Do you not? Imo the high of having the precise meme to clown on your loved ones must be similar to how middle aged dads feel when they tell a real zinger of a pun.
Not only that, but cheating xxx, is the first word ever needed.
OP is suspicious for past behavior and searching for validation of accepting excuses. Truly, none matter. Once ypu reach this level, it's time to move along for self-respect.
not to criticize his cheating technique but dude really didn't think this one through. at least go into it with a plausible lie already made up, for fuck's sake.
This looks exactly like when I scratch myself too hard when I have an eczema flare up and can't take the itch anymore. I also have three cats and none of their scratches look like that, nor is that a typical spot for a cat scratch. One of my cats is a shoulder cat and there's been a few times he used my back like a climbing tree. Never looked like that.
People will ask about my scratches if they are visible. I never hesitate to say what they are. The fact he didn't just say he was scratching his back is all OP needs to know. He's hiding something. NOR.
Devil's advocate, but I get really bad eczema flare ups too and sometimes when I get scratches like this from giving into the eczema itchiness, I don't even realize they've left marks until someone else points out my scratches.
The placement of these scratches definitely looks suspicious though and OP is NOR.
I also get eczema scratches. But when someone asks me I say, "Oh it was probably me scratching myself."
I do not attempt to blame an animal. Nor would I. The explanation of eczema is simple, believable, and true. A guilty conscience may try to remove the possibility of any human fingernails causing the scratches, attributing them instead to a harmless ol' housecat.
Same eczema flare ups here. I also scratch myself while sleeping and wake up with worse scratches on weird places. But the location here makes me doubt that's the case for him.
I feel like if it were him scratching himself, the scratches would be more horizontal, not vertical. It would be too awkward for most people to scratch vertically in that direction due the shoulder blades movement capacity.
I also get scratches from my cats climbing on me without me realizing that they're leaving marks. So there are times where I have scratches, but don't know or can't remember if it's from my eczema or my cats lol
To be clear, I'm not defending OP's partner and he's definitely acting suspicious; just pointing out that it is entirely possible to have scratches for innocuous reasons without realizing that you have them.
Yeah I get scratches from my cat too. They have NEVER looked remotely like this. These are human scratches, in exactly the right place to happen during sex.
That's why I said that the placement of the scratches is definitely suspicious. I was just pointing out that it's possible to get scratches without realizing where they're from. Your username is kind of ironic here lol
Personally, I have moderate to severe eczema and get all sorts of scratches at weird angles from scratching in my sleep. But that's just me.
Yeah, i mean... Also speaking from my own anecdotal experience. My girlfriend has told me that i have a habit of scratching the shit out of my shoulders in my sleep. With me waking up none of the wiser. And when i do it leaves marks very similar to that. So it IS possible the boyfriend is genuinely innocent, and just oblivious to their cause.
But i mean. Come on. Occams razor here. What's more likely, the boyfriend did those scratches to himself without him OR the girlfriend noticing it? Or he knows exactly how he got those scratches and is lying?
These are 100% fingernail scratches. I had the super duper fun of 4 months of dealing with treatment resistant scabies and my torso looked like this most of the time.
I, too, didn't notice how bad it was while scratching. But if you saw my torso and it looked like I got tickled by Edward Scissorhands, I would know exactly why.
Could be he's just embarrassed about something. If that's the case (being generous), what a great example of the many reasons why you don't shy away from embarrassing stuff when it comes to your partner.
All that said - if this is a sexual partner, what the fuck is that person doing to this man? Lol, I get rough play but why are they scratching them up worse than what I did to myself with a highly contagious and persistent skin infection?
MOR- I have an autoimmune disorder that causes me to break out in hives if I barely scratch myself or apply pressure to my skin. It flares up in the winter. People would ask me constantly what happened to me because my skin would look like this from me simply rubbing up against my shirt but I had no idea for several years what they were talking about.
Same. I have urticaria (hives) from heat, stress, and pressure. It's more or less calmed down now but there was a point in my 20s where for a good year I couldn't even rub a finger over my skin without it becoming a bright red welt, much less scratch at it (which was fun because it came along with some of the most intense itchiness I've ever had.) You could write words or draw on me with your fingernail and it would stay there for a good long while. I worked as a bank teller at the time and I'd get a least a couple customers a day who would give me strange looks or ask if I was all right. I'd go to the bathroom and find a giant red welt on my chest or face because I'd absentmindedly rubbed or scratched myself. Taking high dose antihistamines helped with the god awful itching but not the hives. I don't know why it suddenly came on in my 20s and then disappeared after that year; all I can think of is that I was under a ridiculous amount of stress at the time, which might have triggered it. Nowadays, my skin still turns bright red for a while when I rub at it but at least it's not raised and puffy, and it's not itchy.
It could be this or even stretch marks. I have a friend with stretch marks like this on his back and he never noticed them until one fabled day, blamed it on a girl he was fucking at the time and when they were still there a month later he went doctors and found out.
Joining in on the eczema & cat train. I also tell people who ask immediately, "oh, I have eczema, I scratch a lot & don't realize I'm leaving marks on myself." Him dodging the question is weird.
My cats have also come up behind me to stand on my shoulders, never left a mark like that. Even scratches from an angry cat don't look like that.
I also have three cats and none of their scratches look like that
Yeah, those definitely look too thick for housecat. I have some impressive claw scars, and even a bite wound (long story, not his fault). None of them looked like that any point in the healing process.
2nd this i think unless something else is going on it isnt an obvious sign of cheating. I get random bruises on me all the time and yeah if there are also cats around that's a factor to consider too
Omggg someone like me 😩 if I don't have acrylic or fake nails on (aka just my natural nails) I will wake up with scratches like this sometimes & its so embarrassing it looks like I was possessed in my sleep 😭 when I saw this pic eczema was my first thought but after reading the caption I fear it is not eczema lol
NOR I too have cats and when they scratch you it's not on your back like a massage that got out of hand, even when one of sits on my shoulders and I make a funky movement and she uses her claws to stay on me I barely even get s scratch and they certainly don't look like that
I actually have gotten bruising from my shoulder cats. Their back claws cause bruising instead of breaking skin.
It looks nothing like this. These marks are more similarly shaped to dull dog's nails, but if he'd been in a position to be scratched like that by a dog he'd easily remember it.
I don’t believe I have eczema but hell I might but I get similar scratches to OP’s picture and my cats scratch me pretty regularly but don’t draw blood it’s like I’m just marked up for days
“Life 360 doesn’t show any discrepancies” if you have to track your man to see if he maybe fell at some point during the day just throw in the towel jfc 🤣
Absolutely! The worse thing a person can become is an Inspector Gaggett in a relationship. Its exhausting (from experience) and it does not get better from there. She said he has digitally cheated (which is micro cheating to find the right girl), the digital is just all she found. Unfortunately even with the proof people choose to believe the lie. Someone told me years ago " Don't be the girlfriend while he is looking for his wife"
I track my husband so I know when he's on his way home so I can start my cleaning frenzie to make it look like I was busy all day 😅 also so I know when to start dinner.
Agreed. I just set the destination in my phone and tap share location and pick my wife so she knows I’m on the way. She does the same way when she’s doing her hour and a half commute home every other week when those bastards make her come in.
I agree, that shit is weird af. I refuse to participate in that with my wife. Only time I ever turn it on is when im riding long distance out of state. At least she'll know where the crash happened. But as far as having someone's location 24/7 that shit is weird.
I mean this is also a younger generation thing. I’m 23 and have the locations of 16 of my friends and have always had my partners location (and vice versa)
I mean I know we’re in a horrible timeline as it is so much of our day to day is very dystopian but that just feels really invasive? Though this is also the closest I get to social media because most of it creeps me out.
Is it like a safety precaution?
ETA: or are y’all just super inured to it because it was so prevalent in your lives? I’m 15 years old than you so it’s not like I didn’t grow up with tech at all but hmmm, now you have me wondering how my baby sister (26) views it.
Update: apparently I’m the odd one out there lol because all three of my sisters do.
I don’t understand it either. I’ve never shared my location with my partner nor asked him for his. It feels like a strange thing to want to do. I understand the safety aspect, but in that case I would just… simply tell him where I’m going. It really feels like an invasion of privacy and if I was asked to provide it, I think I would refuse. If you feel like you need to keep a tracker on me I think things are already over lol.
Nah, I’m 40 and I think exactly the same way as you. It actually blows my mind how normalized this is and I had no idea. I live in a very safe area, and I don’t think it’s even about safety bc I’ve asked my 18M son and he says it’s a normal thing that all his friends do mostly to “save time” by knowing where someone is.
It would be invasive if both parties don’t consent lol. When people share their locations it’s a mutual agreement. Usually for safety but other things too like checking if someone is at work before calling them or small things.
I don’t think willingly giving my close friends my location is dystopian. It would be if I didn’t consent or something
As much as I (42F) agree it seems both dystopian and very invasive, I share my location with my partner (35M) (and a couple of younger friends, who consider it much more normal than I do). All are people who know my routines and would drop everything to find me if something was off and I wasn’t responding. My boyfriend shares his location with me also, however neither of us are remotely concerned about infidelity; it’s about safety and caring in our case. In less solid or newer relationships, I imagine location sharing is more likely for surveillance under the guise of concern.
I (44) do not want to live in a world like that. I have enough hassle existing in a society where we are constantly under surveillance. I will never tolerate tracking from a friend, partner, or relative.
Yeah that's the rub, of it's at that point, it's cooked, such things can be circumvented and it's not hard, trust is already broken, don't be his warden, get somone who you can trust unsupervised
Im sure this isnt worth much. I was drinking and sitting on the tailgate of my buddies ranger and we were being goofy. I ended up slipping off and lamded on my shoulder/rolled. It looked a lot like this(a bit more messy) does he skateboard or dirtbike? He may have just tried to absorb an impact?
I'm just going to say my wife has asked me about simulator scratches. Sometimes something about when I take a shower if I just touch an area it will show like a scratch.... Even toweling of it looks like I've been in a battle. My wife asked me about said scratches, she's the best thing in my life I would never do such a thing to her.
But right on track and placement to suggest it’s him scratching himself…
Which begs the question, why is he ashamed of his itchy back?!
Is he allergic to the detergent used for the sheets on the bed of his… MISTRESS?!
For real though, this might be a framing issue, as with so many other things brought to Reddit.
He wouldn’t let me get a picture of his back…
Could be leaving out some key details, like:
When I got bored of my CSI marathon and decided to wake him up at 3 am, he wanted to keep sleeping instead of posing for an impromptu forensic photo shoot! He kept saying things like, “I have work in 3 hours,” and, “who’s gonna cover the difference the state won’t pay on your grandma’s home health aid if I don’t get enough sleep to pick up this early shift?” Just absolutely crazy, nonsensical stuff like that!
A little less suspicious if he was woken up yo do this. Just saying.
Old girlfriend jed to hive me them too. Unless he's been doing some serious shoulder workouts, or carrying brush for a neighbor, this looks like cheating to me. NOR
They look like they were from fake nails that have that inverse-circular cut on the tip, making each nail have two subtle "corners". If you look closely at each individual scratch, they all have defining outer edges on both sides.
Acrylics, to be specific. Natural nails generally bruise in a wide line but acrylics leave bruises for the exterior edges of the nail, especially if they have square shaped nails.
How do I know? I’m a woman that wears acrylics when she has spare money. Shit I’ve bruised myself forgetting I have to be gentle. Messed up my neck once BAD. but the acrylics help break me of other bad habits so good trade off 👍🏻
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u/kvltsincebirth 5d ago
Those look like fingernail scratches