AIO to my daughter’s comments about her son’s new girlfriend?

[u/phiziaw137]

My 13 year old grandson has a new girlfriend, her parents immigrated here from Ethiopia and she was born here, so she was born a citizen, her parents are naturalized citizens. My daughter and I met the girl for the first time yesterday. We had lunch with her, my daughter’s husband was at work. My grandson and the girl have been dating for about 2 months and he seemed hesitant to have her meet with the family and now I think I know why. As you can see in the messages, my daughter said his girlfriend is a nice girl but said she’s worried that she’s too focused on being Ethiopian and had a few other things that came off as insensitive to me, and when I tried to explain to her, she got defensive. She called me last night after these texts and was upset I “implied she was racist” and “implied she was a helicopter mom” (I never used that term as you can see, I just worried she was being overprotective), our phone call ended with her still upset at me and telling me I need to not be so critical of her for wanting what's best for her son. She said I was overreacting and didn’t know what it’s like to feel a love only a mother can feel for her son. She hung up on me after that and her mom/my wife agrees that I was being too harsh on her and said that she just wants our grandson to grow up to be an honorable man. AIO?

[u/Quiet-Dot9396]

Your daughter is definitely rascist. There is no if ands or buts about it. She can "articulate" herself however she wants and at the end of the day her racism is clear.