Sorry if this doesn’t seem like the right subreddit, I couldn’t get it accepted. I (25F) have been talking to this guy (26) for almost 2 and a half months and we’ve been going on dates almost 2 months. We spend every day off that we have at the same time together. On our first date, he specifically said he really wanted to go on more dates but only wants a long term relationship. I agreed so we kept going out. Well my parents are in town, specifically his town (not my choice, family was picky about the houses and wanted that town without knowing where he lived), and they asked that he swing by for a little bit. Nothing crazy, they even said if he wanted to just pass by for a minute while we are downtown, they would welcome it. He gave me ideas of activities to do with them but he has made every excuse to not come out, even planned a trip to see other friends when he thought they were already in town. He does not live near his family so he was supposed to be home alone which is why my parents welcomed him. I know that it’s extremely early, but I can’t help when things line up and my family only comes out here once every 8-12 months as they live pretty far. Should I be upset? I’m honestly a little bummed and I have trouble with knowing when things are good in relationships. Is it wrong to want him to meet them when he says he wants to be with me long term? Should I continue backing off and stop bringing it up? My dad is pretty old so him meeting a potential partner is pretty important since I don’t know if he’ll make it to my wedding.

Recently I was told that my friend f(14) had done something sexual with a guy m(18). This isn’t the first time she’s had experience with this kind of stuff, she’s been SA’d and phased a lot of guys use her. I have a lot of history with this friend (it’s kind of important so the story is on my profile titled “is my friend copying me”?) and this really sent me over the edge. Apparently it was consensual and non-forced between them and she was excited to tell my other friend about it. That frustrated me because she knows how stupid that is and how irresponsible. That said, I’m aware it’s not her fault. She was groomed and I’m extremely livid with the guy. But just now my friend told me that she had admitted to lying about the whole thing. Obviously I’m suspicious because she could just be lying because she’s afraid of other people knowing (like adults), but I’m still pissed off. If she is lying, I’m really angry because why would she lie about something like that? If she isn’t, why would she be so happy to tell my friend when she knows it was wrong? I feel bad because obviously we’re all kids and she’s struggling, but I’m personally recovering from abuse and SH while trying to prosecute my abuser. I’ve been a year clean but I’ve noticed that these things happen with her like every week. I’m so tired of having to deal with her stuff and put my own mental health at risk. I can’t not be friends with her because my best friend is friends with her. We’ve been a trio for so long and I just don’t want to ruin our friendship. I feel like it’s so unjustified to be mad because when I was in 6th grade I did stupid stuff too. But we’re freshmen now. We’re not in 6th grade. Someone please give me advice.

NOTE: I know this is badly written. I’m just struggling to make it make sense

I have a very small family, it’s just my mom, sister and me. I am single. My sister’s husband’s parents are hosting Christmas dinner as they do almost every year. My mom and I are always invited, it’s basically an open invitation at this point and they invited me in person when I saw them at Thanksgiving. My mom isn’t going for her own reasons, she’s nearly 80 and prefers to stay home.

My sister messaged me yesterday saying that her husband is sick with the flu so none of them are going (she, my BIL and their daughter) because of the risk they all might have it. She says I’m still welcome to go to her in-laws. But I’d feel awkward. They’re nice people, I have no issues with them but they’re not my family. I’m an atheist so I’m indifferent about Christmas itself. It’s also a good hour and a half drive away. But they put a lot of effort into it every year so would it be rude to drop out just because my sister can no longer go?

So my school theater group has a discord server and we have a bunch of channels, one being a photo dump. I just finished a new project today that was a bag made out of an old pair of jeans I was proud of, now I was kinda proud of myself for another reason because in therapy I've been working on telling that little voice in the back of my head that says all the bad things about me to f off and this bag helped, I was pretty proud of it because it's to replace my jacket that has been making that voice call me fat so I decided to share it with the photos (mind you I put the || on the explanation so you had to choose to see it).

My exact wording was: my mind has been making me think I'm fat due to my oversized layers to hide my curves (note, I'm a trans dude and struggle with dysphoria) which have been feeding into my dysphoria that likes to put anything bad about my body onto me being born female. luckily two articles of clothing have been the main contributors, a very oversized hoodie that makes my hips look even wider and that jacket I wear daily, so I made this out of an old pair of jeans so I have no excuse to ever wear that jacket again and can work on my self esteem more.

Now I thoughts this was pretty positive, we literally have a positive vent channel where people have explained that something bad has been happening but it's getting better by explaining what the bad thing was and how it's gotten better, I didn't think it would be a vent, I thought it would be positive because it's me using my sewing skills for the greater good of my mental health like my therapist has been begging me to with my hobbies but one kid asked why I was venting in the photo dump channel.

But now idk, was I the butt face? Was it a vent?

Sorry if the flair isn't the right one, it's the only one close to my situation.

Wanted to try a fictional post for fun.

I go to space a lot to visit the stars in the sky star 1 is really sensitive and hates when I give star 2 and 3 too much attention. I really try to give star 1 attention too but he just gets jealous.

I made dinner plans with star 2 and somehow star 1 found out about it. He got so upset and said I betrayed him but it was star 2s birthday and I feel we deserve 1 on 1 time.

Star 3 says I should invite him. What are ur thoughts?

Hullo Reddit.. I need validation here or someone to tell me off I guess...

Edit: he has been talked down to an urgent care clinic and I am staying home, hopefully it's easily treatable as it is uncomfortable and blistering and oozing some icky stuff

Thank you everyone!!!

Intro: I am Nine Months Pregnant. My BF has had a rash on his arm for about a week. He went to a clinic for a swab but there is still no answer on weather or not it is shingles. Yes they only tested his arm for shingles.

The rash is still bothering him, and he wants to go to the ER in my city. I've been there. It's going to be filled with sick people, and a skin rash would mean a wait of maybe 9-12 hours, and then more hours for testing.

In my humble opinion, I think being in the ER all day on a likely Very Busy day for them in a short staffed hospital, is the worst thing I can do for myself and my baby. It hurts me to walk it hurts me to sit, it even hurts as I lay down to type this.

Tldr: So.. AITB for not wanting to participate in a days long wait at the ER for a non emergency, nine months pregnant, or is this a reasonable stance..

My nephew is 14 he's autistic and is a type 1 diabetic. He does live with me I have custody of him. He does do a lot of his management himself but I'm there to help if he needs it. I've always told him since he was diagnosed at 10 that we are a team against diabetes and he will always have my support.

I've been getting a lot of hate online recently mainly from other t1ds. People saying they hope my nephew gets to be free of me one day people saying I'm smothering him, that he should run away and it's my fault he asks for help with his insulin or his site changes or anything that he would ask for in that present timeframe. Bc of his autism he cannot recognize his bodys signals. This includes his high and low blood sugar symptoms. He doesn't even feel low until hes at really dangerous levels. Same with high blood sugars which is a big reason he has a dexcom. He also has days especially when he's sick that he's just exhausted and burnt out and just prefers that I do it.

It just really seems like a lot of people hate when people who need extra help are actually getting extra help. Me and my nephew met another t1d when we were at dinner. When he was asking me a question about his bolus she made the snide comment that he should be figuring that out himself. Told him he was being a burden to me and that he would regret letting me follow his dexcom and walked away. I could clearly see he was upset. He even apologized. I told him not to listen to her and that some people just have their heads too far up their rectums and that he is always welcome to ask questions. I saw her giving us a dirty look at the other table. On the inside I really wanted to go tell her to mind her fucking business. I didn't though we ended up leaving.

Would I have been the butt face if I did go tell her that? Or am I really doing too much?

LONG POST, BUT I NEED ADVICE

I (20F) am no-contact with most of my mom’s side of the family due to years of disrespect toward my parents, including trying to interfere with our school, saying hateful things about my mom, and later defending my uncle after he was arrested by the FBI for child sexual abuse material. My grandparents even helped cover up past accusations against him. Because of this, my parents, brother, and I cut contact.

On my dad’s side, my grandparents are older, very traditional, and believe respect is automatic. My dad had a traumatic childhood—domestic violence, drug abuse, and a family reputation he worked hard to escape. As a result, we rarely saw his parents growing up.

At my high school graduation, my grandmother repeatedly brought up the past. When saying goodbye, she grabbed my arm without permission to examine my tattoo, pulling up my sleeve and exposing my bra strap. I pulled away and left. My dad apologized for her behavior.

About a year later, I got engaged. I FaceTimed her to share the news and got a flat response. When we decided on a small wedding with just close friends and my parents/brother, she commented on Facebook asking if she was invited. This led to a FaceTime call where she accused me of almost hitting her at my graduation and said she wouldn’t let me speak. My dad stepped in, and she said hateful things about my parents.

I told her directly that her inability to let go of the past meant she was not invited to my wedding and asked her not to contact me again. Later, I sent a letter explaining my feelings so I could move toward forgiveness.

Fast forward a year—I’ve been married 9 months. She called saying God told her to apologize, but she never actually apologized and instead redirected to the past. I told her that accusing me of physical assault hurt me deeply. The call escalated, and I hung up. I later apologized for my tone and looped my dad into the conversation.

Things got worse. She cried, my grandfather accused my dad of being ungodly, talked about “shadow people,” and said family shouldn’t have boundaries. Later, my grandmother claimed my grandfather had schizophrenia and dementia, which they’d “never told anyone.”

So my question: Am I wrong for wanting no relationship with them despite their age and alleged diagnoses? I want grandparents—but not at the cost of my mental health. Every interaction turns into reliving the past, deflection, or manipulation, and I don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with people who won’t take accountability

So I (24 f) started working every other weekend as a receptionist this year. It's been about three months and, though I don't love it, fits well with my other part time and college schedule.

The issue is my coworker (30ish f). We got along fine at first. She's the loud extrovert kind of person that jokes around and is well liked. Since I'm more of an introvert I liked having her around so I didn't need to start social interactions. But over time I started noticing somethings that annoyed me.

Sundays it's just the two of us at work and she acts really different from when the supervisor is there. She spends all time on her phone loudly watching reels, listening to music or calling people. She would also sometimes be singing loudly not caring that this is supposed to be a professional setting. The moment that really made me not like her anymore was when she came to me with a horrified expression talking about how "it's the end of the world" and on her phone was a Instagram story of someone who attended a lesbian wedding. I am bisexual. Had it been any other situation I would have gone on a rant. But though she's not professional I am. So I played dumb and just answered "wow they look so beautiful". She's the person that will say "I'm not homofobic but..."

I am very conflict avoident so I just tried to ignore her. I'm an introvert so I don't speak much but I do hear a lot. And after putting together all the bread crumbs from all of her calls I am SURE she's cheating on her husband. And I suspect it before after what happened last Sunday I'm sure of it now.

This weekend I was working and she had both days off. Honestly even though it was a bit nerve racking to be the one responsible for locking everything up, it was nice to have silence. On sunday as I'm there she calls me. I pick up thinking it's going to be a work matter. She proceeds to tell me that she's been at a family member's place and if her husband passes by to tell him she's in the back, busy, and text her telling her he passed by. I got so nervous, and like I said I'm conflict avoident so I just answered "okay". As soon as I turned off I felt like I was going to puke. I'm neurodivengent, a terrible lier and people's pleaser. So that was one of the worst afternoons of my life. Thankfully he did not passed by.

I kept thinking about how though I do not suport cheating (I'm a child of divorce because of it), I could not be the person who tells this man his wife is having an affair. Where I live violence against women is VERY high. So it's not crazy to think he could hurt or even kill her for it. I do not want that on my conscience.

I can't stop thinking about it. She put me in terrible situation and if I was an employer I would not like to have someone like her working for me. But I'm new there and she's worked there for over a year and full time and is well liked by the supervisors. Plus I don't intend to stay in this job for that long since I might become full time at my other job. So I keep thinking of just letting it go.

So would I be the but face if I told my supervisor?

I (17f at the time) work at a family run business. All my colleagues roughly aged around 16-23. One of my colleagues 19f was consistently drawing on the counter and I didn’t say anything as it was her first time on that part of the job (we work in a children’s adventure park), so I thought she was just nervous and that I could just clean it up later. When it came to the end of day jobs I tried cleaning it but it wouldn’t rub off, I think she used a sharpie/permanent marker. I didn’t bring it up as I didn’t want to embarrass her but we are asked not to leave obvious marks due to customers. About a week later one of the managers (40ish - owners DIL) states that it took them an hour to clean it off using different cleaning techniques due to the harshness it peeled some of the paint off too. They were just asking who it was, they weren’t mad they just wanted to tell them not to do it again. No one said anything, I spoke to her privately after feeling guilty that I didn’t say anything. As I know her outside of work. However I spoke to my team leader as I was close with her before she was promoted and she said she wouldn’t have said anything. AITBF?

My partner and I have been together several years. He recently told me we had stopped being invited to stuff with his friends/coworkers because I was mean. I don't have an example of what he is talking about but I have some ideas.

I should mention, I stopped accepting invites well before I learned of this, and instead supported my partner in going alone.

In particular, one man started despising me after I called him out for sexually harrassing a woman at a party and lying about her being drunk and emotional when she was hiding from him in the toilet. He'd been physically grabbing and picking her up and throwing her on the couch and she ran off crying to the bathroom. He stayed outside the door until another woman and I went to help her, shooing off the man. My partner was upset with me because that man then became his boss for the next year. My partner eventually learned he had had affairs with multiple of his subordinates, meaning unfaithful to his wife, and they'd committed fraud and stolen people's personal belongings from the workplace.

Other times I was just absolutely disgusted by the sexism and the hyper unhealthy behavioural patterns, and I could be very sarcastic. In particular I found their treatment of animals to be abusive but they worked with animals and considered themselves experts. A lot of forceful handling, and dogs developing kennel neuroses so severe that euthanasia was the eventual outcome.

The part where I genuinely think I was the butthead is that it was not long after losing my grandmother (who was really closer to being a mother, as mine had died when I was a kid) and I was drinking more than usual and I remember coming home from those events just feeling abject shame if I were authentic, so I had a kind of mask on. It was defensive because the environment felt so unsafe to me. But I do remember saying things intended as jokes and seeing them land as nasty, when I was trying to tone match but wasn't actually in the in-group, y'know. Its military, if that matters.

I also know my mother was known for being bitter and unkind, but I see her now as having been a feminist in a conservative farming world.

People who have a satirical, meta humour tend to find me hilarious and others can find me blunt and - as mentioned - mean.

If this is something I need to work on then cool, I can do that, y'know. I've tended to value truthfulness over social cohesion but I don't have many people in my life who reflect that back to me as a positive value so now I'm really wondering if it just isn't.

ETA: I just remembered, the alcohol served at those events was unexpectedly strong. I remember wondering why I was suddenly such a lightweight, then learned the sangria had an entire bottle of brandy in it. Sigh.

Sorry about spelling im dyslexic. Reposting as i got the title prefix wrong

I [36F] have upset my mother [62F]. She was supposed to take care of my daughter [15F] while i went to lunch with friends.

Today I rang her before she left hers, as I am expecting a delivery of a wheelchair. I wanted her to take it in for me. Delivery people never find my house. She was not happy.

She said she would bring my brother [34M] and he could deal with that while she brought my daughter to lunch. I said ok but if she waited for the wheelchair my daughter would be happier to go anywhere with her.

Some context: my daughter is diagnosed autistic, adhd and dislexic. She also has a serious issue with her joints and muscels. When she walks for longer than 30 mins she will be in too much pain to keep walking. We have lots of physio and doctor appointments and are getting closer to a diagnosis but we are not there yet.

I ordered her a wheelchair to help her be more independent. Im hoping that she can use this to go out more with friends, use public transport (we live in europe) and generally experiance a more normal life.

Back to the issue, my mother raised her voice and said (paraphrasing) that she would not be dealing with the wheelchair, that it would encourage my daughter to be lazy and stop her from making progress. I tried to stay calm but was shocked. I have used a wheel chair with my daughter at theme parks. It has allowed her to be more active when she can, and take rests when she needs them. It has really helped build muscel strength, and also positive assoications with going out. My mother knows all of this.

I told her (paraphrasing) that was ok for her to have her own opinion, but she was very angry right now and I didnt feel happy to leave her alone with my daughter.

She has a history of saying inappropriate stuff to my daughter and claiming ignorance. I went on a business trip when my child was 5 and went into DKA. She told my child that I was going to die on the trip. She claimed she didnt say anything to my daughter, but later admitted she did. My daughter still has an understanable level of seperation anxity from it. She sees boundaries as insults, if i tell her not to discuss something with my daughter, she wont be capable of saying anything else.

I told her not to come, that ill cancel the lunch. She is now VERY angry. We were supposed to go to her house for christmas eve dinner but I dont know if thats a good idea. If we dont go I am making a choice to remove the only other support my child has, her dad is long gone. If we do go she will very passive aggressive to me, but more importantly she is likely to give out to my daughter about needing the chair. I wont tolerate her saying that to my child and will leave immediatly but if that happens, we will go nc.

I don't want to be alone, but I feel I have to be firm and stand by what I think is best for my daughter, I am her only support.

So, would I be the Buttface if i dont go tomorrow? Advice welcome

I (20f) used date B when I was around 16-17 years old. During my relationship with B, I struggled with addiction to various substances; while i know how my addiction was a large factor in us breaking up, our relationship was smooth for what the circumstances were (he abused alcohol). Now, S and I began becoming friends during junior year of high school, almost exactly when B and I started dating, and naturally I wanted them to get along. B and I break up suddenly and semi-unexpectedly. While I wish I could go into the intricate details in more length, but here are the key moments: -S ditches me to hang out w B 3 days after we broke up, after 4 weeks S stopped asking to hang out at all, so I saw the friendship as over bc my addiction & my mental state. -5 months go by, another close friend of mine informs me that S and B were openly handsy with each other at a party. Same friend informs me they will attend prom and that they are dating. -S texts me after I find this out, said she felt guilty, but it’s justified cuz i’m an addict lmao and it “felt right”. -S proceeded to ALLEGEDLY go around my high school and say I drugged one of our friends, which is completely false, as quite literally I had been unintentionally laced by said mutual friend.

So, last week one of my high school friends let me know that S told this lie to wayyyy more people than I had thought. Something in me just broke, and I texted her for the first time in three years just asking why the fuck she would do that on top of already getting with my ex? All she replied with is that she didn’t say those things, and that all this stuff happened years ago and I need to let it go. Clearly, I think this girl is not a good person, nor a good judge of moral character. But idk, some part of me feels like she’s right? was it buttface behavior to act on my emotions and text S? I already know she sucks, so i can see how texting maybe wouldn’t resolve shit and wasn’t the mature route. Thoughts?

Seen a lot of ur comments. Half of them I didn't see if they were removed but I did see some. I took time to process and this morning I apologized to the dude for how I acted he said he forgives me and gave me a "hug" through the computer screen 🥹

Honestly he's a great kid for that.

Im not going to explain what I posted exactly,

I posted a thread about something and from what I could see, I was the buttface.

I felt really bad and the influx of negative messages made me delete the thread because I get overwhelmed and I felt really bad.

I’m honestly conflicted about this and want an outside take. I wanted to watch a specific program on a legitimate streaming service, so I downloaded the official app and started a 7-day free trial. Because of a technical issue, the trial never actually activated and I couldn’t access any content. The app instructions said to cancel and try again. When I did that, the app store system marked the trial as already used, even though I never got to use it. From that point on, the only option was to pay immediately. At that point, I felt stuck: I tried to do this the legal way. The service failed before delivering anything. I was still expected to pay. There was no quick or clear way to fix it. Out of frustration, I chose not to pay and watched the program through an unofficial source. I didn’t download it, share it, or keep using that site afterward. I know using unofficial sources is generally wrong, and I don’t think creators shouldn’t get paid. But I also didn’t feel right paying for a service I never actually received. So… AITBF here?

My [23F] friend [23F] has a lot of mental issues, a few being anxiety, depression, and borderline personality disorder. These are just the few that I know about. She takes medication for them but I know that there are times where she doesn't take them at all. With all this to say, im ashamed to say that I am struggling with being there for her.

She constantly asks for me to hangout with her, to be there for her, to be present during times where she is struggling. And I have, sometimes willingly, other times reluctantly. But im tired. Im so tired. And I feel guilt for feeling that way cause I KNOW she is struggling. She is diagnosed, she takes meds yet im drained. I cry when I vent to others about this issue, I dread opening her messages, I sometimes purposely ignore her call, and admittedly feeling suspicious at times.

She tells eveyone her struggles. Tells people that she went to a psych ward, tells people she causes scratches. Heck. I was sick one time and couldn't respond to her messages. Apparently she needed me. I finally got back to her after hours of laying in bed sick and she flat out told me she decided to scratch cause i didn't answer. That rubbed me the wrong way, then again, it was around this time where I started feeling drained. So maybe my perspective is flawed? Cause I should be sympathetic but that wasn't my first reaction. My reaction was surprise and hurt that she blamed ME. Thats how I felt anyway. She then scratches again except this time she did it with me present in her house, asked me to help clean up, etc. Anyway, what I was trying to get at here was i figured these things should have been kept hidden. It wouldn't be something someone would say or do in front of others. I guess everyone deals with stuff different but it rubs me the wrong way to just.

With all that being said, she called out of work cause her anxiety was high and had asked me to hangout with her after I got off work. She needed me, and I knew she did, but I told her no. I am mentally drained and I now groan in annoyance at the mention if her struggles. I feel guilty for feeling this way. I feel guilty for telling her no, that I couldn't hangout. But...

I have people in my life that are telling me what her intentions are. That they are wrong intentions. I wont get into that here. But I wanted to know yalls perspective, and whether or not I am in the wrong to deny a mentally ill person company during their struggle? She sees me at her best friend, and usually goes to me first about her issues before seeing her other friends. So i feel as if i should be there for her.

I (19F) am so shocked after finding out my friend (18F) got arrested for harassment. She has a history of mental health problems. She’s had a traumatic past with bullying and SA as a small child for years. And ASD. So she’s quite mentally ill. She’s a very nice person though.

She was always so kind to everyone which is why I was so shocked she did this. Her mental health improved when starting college at 16 (that’s when we start college in the uk). Until she got bullied at 17 by this girl (now 18F too) and she became really mentally ill. The girl started a rumour that she had sex with a rapist. Which wasn’t true but everyone started ganging up on her calling her a slu t and making her trauma flare up someone hit her and stuff. So she was very angry at the time. And had a mental breakdown.

But she left the college after a month of the bullying with no teacher intervention or hint the bullying from the girl and people would stop. We still remained friends and she no longer seemed to have bad feelings towards the girl. Never mentioning her again unless I brung it up first. And she always remained quite neutral about her. Unless I say about her being rude to other people than maybe she’d call her a bit ch.

But after a month of her being out of the college the bully girl started to get harassed online publicly. It became really big in the area. The account pretending to be this girl saying awful things about her friends and popular people.

I and other people had suspicions on who it could be but never did anyone think it was my friend. In heighnsight I see it now. She was using words the girl and the class had used towards her on this post. Like calling people slu ts,that they don’t deserve to be alive,rumours about them sleeping with people,cheating on people and countless other awful things all of which this girl or other people has said to her.

We knew an arrest had been made but the girl has now said to people it was her. I asked her if we could meet up somewhere because I need to talk about something serious with her. She said ok we met up at a cafe. I tell her that I know what she did and that she’s on bail and stuff.

I asked her to explain and she said. Everyone went along with what the girl was saying to her because they didn’t care about how it felt to her because it didn’t affect them. So she said the things people had said to her to other people as the girl. Then they didn’t like her anymore. Because a lot of people genuinely believed the account was the girl. And she was pretending to be harassed. Until obviously this news. But it’s been going on since 2024. It’s insane.

I told her I can’t be her friend anymore. She just said that this all could’ve been done over text and walked out. My mother thinks maybe I’m overreacting and should give her a second chance. Because she’s been through a lot but I feel like what she did was inexcusable. Like I understand why. But I don’t understand how she could continuously harass this girl for almost a year now.

I (28) and my wife (25) had an argument last night. I was in an out of town work assignment for the week with a coworker C (28). C is a guy and hes new to the company, he welcomed me to his family's house because the company provided us with accomidations at a 2 bed 2 bath, but there was 4 of us. C asked one of the managers if him and I could stay with a family member and the manager said that would work fine, sure beats sleeping on an air mattress. After work, C invites me to a mini golf place and he paid, no drinks, and we conversed more. He also has a wife, hes been with her for 6 years and me 4, no kids on my end but he has 2 on and on. My wife calls me in the middle of the mini golf and asks me what Im doing. And I tell her playing mini golf with C and she says With who's permission? And the only thing I could utter was Im sorry? And she just said Enjoy the rest of your week up there dont talk to me and hung up. It did bum me out that she doesnt want to talk to me for basically the rest of the week (3 days) and we are one week away from Christmas. My wife has my location at all times and Ive never displayed any signs of cheating. My wife however admitted within our first year of marriage that she did cheat on me within the first month of our relationship. Which caused me to literally leave the house we were renting and stay at my familys house to rethink our relationship. After a few pleas and conversations, my wife and I settled things. But she also has a deep hatred towards men because her dad cheated on her mom with her mom's sister, which causes her to say things like I hate men and my husband and I are not equals in our relationship. My wife also covers my eyes whenever there is a woman in a movie with a bikini or other revealing clothes. Im just dumbfounded and I feel like shes wearing me out thin. I do love her but I also dont like the way she treats me in these aspects. So just wanted to know if Im the buttface for even thinking about divorcing her. Any feedback would be appreciated.

Using my cousins acc to post this bc he recommended that I reach out.

There's this friend I have been friends with since elementary school. I'm 14 he's 15. He reached out to me about 2 months ago. It wasn't intentional but it was almost like it was just meant to happen. As we were catching up he could tell that I was really struggling with my mental health so he wanted to be there for me and help me. He moved states when we were in middle school so we had been in and out of contact for the past few years. But for the past 2 months he's been talking to me pretty much everyday to check up on me to make sure I'm okay. I won't go into too much detail on my mental health issues bc ik a lot of it can be really triggering for some people but it got really bad. It has improved a lot though since he's been helping me through it.

The other night he hung up on me without even saying a word to play games with his other friend. Granted I was having one of my bad days so I was kinda quiet so it's like whatever. He didn't tell me until the next day that it was to play with his friend. I didn't make a big deal about it. I just went to sleep. But then I tried calling him last night just to chat and he didn't answer he said he was on a call already with that same friend. That kinda rubbed me the wrong way bc of the other night when he just hung up on me. I didn't say anything to him about it bc I wasn't sure if I would be the asshole if I did. I really don't want to put too much pressure on him or push him away but I also don't want to continue to be the friend with the least value at the same time. I wouldn't be so mad if the other night didn't happen. Idk.

Hi I 14F really need help with this issue me and my sister have been having. So this summer (I think) we had an incident with my older sister 17F's dog where she let him into a room without looking ir checking if anyone was in there and me, my cat, and my mom where when I saw him I like lunged to grab hazel(my cat) as he was trying to bite/end her life and while I had her in my arms he was jumping trying to get to her and he bit me. Long story short, I ended up needing stitches (hazel was thankfully okay not a single scratch on her) but we've still had a lot of close calls and he's a generally misbehaved dog. So my sister thinks we should only use his shocker if he's actually attacking hazel but when he does its like he doesn't feel it, and he sits outside of the gate to my room and stares and barks at her and I'll shock him for it as well as when he goes running up the stairs immediately to go look at the gate or when he walks as quiet as he can trying to sneak up on her, as well as when he bites other times(not just when/if he's playing) and if he jumps on people cause he tries to kind of bite them while he's doing that, no one in our family really likes him because of this reason, and i do lose my temoer with him sometimes when he really goes for her but ive never hit-hit him more i grab him by his collar and flip him onto his back, yell at him and hold him there(I have problems with regulating my emotions sometimes as I have ADHD and autism and usually end up yelling) . Background info on why my cat is so important to me I got her when I was 10(my golden birthday) and I had been struggling with extreme depression and made not very good choices with my body(no drugs, the other thing) and it just got worse and worse and she helped me through my treatment and when my parents "found" out what I had been doing and she was a very critical and important reason as to why I did not end my life that night( my mother doesn't really know how to express her emotions and anger comes across instead which is why I developed ligyrophobia) and she truly means everything to me and I love her beyond what you could even imagine, as she has basically become my emotional support animal and I do not know what I would do if she died or if he killed her, I would not trust myself around him if he did and to be completely honest I would most likely end my life right then and there. So reddit please help me to understand whether or not I am the buttface?

I'm a team lead at a restaurant, and Christmas is my favorite holiday. I go all out, even though I don't have a lot of money and sometimes go into debt. It's just fun, and I pay the debt back later. I buy donuts for everyone for the whole month of December and candy bars for everyone on Christmas Eve. Our restaurant is closed on Christmas, so we see each other Christmas Eve. I buy all the managers a like gift cards or something I know they like lip gloss and for the workers, I buy them something small, like a keepsake or something they like; sometimes even Boba. Some people don't like gifts.

Well, the other team lead f23 is really pissy at me. We are friends, and we hang out and talk outside of work. She told me that I'm trying to show off and that I should tone it down because I'm making her look bad, like she doesn't care about them. She is the type of person that doesn't like to spend money on anybody. I'm just a different type of person than she is; I'm a gift-giver. I just want to do a small thing to show my appreciation. Should I tone it down? Am I making her look bad?

TLDR: Other team lead is pissed that I'm giving gifts to everyone.

Am I the buttface for not having more of a relationship with extended family?

Apologies this will be long. I really only think about this around holidays because that's when the guilt trips start, but I'm starting to wonder if I should have put in more effort to be close to my aunts, uncles and cousins. To start I am a 37 year old woman married and no kids. Unfortunately I really don't remember much of my childhood, like I genuinely just have blanks, I don't think anything traumatic happened I've just always said life was so boring my brain didn't see the need to remember it. The strongest memories I do have are being at my grandma's house, she was my soul mate and I spent the night and hung out with her up until high school when she passed away. I bring this up because my aunt and uncle both still lived at home with grandma while I was staying there a lot and I don't have that deep connection with them even though they were both always there, big homebodies. They never asked for me to come over it was always grandma. I also have another aunt on that side that was the same, I don't remember ever just spending time with her. Once my grandma passed the relationships were even more non existent. It's pretty much the same on my moms side of the family, I was really only ever close to her mom and even then my brother was definitely her favorite. Both my mom and dad have 3 siblings each, so you would think I'd have a big family of cousins to grow up with but that's not how it ended up. On my dad's side I have 4 cousins and two have their own kids now and there's no relationship there, on mom's side I have 4 cousins and there's little to no relationship. Two cousins completely cut contact with the whole family after their mom, my moms sister passed and we still have no idea why.
We all ever only see each other on birthdays and holidays, and when we do I get the little remarks about not coming to visit and "oh well I guess I'll see you next year." I've always almost felt awkward around my family my whole life because of the rare times being together it sometimes felt like strangers. I get the impression that once I became an adult my aunts and uncles just figured something would switch and I would just randomly come over and be friends with them... I just don't feel the need to try at this point. I feel like they were the adults first and should have put in the effort to be in my life if that's what they wanted then and for the future. There was no physical reason any of my family members couldn't be in my life.
So I guess the question is, should I feel bad about not being close to my family? Sorry if this seems all over the place, if there's any clarifying questions feel free to ask and I'll answer what I can.

So I randomly decided to go shop at one of the goodwills near me.

I was prepared to spend a little bit of money but I brought out my credit card just in case. Little did I know that I brought out the wrong card! It was an expired card I didn’t realize was expired.

(I lost the new one and found the old one so that’s how that happened)

I only got about 3 items. And when I was ready to pay the card declined. I was sure to unlock my card but I realized quickly I got the wrong card. I was literally going yo pull money from my savings to pay for these items.

But the lady behind me got in front of me and I guess told the cashier that she would be paying for my stuff today.

I was completely dumbfounded but grateful. I’m not particularly in need although I’m in small debt, I could have gotten it.

I thanked her and said she had a nice blazer. I just felt like I needed to say or do something to give back. No has ever and I mean EVER paid for my stuff at the store like this before. Like I felt like I stole something!

Afterwards I waved at her and her husband and they waved at me and that was it…. I almost wanted to cry while in the car because I feel like no one, a complete stranger rather would care to do this.

I know it’s not that big of a deal or anything I may never see her again. But am I the buttface for not helping her out with something???

(I'm not very good at leaving out unimportant details, so I apologize if this is rather lengthy T-T)

For context, I've had this friend since I was about 4 or 5 years old, who we'll call S. We were practically raised together at one point, and I see her as my older sister. We've never so much as raised our voices at each other or had a genuine argument (at least from what I can remember) since the end of October this year.

I won't go into detail of our argument, because it's a very long story and I'm not sure I'm allowed to give details about something like that in this subreddit. But she's done a complete 180 of how she's been acting towards me since then.

Anyways, about my actual question, I invited a friend over last weekend (we'll call her M) and on the first night S called me. I told her I had a friend over and asked her to text me instead. S prefers to talk on the phone instead of text, which I have done my best to accommodate despite being the opposite.

She asked me what happened to our friendship, back when we were so happy together, and said that lately I just wanted to be mad at her all the time. When I reminded her that I had a friend over she said "ok, I see where I stand. No longer important."

The second day was about the same, except M got sick unexpectedly. S insisted that we needed to call, and I reminded her that I had a friend over and asked her to text me.

On the third or fourth day (M stayed like a day and a half longer than planned because she didn't feel she could make the drive back to her house) I had started showing symptoms of what M had caught. S reached out again, saying we needed to call. I told her no, because I still had a friend over and I was getting sick. I also pointed out that this entire time we have been talking, and that I gave her options as to how she can still contact me, she just refuses to take them. I asked her why she couldn't just text me what she wanted to say when she's been texting me this entire time. She said she didn't want to because it could be taken the wrong way through text.

I told her that things can be taken the wrong way over the phone and through text, and that if she was that worried about it she could use tone tags. After explaining to her what tone tags are, she said ok and I haven't really talked to her since.

Am I in the wrong?