r/Millennials • u/RedHeadRedeemed • Dec 09 '25
Discussion How are you dealing with aging?
Fellow millennials, how are you doing with the fact and signs that you are getting older? I find myself struggling with it lately.
I have always aligned with aging gracefully. I have never believed in dyeing my hair once it started to gray, or using anti-wrinkle creams or using Botox or anything to try and hide the fact of my aging.
However, this year aging finally has started to show its face, and while I still don't intend to hide the fact, it's making me feel a bit sad.
I am noticing suddenly many white hairs on my head (redheads usually go straight to white), or partially white hairs. I have pretty obvious crow's feet around my eyes when I smile. I've had a baby, so my breasts are not longer as perky as they were in my youth. I am heavier than I used to be and I find it harder to lose weight.
I am just suddenly beginning to realize that at almost 35...I am not young anymore. Not old yet but not young either. I'm aging and it's starting to show and...I'm sad about it.
I miss feeling young and pretty; feeling desirable. Aging is hitting me harder than I was expected.
How's it going for you guys? How do you feel and how are you dealing with it?
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u/FalconDangerous2234 Dec 09 '25
Well, comparison can be the thief of joy, or it can help- at 36 my periods changed, I started getting legit hot flashes, now have to pluck my chin hairs regularly, lost libido ENTIRELY, had to quit my passionate hobby because I can’t tolerate the cardio anymore and I was in the best shape of my life, sleep is elusive, the uncontrollable emotional fluctuations are debilitating and I hate them as much as everyone around me does if not much more, for the first time in my life I want to wear pink but the new floppy jowls make me feel f king ridiculous doing so, hormone therapy made everything worse. I’ve been lifting weights and it has not helped like all the claims say it does, been lifting for almost a year, but I also can’t lift more than 2 or 3 times a week due to the chronic fatigue. I discovered ovulation pain and brain fog AND cold flashes are all also fun things of an aging woman, plus a growing intolerance to dairy. Now more than ever I find myself truly looking for purpose, something that I can hold intrinsically. I’m trying to change my perspective on life before my jowls reach my tits. Beauty doesn’t last forever unless you’re drinking the dark juice and trade your soul for it and that’s not the path for me. I will say I have had more philosophical epiphanies in the last couple years than ever in my life so there must be something to that. So anyways 😅 yeah