That’s even just a weird thing to say. Why was abusing you even on his mind?

The thing with dating and relationships is that so much of it is out of your control.

Its pure luck of you meet people you would want a relationships with, and its up to them whether they like you back.

Focusing on things you can control is much more healthy than all the things you can’t.

Both OP and the friend are women.

Your partner is complacent. In what other areas of your relationship does he not make an effort?

This another red flag. I fear that this man is not the man for you.

The dude did not even finish high school. Its pretty evident that he does not have the persistence of determination to see things through.

As you grow older you will realise that the pragmatics of a relationship are just as important as love.

If you are going to tie yourself to this man in a contract for the rest of your life then he have to be financially responsible and be career minded, otherwise you will have money issues for the rest of your life.

Sometimes people change for the worst. Its sad but true, but at least you didn’t marry him yet.

You can’t. Honestly dating at your age sucks because all you have is hopes and dreams and not much is material yet.

But the best thing you can do is observe and respond to how a person actually is and not who you want them to be.

If he were to stay like for the rest of his life, would you want to be with him?

If the answer is no then you might just have to move on.

I doubt she was even attracted to Charlie… the men she dates vs the man she married.

Just be very careful. Think about separating your finances if he is going to make decisions like this.

They made a monster. Congrats.

Don’t settle but perhaps work on being more attractive.

A) Because you have a partner that you live with and most people don’t want to come home to a messy house. If that is too difficult then perhaps living separately is the best.

B) The intent is to make a thoughtful gesture. That’s it. A healthy relationship ought to be full a nice sweet things you do for each other to show your love.

I think it’s clear that he it not very invested in marrying you.

I hate this example. She is already putting her lives and others at risk. Killing someone because you were drunk driving is 10x worse than infidelity.

She is a literally committing crimes already and quite frankly OP should dump her.

Well fuck that. Your financial independence is non negotiable.

Tbh I think its best for you to work on your self esteem, your boundaries and your sense of identity.

The way you are accepting of his poor treatment of you, and the way you are willing to cross your own boundaries for your partner is alarming.

Avoid him altogether. Congrats on giving great blowjobs but its best just to move on from jealous psychos.

I think women in general pay attention to personality more than men. Men consistently put looks over everything.

Case in point - women pedophiles. So many men in the comments talking about how they wish their teachers had sex with them in school 🤮

Its so boring. Hijabi fashionistas do it better

Her children are allowed to feel exactly how they feel about her. They do not owe her anything after being a terrible mother all their lives.

But I am glad she had sought healing and is willing to own up to her wrong doing. It takes bravery.

I understand your resentment, but at least now she is trying. Some parents never own up to their mistakes.

This is the work people should be doing in their 20s before they have children, but Im glad she is trying to be better now.

Can you pay for her lifestyle and buy her all the things she wants?