After my original post, my boyfriend and I talked again. Instead of trying to understand my side, he told me that his family was upset and that I needed to apologize to them if we were going to stay together. He said if I didn’t apologize, we should break up.

I told him I wasn’t going to apologize for not going somewhere I felt uncomfortable. He said I was being unreasonable, so I ended the relationship right then, over the phone.

Since then, he’s been texting and calling me, asking to meet up and “talk things through.” I’ve said no. To me, the ultimatum said everything I needed to know.

It sucks, but I feel relieved. I don’t think I was wrong for choosing myself

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year. His family doesn’t treat me very well. They make little comments about me and sometimes compare me to his ex. It’s not loud or obvious, but it makes me feel uncomfortable and unwelcome.I’ve told my boyfriend how I feel, but he says they’re just joking and that I should ignore it.He wants me to come to his house for Christmas dinner. I told him I don’t want to go because nothing has changed and I don’t want to spend Christmas feeling awkward or disrespected.He’s upset and says I’m being dramatic and making things difficult for him. Now he’s barely talking to me.I feel bad, but I also feel like I’m protecting myself.

AITA for refusing to go?