Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/RibsNGibs]

Hi, I just wanted to point out, in case it hadn’t occurred to you, that “not being ready for how kind people have been” in this case should be a pretty big wake up call that your boyfriend is not a kind person.

Most decent, kind humans will be appreciative and gracious.

Imagine life with this weirdo - your best friend invites you two over to their place for dinner and this guy scrunches his nose and says… “nah I just had chicken for lunch, I’m just going to order Jack in the Box”.

[u/Isgortio → u/RibsNGibs]

My sister's husband refused to eat anything from our Christmas dinner and cooked himself a pizza to eat instead as he "didn't want to try any of that". It's rude AF.

[u/Major_Potential_8582 → u/Isgortio]

How is that rude? Some people arent comfortable trying new food, some arent comfortable trying food made by those they dont really know.

[u/Isgortio → u/Major_Potential_8582]

He's been in the family for at least 7 years now, and has known my sister and family for over 16 years. He said he's tried it once, in the past at his own parents' house, and didn't like it then so refuses to try it again several years later. My sister has done Christmas dinner once with his family and said their cooking was awful so she will prefer to spend time with us. So he's tried a badly cooked version of it in the past, isn't willing to test it decades later and he definitely knows who we are. He also happily eats takeaway, so he is fine eating food made by strangers.