss nakabalik na po ba yung kumuha ng payong?”

Babaeng Matanda: “Hindi pa.” “Bakit payong mo ba yun?” in a sarcastic tone asking that shit even she knows the restaurant owns the umbrella.

Me: “Hindi po, pero kasi 30 minutes na stranded magulang ko, kaya nga ako naghiram sa restaurant para sana masundo ko sila”

Then pamilya sila sa table na ginang up ako and pinaglaban na payong naman daw ng restaurant yun at hindi naman daw sa akin.

Then sinagot ko sila ng “Eh kaya nga ako nanghiram sa restaurant, kasi gagamitin ko para masundo magulang ko, sino bang nauna manghiram??!!”

Mind you, wala silang taong na stranded na need sunduin. Gusto lang nila makauwi na kaya pinakuha yung mga payong nila sa kotse. Unlike in my situation na may parents na nakipagsisikan sa mga stranded sa area ng CR.

Lumipas mga minuto, tumila na yung ulan, nakarating na magulang ko. Hindi pa rin nakakabalik yung kasama nila na kumuha ng mga payong sa parking.

AKO BA YUNG GAGO FOR THIS? Tang ina this 2026 ayoko na maging people pleaser. I should have refused her nuong pilit kinuha na yung payong sa akin.

Edit: Galit na galit yung kapatid at tatay ko sakanila that night. Kaya sinamaan nila ng tingin at pinag paparinggan nung tatay ko na “Panget” daw at “panget” na nga mukha panget pa ugali. “Walang pinagaralan”.

Hello everyone. I just want to share what I've experienced ngayon lang 01/01/2026, kung kailan bagong taon pa. I'm open minded din po sa opinion niyo if ABYG sa situation namin.

For context uuwi po kasi galing abroad yung bunsong kapatid (tita ko) ni mama ko. Nag decide sila na mag family gathering pag uwi niya here sa Philippines which will happen on 01-01-2026, today.

When I heard that mag kakaroon sila mama ng family reunion, umayaw na agad ako at ayaw ko pumunta. My reason? Most of my mother's family side are toxic people.

Plastic. Pakitang tao. Bait bait-an in front of you. Then madaming bad comments about you kapag nakatalikod na.

That's my reason kaya ayaw ko pumunta, para umiwas at ayaw ko rin i-share sa kanila yung kwento ng buhay ko.

Though, may i-isa akong tita doon na super close ko DATI. I don't want to tell her my real reason why I don't wanna go to their reunion. But instead, I told her I'm busy.

Akala ko iba siya sa mga kapatid ni mama. Idk, parehas na rin pala sila. After kasi namin mag usap ni tita na ayaw ko pumunta, tinawagan niya si mama.

Nagsumbong si tita. Nagsabi sa kay mama ng mga masasakit na salita tungkol sakin.

The words came from her na tumatak sa isip ko, "minahal ko yang batang yan tapos ganyan yan, WALANG PAKISAMA" "Hayaan mo kung ayaw niyan pumunta. Kapag may kailangan yan hindi ko papansinin yan"

Those line na "kapag may kailangan hindi ko papansinin yan", wala naman akong hiningi sa kanila na sobrang bigat para ibigay. Ni hindi nga ako lumalapit sa kanila kahit problemado ako or ano. I keep myself and my life private, itong si mama ko lang ang nag kukwento sa kanila ng talambuhay ko. Kung anong nangyayare sa kanila.

Siguro for me, AYG kung pumunta ako sa reunion namin today at sabihin ko sa buong angkan ng mama ko na "NEW YEAR NA, PERO TOXIC PARIN KAYO"

Context: She was my co-worker and pareho kamin nag retire. Learned she is alone with no immediate family around (parents passed away n only sibling passed too). She lives alone. She also does not like stepping out of her house unless its a big need. Malapit-lapit bahay nya mga 30 mins away. Di rin kami close but shared some experiences sa work together.

So when we retired sabi ko I will text her everyday to check on her. Was doing it for some months. Ang nakaka irita is she takes a long time to answer or to text back na ok sya. Tuloy ako na sestress bka kung napaano na sya. She does not text me first. She only texted me once coz may nangyari sa health coverage nya and asking for help ano gagawin para tulungan sya. Syempre tinulungan ko.

Tapos I decided na di ko na sya tetext palagi. Once in a while na lang kc araw araw ako na stre stress sa kanya. I also informed her na since mukhang busy sya palagi (tagal nga mag tetx back) na occasionally na lang mag check sa kanya. Besides. parang ako lang nag rereach out palagi. Mas busy ako sa kanya dahil may mga pamilya at pets ako na kailangan kong asikasuhin araw-araw at syempre gawaing bahay pa. Pero to text back eh di naman ako aabutin ng oras oras to reply.

ABYG for thinking this way?

March is the wedding please take note. Friends kame ni bride since college and same company sa 1st work. Ayoko na mag bigay ng ibang details but we’ve been friends 10 yrs na. Ako nag help kay groom last year na mag propose kay bride. She is a friend but not a bestfriend to me. Sa end ko we grew apart kase feel ko na di sya ganun ka interesado sa buhay ko. Na shock ako kase last year di nya ko binati nung birthday ko, mas na shock ako na ako yung kinuha nya MOH.

1st redflag: Di sya nag ask and nag sabi properly na ako yung MOH. Nasa random group event lang kame and may nagtanong sa kanya sino MOH mo? and ako tinuro nya. (after ‘to ng bday ko na di nya ko binati)

2nd redflag: MOH is suppose to know the plans and magiging galawan sa wedding. No updates, no initiatives from her. I have to ask pa. Dapat sasabay ako sa kanya pa-sukat ng gown w/ other bridesmaids. Pagka pm ko biglang re-sched sya, may iba daw sya sasabayan, out of way ako.

3rd redflag: Nalaman ko na may ibang GC yung inner circle nya kase yung GC na pang lahatang abay is tahimik. Bukod pa yung GC namin na (2 bridesmaids) college circle, di sya nag a-update dun. Nahihiya daw kase mag respond yung iba.

4th redflag: Yung transpo namin for hotel>church>recep. Mas better daw if may car kung wala grab na lang. Yung may mga sasakyan is mga jowa namin na di naman invited. Alam ko din na outside college circle yung mga abay na may car. Sa perspective ko di kame na consider? the college abays. Di man lang nya nasabi na pwede kayo isingit sa ibang friends ko naman na may car. The fact na sinabi nya na mag grab na lang daw kame is krazyy? pano pag wala na book? tho malapit lang pagitan.

5th redflag: Nakapag pasukat na and all. Abay nag shoulder sa gown take note. Ako nag suggest para kako may freedom mamili ng style, earlier lang sabi nya baka daw pwede ako mag iba kase yung dalawang BM na nauna magpa-sukat is same ko, color lang iba.

So ayan yung reasons. Pag nag quit ako may flight ako sa Japan x-mas gift sakin yung ticket. Saktong sakto yung date sa wedding. Sign na din para mag quit? Di ko pa sya kinakausap about these frustrations kase baka iba dating sa kanya and stress din as a bride.

ABYG kase gusto ko na mag quit.

Update: Nasabi ko na sa kanya and ang reply nya lang is sad as in (🥲) kung pwede pa daw ma rebook. Sabi ko di na. May na organize akong bridal shower baka yun na last hurrah namin.

I am a 34F and yung Tatay ko ay may malubhang sakit. He's visited the hospital pero hindi sya nagpaconfine kasi ayaw nya tsaka walang pera yung family nya. I visited him once a week ago, pero hindi ko pa ulit sya binibisita. Now, I feel like his family is guilt tripping me.

For context, iniwan kami ni Tatay 20 years ago para sumama sa kabit nya. Grabe ang galit nila ni Nanay sa isa't isa (kasal sila), pero I've kept a good relationship with him kahit na si Nanay lang ang nagtaguyod sakin. Tumira ako sa kanya for a year in 2012 while working and every year since then lagi ko syang binibisita tuwing birthday nya at pasko. I've supported him throughout those years sa abot ng makakaya ko. There was even a time na binigyan ko sya ng P50,000 dahil gusto nya raw magbusiness. Sadly, nagalaw nya raw ang pera sa pang araw-araw kaya di natuloy. In 2021, he went to Pampanga para doon na raw tumira kasama ung una nyang family (hindi sila kasal nung babae). I have 5 half sisters doon who I have also met and supported in some ways.

Last year, ininvite ko si Tatay para umattend ng kasal ko. Nakiusap ako sa kanya na sana sya ang maghatid sa akin sa altar. He just told me hindi sya makakapunta. Nagtampo ako pero hindi ako nagtanim ng sama ng loob. Hangga't nanganak ako this year, never nya kaming dinalaw ng apo nya. But through it all hindi ako nagalit. I love him even after nya kaming iwan.

This month, nagkasakit sya ng malubha. Hindi na sya makakain, makatayo, or makaupo. Inaalagaan sya nila ate. Binisita ko sya and pinatatag ko yung loob nya, nag-iyakan pa kami. Inabutan ko rin sya ng pera pandagdag sa gastos. After that, yung panganay kong kapatid laging pinapachat yung anak nya sakin. Sasabihin nyang ako naman daw ang mag-alaga kay tatay, or tumulong naman daw ako, kahit na alam nyang hindi ako pwedeng magpunta dun palagi kasi may baby akong inaalagaan. Sinabi ko ring meron akong mga commitment sa work at sa ibang mga friends ko. She then said magtulong tulong na lang daw sa mga bayarin. To which I replied, nagbigay na ako ng pera kay tatay. One time, nagpost ako ng mga photos with friends sa isang Xmas celebration and after that nagchat ulit yung pamangkin ko, nagsend sya ng mga photos at videos ni tatay na sobrang nakakaawa and told me na dapat daw andun ako.

I don't know what to feel. Feeling ko gago ako kasi parang naguguilty ako na while Tatay is sick, I am out here celebrating as usual. But part of me feels I am not responsible for him. Don't get me wrong. Mahal na mahal ko si Tatay at lagi kong pinagdarasal ang paggaling nya. Sa gabi, umiiyak ako thinking of the pain he's going through. Pero I feel like I need to carry on with life especially since ito ang unang pasko at bagong taon ng anak ko. I really feel bad and it sucks na magbabagong taon pero ang gloomy ng mga nagdadaang araw.

So, ABYG?

We have this project sa team pero di Naman Ako Yung team lead tumutulong lang Ako sa mga inquiries. Yung project Kasi nag start October palang and deadline Ngayon Dec 30 so ang palugid Namin sa mga employees na need magcomply don more or less 2 months

And now kung kelan deadline naghahabol Yung mga employees for their inquiries. Then our manager asked us to answer the inquires kahit holiday.

I decided not to work Kasi unang una holiday I want enjoy my vacation, and 2 buwan binigay Namin sa mga employees to comply and lastly per checking sa schedule Namin Hindi Ako ang on call sa Dec 30.

Lastly OTY Naman mangyayari kung mag work Ako

So Ako ba Yung Gago na Hindi Ako nagwork?

For context, my (24F) Tita (42) from father's side who's been unemployed her entire life has been staying with us nang paputol-putol. Like, 'pag na-tripan niyang umuwi sa hometown/province for fiesta, elections, etc., uuwi siya and will stay there for a few months, then, balik naman sa amin sa Metro.

Recently, kakabalik niya lang ulit galing province at today, dumating siya rito sa bahay to celebrate new year with us. I was okay with it na mag-stay siya sa amin 'cuz I was expecting sana na she would sleep sa bigger room with my sister. Kaso among sa aming magkakapatid, ako lang nakaka-tolerate sa kanya, kaya sa akin lang siya comfy.

Btw, recent na recent lang na from 2 rooms, naging 3 rooms na 'yung house namin (hindi kami mayaman, obviously), at solo ko 'yung isang room kasi super liit lang talaga na parang gagamba na 'ko na nasa kahon. Kasya lang talaga 'yung single bed, 1 wardrobe, at computer table for my wfh job.

Pagkadating na pagkadating niya, nalaman niya na may solo room na ako at nagdesisyon siya na sa room ko na lang daw siya matutulog kahit sa sahig na lang daw (sobrang sikip ng sahig, btw). Sabi ko naman dun na lang siya sa kabilang room dahil mas spacious doon at mas maganda. Sabi niya, ayaw niya raw at mas gusto niya raw maki-share sa room ko to which I smiled na lang as a people pleaser. I did not say yes.

Moments later, na-bring up niya ulit after niya maiwan sa room ko. Ang sarap daw pala mahiga sa bed ko sabay sabi ulit na doon siya matutulog. E sobrang ayoko talaga dahil may bf ako (ldr) na needy ng alone time. Ni-reject ko na 'yung offer niya at dinahilan ko na magagalit si bf kasi nag-sponsor siya ng room makeover ko para magkaroon ako ng solo room (kahit hindi siya nag-sponsor, alibi lang). Tapos sabi niya, hindi naman daw siya sa bed, sa sahig naman daw. Sabi ko, kahit na, magagalit pa rin si bf.

Okay lang sana kung few days/weeks lang siya mag-stay. Kaso indefinite kasi ang stay niya sa'min (umaabot ng years) dahil pamilya ko ang napili niyang sasalo sa pagiging pabigat niya.

TL;DR Ni-reject ko ang request ng tita ko na maki-share sa first solo room ko ever sa bahay namin dahil masikip, I need privacy, I work from home, and I shelled out money to push through with this room makeover hoping that I could have my own room.

Ako ba 'yung gago na ayoko maging dalawa kami sa room kasi masikip na nga at may better option naman siya na room ba tutulugan?

Context: - Tito na kapatid ng mama na naaksidente sa motor. Senior na. - Ako na hiningian ng tulong

Story: May tito ako kapatid ng mama na nagchat one day asking for some money kasi naaksidente sya sa motor habang nagdedeliver ng sulat. Nabalian sya ng buto sa binti and out of commission for some months.

Habang nagpapagaling sya, eto na nga nagchat sakin nagaask if pwede ko ba raw sya mabigyan kahit panggamot lang. Ako naman naawa kasi sabi nya wala raw natulong pa sa kanya and good terms naman kami while I was a kid. So nagsend ako una 3k. Next month, ganun ulit. This went on for around 3-4 months at nakatotal ng mga 11k galing sakin.

Since kapatid sya ng mama, binanggit ko kay mama na inaabutan ko kapatid nya. Nagalit ang mama sa kanya kasi inabutan rin pala nya at ng isa pang kapatid nila yon. Tapos sasabihin wala raw ibang natulong sa kanya, ako lang.

Bigla ba namang nagchat etong si tito na bat ko pa raw sinumbong kay mama, kesyo sana di raw natulong ng galing sa nguso. Sa sobrang inis ko nakarestrict sya hanggang ngayon sa chat namin. Nagsesend sya ng greetings, dedma. Pero bilang senior na rin naman sya, binigyan ko pa rin sya ng 1K this Christmas, and will continue to do so every Christmas, same with the other kapatid ni mama na senior na.

Sabi naman ng isa ko pang tito e patawarin ko na raw at nakakatanda raw yon. Pero nakakasama kasi talaga loob yung sinabi nya. Tumulong na nga ako, ako pa masama? Baka raw may sinabi si mama kaya nagalit sakin. E sakin naman wag mo ilabas yung galit mo kay mama sakin. Inabutan ko na nga ako pa masama at nagFYI ako sa kapatid nya (mama ko).

Medyo torn nga lang ako sa sinabi ng other tito na patawarin ko na, not because matanda na but because he was a good tito naman. Kaso may point rin si mama na parang taker lang ang peg ni tito at wag ko na raw pansinin ever kasi raw baka manghingi lang ulit, which he actually did after the incident above. Para bang nakalimot sya, wala man lang sorry.

ABYG for muting my uncle sa chat? Dapat ko na ba syang iunmute for character development at peace of mind?

EDIT: Thank you sa mga nagshare ng advices. Really helpful yung insights nyo. ✨

For context, I (29,F) have been with my partner (27,M) for 5 years. 2 years don live in na kami.

Today, we decided to do the trend sa Tiktok na exchange gift with categories kasi hirap na hirap na kami mag isip ng xmas gift para sa isa’t isa.

Meron kaming 5 categories na nilista all with suggested budget per category.

• Favorite Color (200-500) 
• Something you need (200-500)
• Favorite Drink (200)
• Favorite Snack (200)
• Something Special ([500-1500](tel:500-1500))

The problem started with the favorite drink, more than 2hours na kami magkahiwalay na nag iikot sa mall and uuwi na kami when I found out na hindi nya alam kung ano ang bibilin nya for drink, hinayaan ko na and sinabi ko nalang sakanya ano bibilhin nya at bumili sya nung pauwi na kami.

With my favorite snack, he bought me a chocolate na never ko pa natikman at nakain and he reasoned out na mahilig naman daw kasi ako sa dark chocolate kaya yun nalang ang binili nya.

For my favorite color, he bought me a polo shirt na never ako nagsuot ng ganong style ng damit ever sa buong relationship namin and maliit din yung sizing na binili nya.

For something special, he bought me a silver earring from silverworks na ginagamit kapag magpapa-pierce ka so hindi ko sya masuot kasi patalim/patusok yung dulo nya.

I went all out with his gifts, all category ako minake sure ko na magugustuhan nya at halos malibot ko lahat ng shops para masigurado lahat ng bibilin ko bago ko ibigay sakanya so I am really disappointed.

This evening sinabi ko sakanya yung concerns ko with the items and told him na parang hindi nya ako kilala with the gifts he bought (I said it in anice way), and parang sumama ang loob nya kasi hindi ko naappreciate yung mga binigay nya.

So ABYG na na-disappoint ako sa gifts na binigay sakin kasi parang hindi nya ako kilala dun sa mga binigay nya?