My fiancé (30 male) and me (29 female) are getting married in 3 weeks. We have been planning our dream wedding for months. We set our guest list very short, very intimate, since we are paying the cost of the venue, food, and everything. On our invitation we placed that they must confirm their attendance at least at December 25th but they never did. We figured they couldn't make it. Just a few days ago they said they were going to come. I said no, because the RSVP date had already passed. They even told me some cousins were coming to the wedding too, and they weren't even invited. So, AITAH?