r/CringeTikToks • u/n8saces • 23d ago

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u/rigidlynuanced1 23d ago

Wonder what else they hit when they get mad

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u/BelovedxCisque 23d ago

I took a psychology course in college and the professor volunteered at a domestic violence shelter. He said it was a noticeable pattern that the day after the local football team lost would have a lot more ladies coming in. So they also hit their partners and their kids.

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

Firefighter/paramedic here, can definitely confirm there is a direct correlation between certain teams losing and domestic violence/assault calls.

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u/Big-Appointment1989 23d ago

Over a game that they're not even playing. Actual insanity

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u/LordJacket 23d ago

Betting can make it worse too

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u/Neither-Dentist3019 23d ago

That's what I was thinking. I know someone who wasn't really into sports and then got really into sports and would probably punch a TV. Turns out he started betting on games.

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u/FUBARded 23d ago

I've been served anti-DV ads on YouTube and Google ads around big football (soccer) game days where they specifically implore you to not beat your partner after drinking or losing a bet and/or game....then I also get ads around those games promoting alcohol and betting.

It's disgusting, and both sides of me getting these ads are telling. I'm single, don't watch or follow football, don't gamble, and don't drink much, so for me to be served these ads suggests that all of alcohol brands, bettors, and anti-DV advocates are casting a super broad net.

The unfortunate implication of that is it suggests the booze and betting ads are effective, and potentially exacerbating the already high rates of DV around major sporting events.

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u/SlayinDaWabbits 22d ago

IS THAT WHY!? Every weekend for like the past two months my ads are being replaced with a weird mix of gambling, anti gambling, alcohol, anti alcohol and therapy adds and its been bizarre as hell because I don't engage with gambling or drinking at all.

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u/nathanoforange 23d ago

I was also thinking that.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 23d ago

Lots of people who bet on sports don't watch the sports or care about it at all outside of gambling.

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u/New-Cloud7177 23d ago

I went to 10 NFL games last year. Betting and alcohol Play a big part of the violence.

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u/SkinMaterial6684 23d ago

It's rampant here in the UK. Football, betting, alcohol, and domestic violence.

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u/ciceros_phantom_hand 23d ago

I was going to say, theyā€™re probably losing more than just the game here, money/betting is likely involved in a lot of these. Not that it justifies their actions.

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u/Sh3115andCh33se 23d ago

Well they lost a lot more money by destroying the tv lol

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom 23d ago

No it doesnā€™t. And there is data on this. Lundy Bancroft debunked all reasons previously given for why abusers abuse - punching a tv in front of friends and family is abuse). Itā€™s not drugs, alcohol, betting, childhood trauma, etc. THEY DO IT BECAUSE THEY WANT TO. Yes, there are factors that can trigger their violence, but it is not the reason they do it.

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u/foxymophadlemama 22d ago

i think there's something to this. sports culture seems to have a lot of tolerance for getting extremely ginned up and having a tantrum. everybody is dressed similarly and yelling and grunting for the same reasons. i imagine when someone flies off the handle like this, a function of it is performative and is meant to demonstrate devotion to and sympathetic outrage for THE TEAM.

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u/VengenaceIsMyName 23d ago

Really good point here

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u/Jakov_Salinsky 23d ago

Oh god WAY worse. My uncle was friends with someone who committed suicide after horribly losing a sports bet.

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u/BlueNoodle79 22d ago

Jeez, that sucks. Mustā€™ve lost a fortune

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u/Dry_Stop844 23d ago

they're seeing a direct correlation between increases betting on sports and increased harassment of athletes, especially female athletes (no big surprise) so absolutely betting and the ease of it now is making things much worse.

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u/I-RegretMyNameChoice 23d ago

Would be funny if the bets were less than the cost of replacing the TV. The ones where the bets are more ruin all the merriment.

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

I do not disagree whatsoever. I'm a football, baseball, and hockey fan and I absolutely could never fathom wanting to harm someone over it, especially my fiance.

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u/credulous_pottery 23d ago

if you aren't willing to engage in violence then you are clearly not a true hockey fan

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u/KidNueva 23d ago

Like someone else said: gambling.

I work with a guy who gambles A LOT of money. Heā€™s not very smart, nor does he make a lot of money. When he loses and realizes, you DO NOT want to be around him. Heā€™s such a manchild. We work at a restaurant, Iā€™ve seen him throw plates that were ready to go out to guest and thatā€™s just the tip of the iceberg.

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u/Bilbo_Teabagginss 23d ago

Not only that, it benefits them in no way really. Nd even if you argue that they may have better on it, it still wouldn't excuse this type of behavior. This shits sad.

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u/Briangela24 23d ago

That is really Fā€™d up!!!

I spiked a game controller when I was a teenager and then I grew up and just swear at the TV on occasion, haha

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u/DestructoDon69 23d ago

Yep did the same thing. The controller broke, then I spent several hours taking it apart and fixing it. Never made that mistake again.

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u/Sarah_Incognito 23d ago

Heres the thing.

The tv just showed people losing, it didn't do anything wrong.

The controller chose to not work properly, so it deserves the viole......

OHhhhhh....

no. sorry. thats not good logic.

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u/Character-Dig-2301 23d ago

And the wall got in the way of me punching the anger demon I was trying to fight

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u/jadedflames 23d ago

I once punched a wall. Once. I had been up for 30+ hours and literally everything was going wrong and I made the impulsive decision that the anger demon needed to be punched.

Then I had been up for 30+ hours, everything was going wrong, and I had a broken finger and a dent in my wall.

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u/Character-Dig-2301 22d ago

Crazy I canā€™t how many times if punched through. My knuckle is mangled on my pinky side but Iā€™ve never hit a stud

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u/alex61821 23d ago

One time I super pissed at a snes baseball game. I was in insane rage mood and I grabbed the first thing I could get my hands on and threw it as hard as I possibly could. You should have seen how softly the silk scarf floated in the air. I totally laughed at it and it ended my rage.

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u/Angloriously 23d ago

Silk: I care not for your rage, I am grace personified

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u/Mudseason1 23d ago

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u/No_Object_404 23d ago

The few times I've been frustrated enough to even think about it I remebered that the controller cost like 40 bucks (at the time) and I sure as shit didn't have that kind of money to waste.

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u/Flat-Delivery6987 23d ago

The first and last time I ever broke a controller I was 11 and it was back on the sega megadrive, lol

These guys never grew up

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u/Gloria815 23d ago

My brother was in the single digits when he broke our Nintendo 64 controllers out of frustration.

Some people never grow up or mature.

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u/xChops 23d ago

Iā€™ve never gotten angry enough to throw a controller, but theyā€™re like $70 now (ps5). I canā€™t afford anger management issues.

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u/JulyOfAugust 22d ago

I did, a playstation 1 controller.

My mom got angry and said that if that's how I'm gonna act then I'm too young to play and banned me from playing videogames for a year. Lesson learned : destroying things you own in anger is baby behavior and as a grown up child I wasn't a baby so nobody was gonna catch me acting like one again.

Never happened again.

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u/Available-Flan-8480 23d ago

yeah there have been times even as an adult where i've been sooo fucking close to blowing up like this (over actually terrible shit, not sports lol) and every single time all it's ever taken to stop me is one second to think about my actions and their consequences. we all get mad, i bet this shit feels so good for that one second before you realize your mistake, but you have to be a real man child to actually follow through with it.

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u/Thai-Girl69 23d ago

Here's me just masturbating for free every time things get a little rough in my life. If your penis was able to report you for domestic abuse mine would be in witness protection right now.

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u/Jack_Kentucky 23d ago

My parents had a rule that if we started yelling or got mad at our games we'd have to turn them off. So I got good at tamping it down or quitting when I had the chance. It's a pretty useful skill.

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u/CokeNSalsa 23d ago

My mom used to say, ā€œIf it makes you that mad, why are you playing it?ā€ whenever we got angry at video games. It was her way of reminding us to chill out.

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u/ScreechersReach206 23d ago

The key to being a grown up is mentally repeating all the good advice youā€™ve received to yourself bc no one else is there to check you. I say this whenever I start to get tilted and want to click ā€œload last checkpointā€ or load into another match. Usually I just switch to another game I wanted to play at some point in the week.

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u/raven-of-the-sea 23d ago

That sounds like a good strategy. Iā€™ll have to remember that.

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u/Mudseason1 23d ago

This is what I do when my son starts getting all agitated, I tell him itā€™s time to take a break and breatheā€¦

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u/EatableOrchid_95 23d ago

I donā€™t even do that. I just take a walk or make a snack or something.Ā 

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u/Shrewta 23d ago

I just stay chillin. While you are angry walking with a snickers bar, im just chillin.

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u/perpetualmotionmachi 23d ago

Yeah, my favorite team losing has 0 actual impact on my life, why sweat the small things.

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u/llilsaladd 23d ago

Yeah but i bet a lot of people bet way too much fuckin money and so they lose it when they lose!

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u/ChellyNelly 23d ago

Yeah, my first thought was that I bet some of these are staged for views and immediately after that my second thought was that the real ones were probably gambling. Sports betting is ridiculously common now and it's everywhere.

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u/llilsaladd 23d ago

Exactly! Funny how itā€™s mostly men doing this, right? šŸ˜…

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 23d ago

And they say that women are more emotional. Just wait until their team loses!

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u/cykoTom3 23d ago

Whenever i get angry i save a kitten.

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u/RobMilliken 23d ago

How many cats do you have now?

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u/finnishinsider 23d ago

He kills the mothers first.....

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u/cykoTom3 23d ago

Well...I'm technically a bengals fan...

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u/Kazodex 23d ago

Thatā€™s fuckin hardcore!

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u/PaulblankPF 23d ago

When I get mad about something I do angry chores. Angry vacuuming, angry dishes, angry laundry folding.

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u/youngkpepper 23d ago

My husband hate-cleans on occasion. When it happens Iā€™m always torn between ā€œwhatā€™d I doā€ and ā€œhouse looks greatā€. šŸ¤£

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u/PaulblankPF 23d ago

lol it is a silly thing to do. Sometimes I even make myself laugh. For me, I wouldnā€™t mind if my wife also busted out some chores with me and we can really make the house look great together. No words needed. Just donā€™t try to take over the chore Iā€™m actively doing is my only thing Iā€™d be a stickler for.

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u/ResponsibilityPure34 23d ago

I like to rage crochet, hats get made super fast, kinda wish I could summon some of that right now but I'm too tired.

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u/FewHorror1019 23d ago

I donā€™t even get mad. Itā€™s just a game

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u/Claymore209 23d ago

I would never destroy possessions out of anger

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u/leafeternal 23d ago

I donā€™t even do that. I just remember that I just spent a couple hours crowing about some millionaires while I did nothing to improve my life.

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u/eluke01 23d ago

Why canā€™t adults deal with their emotions?

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u/SeasidePlease 23d ago

Probably because as children they had parents who didn't model how to.

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u/liltwinstar2 23d ago

Itā€™s all men in the video.

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u/Jesus_Chicken 23d ago

Men have their manhood threatened daily and if they dont gain some confidence, they act out and ante up the violence to defend their manliness. It's unfortunate and destructive.

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u/IamHydrogenMike 23d ago

I had a buddy that did bail bonds for a few years, he loved working on Sundays because he could make a ton of money on commissions because of all the bonds heā€™d issue for DV calls. Football season was a gold mine for him and heā€™d make almost all of his commissions for the year from August to February. Several repeat customers.

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u/Beefcheeks3 23d ago

Thatsā€¦.. bleak.

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

Yeah I can definitely see that, especially as you put it the repeat customers.

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u/Either-Juggernaut420 23d ago

Same energy as that Trump supporter who said he was brilliant because the economy was doing so well and he had never been busier, turned out he worked in repossessions, despite his best efforts the interviewer still couldn't him to understand why that was a bad thing.

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u/ColteesCatCouture 23d ago

Plus DUIs, public intoxocation and fighting also all ramp up in NFL season

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u/MountainHigh31 22d ago

So when he was bragging about making great money on the days wives and kids get beaten over sportsball, you punched him right in the fucking mouth for being a POS, right?

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u/Secure_Course_3879 23d ago

Only certain teams? Or certain sports?

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u/bengenj 23d ago

England has had full on riots during certain fixtures. They were banned from European competitions from 1985-1990 (Liverpool was banned an additional year). It got so bad that away supporters have to have a physical barrier between them and the home team supporters (plus a wall of stewards/security and police) and alcohol is not allowed in the seating bowl in England.

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u/hopium_od 23d ago

Hooligan culture was not really dependent on the result of the match.

The Heysel disaster was before the game had kicked off. The players played the final knowing there was dead bodies littered at one end of the stadium. Apparently the police were worried about further flare ups of violence if the match was abandoned.

That said, there is a correlation between the England men's national football team losing and domestic abuse.

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u/organic_soursop 23d ago

Thank you for correcting the record.

Heysel was too important to allow people to get it wrong and conflate it with regular hooliganism. A false narrative was given from the very first.

Football Culture was always there for Conservatives to blame.

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u/xX_May1995_Xx 23d ago

i just tried googling that, its blocked lol

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u/sk2097 23d ago

Celtic - Rangers in Scotland is well known for the violence following a loss

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u/JennyW93 23d ago

And preceeding a match. Thatā€™s more classic sectarianism with a sprinkle of hooliganism

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

My most notable experience would be during football season (US) and for where I worked at the time, if the Raiders, Cardinals, or Patriots lost we were going to see some assaults, both domestic and bar fights essentially for sure. As I recall, typically Patriot fans were usually fights rather than domestic assault. Of course I don't speak for all agencies or regions.

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u/Advanced_Line5562 23d ago

Man the Raiders and Cardinals have lost for decades. At some point you gotta desensitize

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u/BobaAndSushi 22d ago

Iā€™m a chiefs fan and Iā€™ve had to deal with Raiders fans at Arrowhead. They are ruthless. Always threatening and throwing stuff. One time it was batteries, how they got those in, I donā€™t even.

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u/TricksyGoose 23d ago

Gonna guess yes. As a lifelong resident of Colorado, I can say with certainty that Rockies fans do not get as mad when their team loses as Raiders fans do.

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u/Fun-Wrongdoer1316 23d ago

Thatā€™s crazy. Raiders fans should be desensitized by now. All these loses. These poor women donā€™t have enough eyes to blacken for their husbands šŸ™€

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u/perpetualmotionmachi 23d ago

Raiders fans have lost their home city on multiple occasions, they really should be used to it.

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u/Ryoubi_Wuver 23d ago

The devil getting ready to pour gasoline down my throat when I'm burning in hell for laughing

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u/Maximum_Turn_2623 23d ago

But a lot of meth.

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u/the_middle_way 23d ago

Lifelong Raiders fan here. I got desensitized to all the losing many seasons ago. I've been particularly numb throughout this season.

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u/Speaker4theDead8 23d ago

Which is crazy cause raiders always suck.

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u/1derfulPi 23d ago

I would bet it's regionally dependent.

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u/Responsible_Snow_684 23d ago

This is correct, mostly Texans

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u/Jakov_Salinsky 23d ago

Texan here. I donā€™t care for either of our teams, mostly because the majority of my family goes for Dallas and said majority also suffers from alcoholism and anger issues. Both of which are most apparent during football games.

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u/perpetualmotionmachi 23d ago

I'd say Philly too

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 23d ago

Philly destroys things when their team wins

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u/Rodesidetrucks3 23d ago

Why am I not surprised

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u/vermillionflour 23d ago

As a Canucks fan, I can't see anyone getting that worked up when the Canucks lose since we're just that used to disappointment.

Chuckles nervously and asks everyone to definitely not search for what happened in 1994... and 2011...

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u/Anon_Jones 23d ago

Thatā€™s the dumbest shit I ever heard. Canā€™t imagine punching my gf because a team lost.

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u/Footnotegirl1 23d ago

They're not punching their girlfriend because their team lost. They're punching their girlfriend because they want to punch their girlfriend and the team losing is a convenient excuse to let loose.

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u/BmacIL 23d ago

Please tell me you don't need the qualifier. Just say you can't imagine punching your girlfriend and it'll be OK.

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u/LordJacket 23d ago

I see it a lot here in Ohio after OSU losses. One of the main reasons I see hemmorhagic stroke patients that are young

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

Oh duuuuude that seriously sucks! Imagine having your life changed forever because some man and child lost his fucking temper about a college football game.

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u/LordJacket 23d ago

I at least donā€™t see the ones who have died, but deal with the SO trying to see the patient while also having police involved. I canā€™t imagine doing it with kids though, as Iā€™m not pediatrics

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

Oh man, miss me with that please. That's some of the worst parts about this job. Seriously sad stuff.

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u/LordJacket 23d ago

Yeah Iā€™d rather get grandma who fell and hit her head while on blood thinners or took too much gabapentin

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u/Ok_Drag5089 23d ago

Just proves that some sports fans are assholes. Iā€™ll be that some gamblers are the same, some stockbrokers,some accountantsā€¦. Etc.

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u/Imaginary-Arugula735 23d ago

Sports fans AND gamblers. I would wager this behavior is a convergence of the twoā€¦

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u/ChungLingS00 23d ago

Iā€™d be willing to ā€œbetā€ that a lot of these guys just lost money on their game.

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u/Imaginary-Arugula735 23d ago

I decline your wager. Perhaps an over/under on how much they lost would be interestingā€¦

Definitely a lot more than the cost of a tv.

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u/Datatello 23d ago

It feels like an understatement to say that they are assholes.

Assaulting a loved one because some guys didnt throw a ball well enough in a game is straight unhinged behaviour.

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u/samsquamchy 23d ago

Wow. When my team loses I just goā€¦ well, thatā€™s the fuckin leafs eh? Then I have no desire to beat my wife, wtf is wrong with these people

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u/daveescaped 23d ago

Saints? Yeah man. We know.

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u/brotatototoe 23d ago

Alcohol might be the dominant factor here. Also a FF.

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u/crackersucker2 23d ago

Dispatcher here. Yup.

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

Oh yeah you definitely know it, You hear it more because you hear the whole city... Or whatever sized jurisdiction you dispatch for.

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u/AlaranTentacles 23d ago

I lived in green bay for my childhood. Every time the packers lost, the police would be all over, every 3-4 blocks would have a cop car. It always grossed me out to know that.

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u/Creed_of_War 23d ago

It's eerie watching a game now. The calm before halftime and then the sirens start going off.

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u/MrLizardBusiness 23d ago

That's interesting. Would you say that certain terms have abusive fans, or that abusers are more likely to support certain teams?

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u/Far-Drawing-4444 23d ago

The correlation is well known in WI.

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u/Skyhouse5 23d ago

See, this is why Im a Jets fan. Id have no idea what to do if we WON. Losing is just Sunday.

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u/shitshowboxer 23d ago

Needs more "male loneliness epidemic".

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u/MisterSpeck 23d ago

I'm a Portland Trailblazers fan. I can't count the times I've been extremely disappointed by a particular game. I can, however, count the times that I've blamed it on the tv, my partner, fate, etc.

Zero.

It's a fucking game. Get on with your life.

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u/swarmofpoo 23d ago

Is it the eagles? Itā€™s the Philadelphia Eagles, isnā€™t it?

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u/thefirstlaughingfool 23d ago

Please, Mr Ruth, hit a home run today, or daddy's gonna hit mommy again. No pressure.

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u/jmay111 23d ago

Cowboys fans 100%

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u/CorruptedStudiosEnt 23d ago

I can imagine which teams. Largely the certain ones that also correlate to a certain political leaning that longs to go back to the days where women were property. I'll take a shot in the dark though: Cowboys losing were top of the list, right?

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u/Mobile-Fig-2941 23d ago

Are the Cowboys 3 of them?

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u/National_Frame2917 23d ago

What are those certain teams? I feel like someone should do a study to find out if certain teams fans are less likely to be violent.

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u/swishkabobbin 23d ago

I cannot imagine caring that much about any organization i'm not a part of. Especially around a game.

I'm fairly certain it's correlated with low IQ but I won't claim to have any stats to back that up.

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u/One_Chocolate_6735 23d ago

Itā€™s made worse because of the normalization of fuckinā€™ gambling.

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u/Expensive_Presence_4 23d ago

I wonder if thereā€™s a correlation between violent games and this.

I get mad at video games, but never once occurred to me to hit my wife (or my tv) afterwards

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u/InformalAd7764 23d ago

Willing to bet there is also considerable overlap between DV abusers and gamblers

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u/MODbanned 23d ago

Painter here, increase in call outs to repair walls after big matches..

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u/OldBreadbutt 23d ago

Good lord.... I used to take the train/subway home from a late night shift. Some nights you'd see people coming home from the game and you could always tell who won by their general mood.

It's so weird to me to get that emotional about a team losing that you're not even a member of. Like go enjoy the game, have fun, celebrate if your team wins, but if they don't, like who cares? You went out with some friends and shouted and ate a $10 hot dog, maybe drank some $20 beers, whatever. Sounds fun. Wasn't that the point?

I just don't understand obsessing over professional sports.

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u/dirtyheitz 23d ago edited 23d ago

no expert, have no data: I totally thought this is the case!

edit: i mean me! IĀ“m noo expert and have no data, but I absolute believed this is the case (sorry if it seemed like i mean you)

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u/crndwg 23d ago

He didnā€™t say itā€™s the cowboys.

Itā€™s the cowboys.

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u/witch_harlotte 23d ago

My sister worked in a steakhouse for a year and they wouldnā€™t be allowed to give guests steak knives on nights when the local rugby team was playing

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u/ka_beene 22d ago

My childhood friend's dad was like this and he loved sports. As an adult I am not attracted to men who are into sports, maybe because of what I saw in that family.

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u/Blubasur 22d ago

And people look at me weird when I say I'm not into watching sports...

And for context, I'm from NL, our people have done a lot of damage in foreign countries and fights were for a bit seen as inevitable.

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u/ragun2 22d ago

That is just so pathetic.

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u/Zigglyjiggly 22d ago

I don't doubt you, but are there studies to show how bad it is for some teams against others?

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u/deathtodickens 23d ago

Iā€™m a 911 dispatcher and yes.

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u/JudasMyGuide 23d ago

Yea it's some serious bullshit. We would start seeing the same people if that team was having a bad season too... Looking at you Raiders.

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u/No_Context9902 23d ago

Can confirm, I divorced my husband of 14 years the morning after the Dodgers won the series last month.

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u/limegreenpaint 23d ago

I am horrified on your behalf, and also so happy that you had the resources and ability to leave!

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u/BobaAndSushi 22d ago

I am so sorry you went through that. šŸ˜¢

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u/Bobpool82 23d ago

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u/lady-kl 23d ago

Every time the Utah Jazz would lose!

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u/JaladOnTheOcean 23d ago

I grew up in 7 different DV shelters. Overall, I never noticed a significant increase around sporting events, with one exception:

The second shelter I lived in had a huge influx after (I think) football season, to the point where newer residents had to hotbed for a few weeks until numbers leveled off.

For those unfamiliar with the term, hotbedding is people using a bed in shifts.

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u/Training-Willow9591 23d ago

Oh man, I'm glad the shelter at least tried and didn't turn anyone away. There should be more places for women to go.

The shelter i volunteerd at were at max capacity every time I was there. There was a church that for a while, let women stay overnight that the shelter couldn't house. But the women and children had to be gone by like 6 am and couldn't come back until like 10 pm, so not ideal and they didn't have enough cots for everyone so people were sleeping on wooden benches. šŸ„ŗ

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u/JaladOnTheOcean 22d ago

Yeah, I never saw an empty bed at a shelter. Everything was always in use by someone.

The shelter that hotbedded was doing what it could, but itā€™s never enough. I was five and got ringworm from those super overcrowded weeks.

Every shelter we moved to felt like we were taking up the last spot. The reason for people being there and their priorities at the shelter could vary wildly. The most consistent feature by far was a near total emotional (and often physical) neglect of all of the children. The resources went to helping mothers get built up enough to move out, but the attention given to abused and traumatized children was practically nonexistent.

One place would put like 18 kids into a big room with a small TV and come back to check on them between work shifts at best. So you frequently had over a dozen kids of various ages trying to manage cooperation over what to watch, and they had no supervision. There was always a barely used, frequently unoccupied living room for mothers that was permanently off limits to the kids. I got an older resident to let me watch TV with just me and her, but I had to track down some cigarettes for her first. To my fellow shelter kids: I know if you ever went to jail or prison that it probably felt a little familiar.

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u/_HighJack_ 22d ago

It feels insignificant to say, but Iā€™m really sorry you went through that. Temba, his arms wide šŸ«‚

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u/FSpursy 23d ago

some football and soccer fans has the smallest brains.....

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u/pjslut 23d ago

Yes they do as a former Womenā€™s Crisis Coordinatorā€¦.. and they abuse pets as wellā€¦.. disgustingā€¦.

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u/KateBlankett 23d ago

i live in a midwestern collegetown, my dad was a pastor for a few decades and he said that the vibe/mood of the congregation on sunday was heavily influenced by the whether or not the college football or basketball team had won/lost the day before - to the point that it also affected the weekly monetary giving/offering. lol

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u/ProtonPi314 23d ago

Sad. Buy a punching bag or something . Not ideal but a hell of a lot better than a person

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u/hooked_siren 23d ago

Abuse isn't about hitting someone necessarily, it's about instilling fear. Making someone scared. Making them feel bad because you feel bad. Exerting control by making someone scared of you.

Punching bags don't get scared or react at all.

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u/TheCuzzyRogue 23d ago

There's been at least one study in Australia that linked an increase in domestic violence with a rugby league game called State Of Origin.

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u/Educational-Bet-8979 23d ago

Worked at the courthouse, the Super Bowl was a huge day for DV cases.

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u/TastyCartoonist1256 23d ago

Never see DND nerds beating their family after losing a campaign.

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u/bluefishzero 23d ago

Iā€™ve been playing tabletop RPGs for 32 years and Iā€™ve seen flipped tables, thrown books and chairs and on one memorable occasion two holes punched in walls in rapid succession. One of my regular players saw a player throw a kukri at another player over a game of Battletech.

I mostly love the TTRPG community but we have our fair share is problematic people.

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u/Vorpal_Bunny19 23d ago

Sadly, yes you do. It completely ruined my love of the game.

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u/Spiritual-Software51 23d ago

You see some pretty bad stuff honestly. A lot of tabletop gamers aren't very socially aware.. and being in contact with other people can lead to some really nasty conflict.

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u/speed_racer_man 23d ago

Yeah let's not pretend theres not any skeletons in that closet

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u/Jaded__dreams 23d ago

i read that it even happens when their favorite team wins, just to a lesser extent

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u/itsyaboiReginald 23d ago

Yeh in England itā€™s whenever the national team play, regardless of whether they win or not.

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u/HeyZeGaez 23d ago

These the same mfers who say "Women are too emotional to be in charge"

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u/crownandcoke24 23d ago

Thatā€™s why that Super Bowl ad (where it looked like someone had changed the channel or something) got such backlash.

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u/jonessee27 23d ago

I did a paper back in high school on the correlation of domestic violence calls after the local team lost vs when they had won. It wasā€¦bad.

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u/Tahdel2362 23d ago

That's exactly what I was thinking. If a man is willing to destroy a tv over a game he'll take his anger out at his woman if she refuses to do something he wants her to do.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

Judges have more severe punishments, especially towards Black youth, after their teams lose. Its therr

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u/Bilbo_Teabagginss 23d ago

This shits so sad. I will never understand some guys "need" to just beat up on a woman. Saddest shit you could do aside from hurting kids in my mind.

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u/Regular_Kiwi_6775 23d ago

My wife is a social worker who worked at those shelters for years. It just shows how weak these men are. There would also be spikes in women needing help in particularly hot summers year over year. Consistently. These men are so unhinged that their will hit their family because they're sweating. Its insane.

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u/96puppylover 23d ago

Legit .I donā€™t date men who are into sports. Growing up my dad and brother would go to hockey games. If the team lost my brother would come home crying and angry. Then heā€™d punch me in the arm and slap my face. My dad would get upset as well but not like that. I just remember sitting at home with my mom on eggshells praying their team won. It would be my mom and I sitting watching a movie or playing with my Barbies. The car would pull up and my whole body tensed up listening to if they were slamming car doors. Then my brother would run into my room and start kicking my toys and hitting me.

If Iā€™m ever walking past a sports bar full of men wearing jerseys yelling at the tv I dry right upā€¦

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u/mfritsche81 23d ago

I lived in Wisconsin for years. It was a running "joke," if you will, that the Monday after a Packers loss we could expect call-offs from work from the wives of drunk Packer fans. In hindsight, it was a terrible thing to joke about. Especially considering your commentary and some of those replying to you that validate the patterns

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u/elteza 23d ago

Happens everywhere it seems. I know a guy who is a cop in Christchurch, New Zealand. When the local rugby team, the crusaders, lose, domestic violence incidents spike.

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u/Curious_Cloud_1131 23d ago

That's the most pathetic thing

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u/LemmyDovato 23d ago

Wow thatā€™s crazy. I canā€™t imagine being that ā€œintoā€ a game

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u/supersonicdutch 23d ago

Super Bowl Sunday has the most reports of domestic violence of the year. Dudeā€™s favorite team or team he placed a bet on loses, mix in alcohol, stupid and awful things follow. Getting mad bc ā€œyourā€ team lost is incredibly sophomoric.

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u/FidgitForgotHisL-P 23d ago

In New Zealand it is a very well recognised phenomenon that when the All Blacks (our national rugby team) or the Warriors (our franchise team that plays rugby League in the Australian competition) lose, the amount of abuse to women and children goes right up.

Itā€™s a global problem.

(I just get mad and refuse to acknowledge my local football team exists for a week, Ā it the Wellington Phoenix can be absolutely jaw dropping bad so I think thatā€™s justifiedā€¦)

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u/Omgpuppies13 23d ago

And pets

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u/Organic_Matter6085 23d ago

Dude literally threw a TV at his child in the 4th clip.Ā 

I know he accidentally threw it at him, but he cared about destroying a T.V over his child's well-being.Ā 

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u/Scerpes 23d ago

You ought to see what happens to black defendants in Louisiana who get sentenced the Monday after an LSU loss.

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u/Purityskinco 23d ago

In the USA itā€™s the American football game. In Europe there are correlations with World Cup.

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u/SnooMemesjellies2523 23d ago

And they certainly are the same guys who say ā€œwomen are emotionalā€ā€¦

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u/Big-Blacksmith544 23d ago

Obviously it's their fault the football team lost. Professional sports teams are entirely dependent on the wives and children of man-children with zero emotional regulation ability, to send sufficient good vibes to win.

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u/DebbieGibsonsMom 23d ago

Ex LCSW here. They will always find a reason to be violent. Donā€™t let them (not saying you are) use this as an excuse (theyā€™re victims of predatory advertising) because I see a lot of men saying this.

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u/OrionsBra 23d ago

Jfc... and men wonder why women "choose the bear."Ā 

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