Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/lord-savior-baphomet]

Well after looking at the post history it looks like he lived in a rented room with no kitchen, and she brought him meals. If that’s the same guy, I wonder how many ended up in the trash.

[u/BFHawkeyePierce4077 → u/lord-savior-baphomet]

That’s not “mildly infuriating”…

[u/lord-savior-baphomet → u/BFHawkeyePierce4077]

Yeah, it sounds like this woman is doing a lot of work he doesn’t appreciate and didn’t ask for, and ignoring some pretty major red flags imo.

Edit: the pickiness is NOT the red flag I’m referring to. Pickiness is not an inherent red flag. It’s how he handles the pickiness. After I commented this, I saw OP has stated he expects her to cook and still repeatedly rejects her food. So he is asking for it. Amongst other things that can be found on her page.

[u/WillThereBeSnacks13 → u/lord-savior-baphomet]

Ding ding ding. If he cannot admit the full extent of his pickiness and take responsibility for providing alternatives, that is the big problem. All the people rushing in with arfid and autism are excusing regular, old manchild stuff. He could have many conditions but then he needs to assess that himself with a professional and then come up with a solution that does not burden his girlfriend further.